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MKS

marrbett wrote: »

Lol, I was only joking, that's great. I must try harder!!

I know that but I do have a dry sense of humour.:rotfl::rotfl:

FloFlo

rose28454 wrote: »

I had a good day shopping and it all went downhill as soon as I got home to my Mum's As some of you know I care for Mum and am finding it very hard. However was looking forward to 2 or 3 weeks off. My Aunt came to stay last week for a few weeks as she often does and also because she has had to give up her flat suddenly and is waiting to get another one. When she comes she takes over and it gives me some respite. Anyway my sis came yesterday aswell to stay at Mum's but she has a broken ankle so is not very mobile. But my Aunt is happy to look after them both. She suggested they have Xmas dinner at Mums as she reasoned it would be better for Mum to be at home due to her limited mobility and as it would be less stressfull for her. Mum agreed to this and my Aunt spent all day decorating the house for Xmas and cooked a lovely t for them. I popped in to try and get my Aunt on the net and while I was there my sister kicked off about Xmas day and said they had to go to my brothers instead. Now he does not give a stuff about my Mum or sister for that matter and just uses them when he needs money. Anyway she was really rude to my Aunt and Mum said nothing. I tried to calm it down to no avail and it ended up with my Aunt saying she is leaving tommorow to go back to Swindon where she was living to spend Xmas with another relative. I tried to persuade her otherwise and she came outside to talk to me and was crying as she has been having a tough time lately.
So she is leaving and thats my Xmas and brief break ruined. What do I do ? I am nearing breaking point as it is with all the stress and was looking forward to just planning Xmas for my own family and having a bit of piece. I have been crying for 30 minutes now.

So sorry for you Rose, I know you can't but it must be tempting to just leave your sister to look after your mum and do your thing for a few days at least.

It is an awful time of year when there are family problems.

You aren't on your own though, things get us all down more at this time of year, I am struggling to face my first Xmas without my mum and then my brother was admitted to hospital with pneumonia the beginning of this week but thankfully is improving. But as one thing gets better another seems to come crumbling down my MIL lost FIL in June and has now been told her cancer surgery a few years ago has cost her the sight in one eye and affecting the sight in her other. I don't know how she is keeping it together - I want to say come and live with us but I don't know if I'd cope, which makes me feel guilty.

You can only do your best hun, and then only if you are taking care of yourself. Wishing you well. xxxxxxxx

Mrs_stinkface

I'm 1st in the quiz :j:j no one else play please

rose28454

marrbett wrote: »

So sorry to hear this Rose. You need some help, don't you?
Do you have any other family you could call on?Are you part of a church-if you are, could they help at all?

My sister lives about 30 mins away so I am going to ask her to take up some of the slack. Mum has been having a carer come in every morning to wash and dress her and she insisted I cancel them for 3 weeks while Aunt and sister were there. They came today for last time for 3 weeks. When I told Mum I would rebook them after I realised my Aunt was leaving my Mum started screaming at me that I was not to rebook them. So what do I do? I am inclined to just leave them to it. No I rarely fo to church so cant call on them

lookinforabargain

FloFlo wrote: »

someone said the innocent drinks multisave didn't show today either.

That was me

However, the apg correctly recognised the multibuy on my sausages and bacon. Was kinda hoping it wouldn't, but just decided to kill of my last apg on 'proper' shopping rather than more biscuits/chocolate :rotfl:

FloFlo

rose28454 wrote: »

My sister lives about 30 mins away so I am going to ask her to take up some of the slack. Mum has been having a carer come in every morning to wash and dress her and she insisted I cancel them for 3 weeks while Aunt and sister were there. They came today for last time for 3 weeks. When I told Mum I would rebook them after I realised my Aunt was leaving my Mum started screaming at me that I was not to rebook them. So what do I do? I am inclined to just leave them to it. No I rarely fo to church so cant call on them

So hard, I would say just rebook and let your mum rant, you can't do this all on your own. Tell your sister you have rebooked them and she needs to back you on this and speak to your mum sensibly. Tell her you are at breaking point and will have to take time to yourself otherwise. I know it is easier said than done but you know you are only trying to do the best for your mum.

