Why would you do this?

cheepskate_2

It must be really difficult for a child, especially a teenager , to only know half of yourself.
I think most of us take this for granted,

I have not read your other posts, but it seems a very brave thing for a mother to do, baring in mind it is her that has to deal with the fall-out or consequences.

**Patty**

Just me that's suspicious & wonders what she's fishing for then?

Person_one

**Patty** wrote: »

Just me that's suspicious & wonders what she's fishing for then?

Not familiar with this poster's work, are you?;)

DUTR

Thanks for all your replies and views folks.

I have had a reply which summarises that

a) there is no motive!
b) I have been on the senders thoughts for a few months
c) sender is not well at present
d) the meeting will be after xmas

whitewing

Long term unwell, or winter bug?

Sounds like she wants to know that your child can count on you being there for the child in the future.

Tropez

Ah, the sender is unwell. Makes sense.

I was thinking perhaps something had reminded PWC of mortality, life being short etc. and they have taken stock of their life, thought about decisions, maybe even experienced some dreams that have led them to a realisation about mistakes they have made, things they should have done, things they want to put right etc.

I suppose you could call it an epiphany or a moment of clarity but there are times I think when we all look back and wish we had done something differently or could fix something. Many of us ponder over it and conclude we cannot do this, so do nothing. Others, no matter how unlikely reach back and try to put the clock back somehow, particularly if there is a catalyst of sorts - such as being unwell, or a loved one being unwell/dying etc.

DUTR

whitewing wrote: »

Long term unwell, or winter bug?

Sounds like she wants to know that your child can count on you being there for the child in the future.

Tropez wrote: »

Ah, the sender is unwell. Makes sense.

I was thinking perhaps something had reminded PWC of mortality, life being short etc. and they have taken stock of their life, thought about decisions, maybe even experienced some dreams that have led them to a realisation about mistakes they have made, things they should have done, things they want to put right etc.

I suppose you could call it an epiphany or a moment of clarity but there are times I think when we all look back and wish we had done something differently or could fix something. Many of us ponder over it and conclude we cannot do this, so do nothing. Others, no matter how unlikely reach back and try to put the clock back somehow, particularly if there is a catalyst of sorts - such as being unwell, or a loved one being unwell/dying etc.

Ok, I didn't want to put the exact reply but here goes

"Hi, thanks for the reply, Motive don't think I've got one! For some unknown reason you have been in my thoughts for the last few months sending the message was a very big descision for me to do! Yes I would like to meet up I'm not well at the moment so after xmas have a good one and a happy new year PWC.

So perhaps it's the winter bug that lots (including me) seem to have and not shake off

whitewing

I think it sounds sentimental and it probably is to do with the child getting to know you better, but mum being a mum.

Sensemaya

DUTR wrote: »

I have to undergo an operation next year and who knows I may not make it back from the theatre

I'm truly sorry to hear this and wish you all the best.

Is this the thread you were referring too in the other post? if it is I was having 'one of my moments' and have just read all this.

I'm glad to hear you are both meeting up and hope you have a relationship with your son/daughter.

For a number of years my eldest did not have any contact with his father...nothing to do with me...then we started 'talking' again, set up a private agreement ( you might have read this in one of my posts) but,sadly,in my son's case his father didn't take much of an interest in him. Indeed we haven't heard from him at all over the Xmas period...no card, no nothing. Very sad.

DUTR

shegirl wrote: »

Text or email isn't the ideal way,no. However, due to the length of time it won't have been any easy thing to do and would be less of a shock than a phonecall or letter.

The child being a teen and old enough to travel on their own is nothing to do with it really. They may be old enough to want to choose contact themselves aswell. But, it may be the mother wants to test the water and check your interest in the child and whether it will cause too much discomfort the the child.

Maybe, she just wants to talk to you before anything. Maybe she thinks you should both make an effort so if contact were to happen it goes right? Maybe there are issues from the past she wants to clear up for the benefit of your child.

If none of the above she's just decided you're absolutely amazing and misses you :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Well Shegirl, you win 1st prize, seems it was all the above :eek: