Can my year 11 DS drop a subject?

samwich1979

madjay wrote: »

I disagree, your child should not drop the subject, it justteaches your DS that if any thing is to hard just walk away from it. What happenif he gets stressed over maths would you want his to drop that too. All youwill be teaching you child is how to give up. You would be better try to findout part of the subject he has a problemwith and helping him to sort it out and teaching him how not to stressed overthings. When my DD stresses out over some subject saying she can not do it so Ijust sit down and help her work it all out. You child needs to learn that inlife there is thing we all struggle with but you just can’t walk away from youjust have to deal with it.

I agree with the concept but in reality if a subject that may not directly help you in the future may jeopardize a good grade in Maths English or Science, to me its not worth a child worrying themselves stupid about.

I was so traumatised by the fact i really couldnt get my head round Maths but knew it was absolutely necessary for my future to get a decent grade that giving up Spanish was a no brainer.

I wasnt just giving up because it was too hard, i just had more important subjects that i NEEDED to spend time on.

emsywoo123

scooby088 wrote: »

I was really flagging in my gcse's about 20 years ago and the teacher hadn't entered me into the exam, only reason they gave was that I hadn't done the study which had nothing to do with the final grade anyway.

20 yeas ago? I always thought you were about 21........... :eek::D

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meritaten wrote: »

I shouldnt really say this - but I will anyway! tell him to pull a sicky on the day of the exam! or to turn up and just write any old rubbish! not to worry about it and concentrate on the rest! but dont breathe a word of his plan to be 'ill'! He may be 'required' to take one language (I am not sure of whether this would apply to your area - sounds like it does, as you say that you have previously been told he cannot drop it).
his health and mental health is far more important than an exam which will just be an 'extra' on his CV.

Terrible attitude. We all have to do things which we dont fancy. Thats how we get on in life.

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SnowWhiterThanWhite wrote: »

He is not at all academic and will not be going to uni

How old is he? Already you've written him off for that possibility?

Also, it never ceases to amazd me when people say - I could never go to university I'm not clever enough.

Pretty much anyone can go to University IF THEY WANT TO. Might be harder for some than others to cope buts its all about belief in yourself and working hard.

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BTW. I did German O Level when I was in school. I was the same as your son - didn't have a clue. Bad idea to do German it turned out.

I failed - got a U. But I turned up and tried. Parents would never have let me drop it regardless.

Passed my other 9 O Levels, then went on to do 3 A Levels, then a Bsc (Hons).

My point - stick with it and dont give up regardless. If it doesnt work out so what, but dont start down the path of taking the easy option.

lindseykim13

Your child doesn't NEED GCSE's to get by in life, he doesn't NEED to do subjects he doesn't like or find interesting.
All these people stating you have to do crap things in life because thats life are just wrong. It's not right as a child to learn subjects that make you cry same as it's not right as an adult to be in a job that makes you cry!
Why do some people think it's perfectly ok to make a child do something they have no interest in!
The school will tell your child what they should and shouldn't be learning as per their daft rules set by a daft government.
Plently of kids get on perfectly fine in life without a single exam.
My 3 kids oldest being 10 are all home schooled and they won't be taking any exams they don't want to take. They have their own minds and interests and shouldn't all be put through the same system like sheep.
I know plenty of kids that have not a single exam and gone on to college and uni and took subjects they wanted to take.
Just giving you another choice-anyone can decide to remove their child from school and teach them at home if they so wish. You son doesn't have to go to school and do rubbish subjects.
They could allow him to go home for that lesson if they wanted to as they are allowed to offer flexi schooling to those who want to part time home school so you could ask about flexi schooling and say you want to teach him on those days and times when the lessons are and do something he enjoys.

madjay

lindseykim13 wrote: »

Your child doesn't NEED GCSE's to get by in life, he doesn't NEED to do subjects he doesn't like or find interesting.
All these people stating you have to do crap things in life because thats life are just wrong. It's not right as a child to learn subjects that make you cry same as it's not right as an adult to be in a job that makes you cry!
Why do some people think it's perfectly ok to make a child do something they have no interest in!
The school will tell your child what they should and shouldn't be learning as per their daft rules set by a daft government.
Plently of kids get on perfectly fine in life without a single exam.
My 3 kids oldest being 10 are all home schooled and they won't be taking any exams they don't want to take. They have their own minds and interests and shouldn't all be put through the same system like sheep.
I know plenty of kids that have not a single exam and gone on to college and uni and took subjects they wanted to take.
Just giving you another choice-anyone can decide to remove their child from school and teach them at home if they so wish. You son doesn't have to go to school and do rubbish subjects.
They could allow him to go home for that lesson if they wanted to as they are allowed to offer flexi schooling to those who want to part time home school so you could ask about flexi schooling and say you want to teach him on those days and times when the lessons are and do something he enjoys.

My children have their own minds and interests and are told to question any thing they disagree with so are not sheep and do not follow any one. They taught you have to work at everything in life its not handed to you and just do not give up any thing at the first step. I do not put pressure them to do well I help them to learn to stand on their own two feet. I know went my kids start to stess over work loads and contact the school when I feel its to much. But sorry you do need to pass exams if want a job

scooby088

emsywoo123 wrote: »

20 yeas ago? I always thought you were about 21........... :eek::D

:rotfl: I wish I was

Dunroamin

lindseykim13 wrote: »

Your child doesn't NEED GCSE's to get by in life, he doesn't NEED to do subjects he doesn't like or find interesting.
All these people stating you have to do crap things in life because thats life are just wrong. It's not right as a child to learn subjects that make you cry same as it's not right as an adult to be in a job that makes you cry!
Why do some people think it's perfectly ok to make a child do something they have no interest in!
The school will tell your child what they should and shouldn't be learning as per their daft rules set by a daft government.
Plently of kids get on perfectly fine in life without a single exam.
My 3 kids oldest being 10 are all home schooled and they won't be taking any exams they don't want to take. They have their own minds and interests and shouldn't all be put through the same system like sheep.
I know plenty of kids that have not a single exam and gone on to college and uni and took subjects they wanted to take.
Just giving you another choice-anyone can decide to remove their child from school and teach them at home if they so wish. You son doesn't have to go to school and do rubbish subjects.
They could allow him to go home for that lesson if they wanted to as they are allowed to offer flexi schooling to those who want to part time home school so you could ask about flexi schooling and say you want to teach him on those days and times when the lessons are and do something he enjoys.

What a totally irresponsible attitude and what a bad advertisement for home schooling.

podperson

madjay wrote: »

I disagree, your child should not drop the subject, it justteaches your DS that if any thing is to hard just walk away from it. What happenif he gets stressed over maths would you want his to drop that too. All youwill be teaching you child is how to give up. You would be better try to findout part of the subject he has a problemwith and helping him to sort it out and teaching him how not to stressed overthings. When my DD stresses out over some subject saying she can not do it so Ijust sit down and help her work it all out. You child needs to learn that inlife there is thing we all struggle with but you just can’t walk away from youjust have to deal with it.

Surely they should also learn in life though that you can't be good at everything and that you need to prioritise things in order of importance? The important thing here being for the OP's child to get decent grades in subjects like Maths and English that he will carry forward in life and that future employers will look at first on his cv. While a language might seem useful it's a small percentage of people that will actually use it when they leave school - especially as the OP says her child isn't very academic and is looking at following other routes.
I know that many times I've hung on with things way longer then I should have done because of the kind of mentality that 'you're a failure if you give up on something' - when tbh something you're just looking at the bigger picture and accepting that something isn't right for you.