FloFlo

lookinforabargain wrote: »

That was me

However, the apg correctly recognised the multibuy on my sausages and bacon. Was kinda hoping it wouldn't, but just decided to kill of my last apg on 'proper' shopping rather than more biscuits/chocolate :rotfl:

Awww rats, shot down in flames, lol. Am still going shopping though.:D

MKS

FloFlo wrote: »

So sorry for you Rose, I know you can't but it must be tempting to just leave your sister to look after your mum and do your thing for a few days at least.

It is an awful time of year when there are family problems.

You aren't on your own though, things get us all down more at this time of year, I am struggling to face my first Xmas without my mum and then my brother was admitted to hospital with pneumonia the beginning of this week but thankfully is improving. But as one thing gets better another seems to come crumbling down my MIL lost FIL in June and has now been told her cancer surgery a few years ago has cost her the sight in one eye and affecting the sight in her other. I don't know how she is keeping it together - I want to say come and live with us but I don't know if I'd cope, which makes me feel guilty.

You can only do your best hun, and then only if you are taking care of yourself. Wishing you well. xxxxxxxx

You have my sympathy FloFlo. I've just posted an 'in memorial ad' for my Mum who died three years ago on the 28th. December. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease.

rose28454

FloFlo wrote: »

So sorry for you Rose, I know you can't but it must be tempting to just leave your sister to look after your mum and do your thing for a few days at least.

It is an awful time of year when there are family problems.

You aren't on your own though, things get us all down more at this time of year, I am struggling to face my first Xmas without my mum and then my brother was admitted to hospital with pneumonia the beginning of this week but thankfully is improving. But as one thing gets better another seems to come crumbling down my MIL lost FIL in June and has now been told her cancer surgery a few years ago has cost her the sight in one eye and affecting the sight in her other. I don't know how she is keeping it together - I want to say come and live with us but I don't know if I'd cope, which makes me feel guilty.

You can only do your best hun, and then only if you are taking care of yourself. Wishing you well. xxxxxxxx[/QUOTE

Dont feel guilty about having her to live with you. I gave up work to look after Dad and now Mum and really wish I had not. She is so ungrateful even though I ensure she has all she needs every day, go up every evening to see her off to bed and to deal with all her finances etc. My finances are at breaking point, I have problems in my own family to deal with but no time to do it. I am just going to do the minimum I can over the next week or so as I not going to suffer cause of my sisters big mouth.

MKS

rose28454 wrote: »

FloFlo wrote: »

So sorry for you Rose, I know you can't but it must be tempting to just leave your sister to look after your mum and do your thing for a few days at least.

It is an awful time of year when there are family problems.

You aren't on your own though, things get us all down more at this time of year, I am struggling to face my first Xmas without my mum and then my brother was admitted to hospital with pneumonia the beginning of this week but thankfully is improving. But as one thing gets better another seems to come crumbling down my MIL lost FIL in June and has now been told her cancer surgery a few years ago has cost her the sight in one eye and affecting the sight in her other. I don't know how she is keeping it together - I want to say come and live with us but I don't know if I'd cope, which makes me feel guilty.

You can only do your best hun, and then only if you are taking care of yourself. Wishing you well. xxxxxxxx[/QUOTE

Dont feel guilty about having her to live with you. I gave up work to look after Dad and now Mum and really wish I had not. She is so ungrateful even though I ensure she has all she needs every day, go up every evening to see her off to bed and to deal with all her finances etc. My finances are at breaking point, I have problems in my own family to deal with but no time to do it. I am just going to do the minimum I can over the next week or so as I not going to suffer cause of my sisters big mouth.

I don't have the answer rose but hugs to you.