Christmas Present Dilemma

jellyhead

quantumleap wrote: »

What! What do you mean Santa isn't real!

Sorry, I meant does all this discussion about how much money they are getting and being able to decide rather than requesting something and hoping they get it mean the 7 year old is wondering what Santa's role is in all of this?

Of course he is real, sorry I upset you

jellyhead

notanewuser wrote: »

My daughter is 2 and we don't intend to ever tell her that Santa is real!

Whole new thread My 3 year old came home from nursery with tales about Santa that his teachers had told him, so they were definitely fact. They fall in love with Rudolph along with the baby Jesus whether you intend to tell them about it or not. So if you're not planning to home-school that's something to bear in mind. At 3 I didn't feel I could tell him it was what people 'believe' but we don't. He'd have argued with the teacher about it

ETA: sorry, he was 4. He didn't go to nursery until he was 4, due to special needs.

LannieDuck

Aww, I feel sorry for DS2 wanting a TV in his room, and then DS1 gets one. Luckily we're years away from this kind of dilemma.

I would suggest to DS1 that he asks for £150 to put towards his piano, and asks for gifts with the remaining £100 so he has something to open and play with at xmas. There's loads of cool stuff he could have for £100 - maybe some new games for his console?

newcook

Is it going to end up with tantrums if they both get a console if DS2 doesn’t have a tv in his room?:
DS2: I really want to play my game
You: maybe later, corrie’s on at the moment/when DS3 is in bed etc.
DS1: Im off to go and play on MINE in MY room
DS2: can I play please?
DS1: no its mine and you cant touch it or be in my room
DS2: mooOoooOoooom


You have said yourself that DS1 has always had the an item before DS2 – something they will both be aware of. Is DS1 now saying he wants the console because he actually does want it or just so he can say he go his first again?!

I would give DS1 half the money and buy him something different with the rest so he too has something to unwrap and play with xmas day – if he still really wants one he can always use his xmas money to get one.

z.n

Does the eldest really need a Wii U and an x-box and an electric piano? I would go for the electric piano-maybe look for a decent one (background beats etc) but put in in a common part of the house so everyone can enjoy it-with eldest getting priority rights.No need to get the top of the range until it is clear it will be money well spent. Be realistic though- playing an electric piano is nothing like a computer game and may prove hard work unless he really is keen. But then if he is keen it will be much deeper fun than any computer game.

ska_lover

To be honest, If I had known ten years ago, what I know know, I would never have allowed a single games console in my house

Person_one

ska_lover wrote: »

To be honest, If I had known ten years ago, what I know know, I would never have allowed a single games console in my house

Yikes, what do you know now? They're not secretly transformers or gremlins or something are they?

*looking nervously at the Xbox in the corner....:cool:*

emsywoo123

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

I encouraged him to share, we had many conversations about it, but he stood firm and would not let his brothers play on it.

I find that really really sad

arbroath_lass

I don't understand what the importance of having something first is. It's what happens when you have siblings. Surely in the two years between them something has been updated so middle child has something the oldest doesn't. What about the youngest - shouldn't he have something first too?

If they both want it, they both want it and, if it is an acceptable gift to you, then I think you should get them both the Wii-u.

arbroath_lass

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I find that really really sad

My younger brother did not look after anything. I would have hated having to share anything precious with him.

Once we were older we did put our money together to buy a computer (a Vic 20 :rotfl:) which we managed to share by leaving it in the living room. I still would not liked to have loaned him anything of mine.

I don't think I have any issues sharing now. It is just sibling behaviour.