Mums v Dads

AnnaLicious_2

The Mums board is overflowing while the Dads is empty! Dads, in your opinion, how do you think you interact differently with other Dads than Mums do?
For example, when my husband goes to playgroup, the Mums stand together talking. The Dads don't talk, move the heavy furniture and do projects. He says he very rarely interacts with the other Mums at any playground he's gone to, unless it's a grandmother or childminder.
Thoughts?

Sus1e

Mum's board is overflowing??? REALLY?????

25 threads is hardly overflowing.

In answer to your question - at playgroups etc, you have to make an effort to talk to people and break the ice whether you are male or female, Grandparent or parent.

warmhands.coldheart

AnnaLicious wrote: »

. He says he very rarely interacts with the other Mums at any playground he's gone to, unless it's a grandmother or childminder.
Thoughts?

Probably because he's scared that they will think he is trying to chat them up...... you know what you woman are like !! :rotfl::rotfl:....

markelock

I try not to talk to anyone, and treat everyone with the same disdain.

I think there probably is a point around what people perceive they are being spoken to for.

I've always felt that the kids are friends, but that doesn't make me a friend by association.

I'd rather speak to the kids anyway. Far less vacuous

scaredofdebt

AnnaLicious wrote: »

Dads, in your opinion, how do you think you interact differently with other Dads than Mums do?

We don't discuss the far end of a fart to the nth degree.

Well, we might if it's got an engine in it.

JimmyTheWig

AnnaLicious wrote: »

The Mums board is overflowing while the Dads is empty!

Then I'd say the new board isn't working! [Though it's difficult to say, when we haven't been told what the purpose was in the first place.]

Dads, in your opinion, how do you think you interact differently with other Dads than Mums do?
For example, when my husband goes to playgroup, the Mums stand together talking. The Dads don't talk, move the heavy furniture and do projects. He says he very rarely interacts with the other Mums at any playground he's gone to, unless it's a grandmother or childminder.
Thoughts?

Generally people will be in their own little groups. It isn't easy to get yourself into such a group, especially if you don't go there as often as other people.
So, for example, if it is the mum who normally takes the children but every now and again the dad takes them, the dad won't "fit in" with anyone there. So the only people for them to gravitate towards are the others who don't fit in - grandparents and childminders, for example.

For me, personally at least, at a playgroup or a party I'll get stuck in with the playing. I'll normally come away knowing the names of most of the children, but won't have spoken to many grown ups. While my wife would be more likely to speak to the other mums there that she knows.
I guess it's the same reason again - I don't know the people there that well. It's easier to join in with the children than to try and break in to an adult friendship group.

Bufger

I dont like chit chat and I cant be bothered to talk about the weather or whether little Jimmy is just adorable.

I'm getting grumpier with age!

I'll talk about Cars, paintballing, money or basketball. I even hate talking about how my kids are developing as everything to do with kids and other parents turns into a competition I cant be bothered with (as my kids are ultimately better than everyone elses so whats the point in discussing it).

Maybe they can see how grumpy I am and wouldnt approach anyway. At least i hope so

Gra76

Men tend to keep their problems to themselves and usually don't see the point in talking about the smaller mundane things in life.

Woman do exactly the opposite. Which is why this board has tumbleweed blowing around.

Former_MSE_Andrea

Hi, we've moved this over to Marriages as it's not about saving money.

JimmytheWig, just to answer your question, the new MoneySaving Mums and MoneySaving Dads boards were created so parents can discuss the MoneySaving aspects of parenting and be able to find the information, rather than general (non-MoneySaving) parenting discussion amongst others on the main board.

Though it's difficult to say, when we haven't been told what the purpose was in the first place.

Sambucus_Nigra

MSE Andrea - what actual aspects of moneysaving are different for mums than for dads? It's not been made clear the rationale and it's evidently not working.

Or is this a Martin thingy now he's a dad?

quantumleap

MSE_Andrea wrote: »

Hi, we've moved this over to Marriages as it's not about saving money.

JimmytheWig, just to answer your question, the new MoneySaving Mums and MoneySaving Dads boards were created so parents can discuss the MoneySaving aspects of parenting and be able to find the information, rather than general (non-MoneySaving) parenting discussion amongst others on the main board.

With all due respect Andrea there is no distinction between moneysaving Mum's and Dads. I'm a Dad and I see no benefit in posting a thread on the moneysaving Dads forum as it completely limits my responses.

In many (most) cases the responses of moneysaving Mums, singles and others is invaluable and quite often provides a perspective that hadn't previously been considered. Was any thought given to this when the board was created?

I've asked this question of you before but didn't get a reply - it would be really good to get some response on this occasion because I am genuinely interested in knowing.