Need your Advice

harvey1964

wel asked him again what happened, and told him there must be more to it. asked him did anything happen etc. he asked me had i went through his mob and i said No and No and then Yes........
Turned out he did take something but later gave it back and said he didnt realize he had it ( ????????) and his friend accused him of stealing it ( understandably ) and thats it.....
well at least its being talked about now.......

Ellie2758

Oh dear. I am in the same situation of having to read the texts to find out what is going on. The earlier posters are talking a lot of sense. Teenagers ARE complicated. Little things get blown up out of all proportion. You could only see part of the story from the texts - I have jumped to conclusions before now.
All I can say is, wait till he gets a dodgy girlfriend and stops doing any schoolwork in his GCSE year. This is where I am now. Seriously, it is horrible when they fall out with their mates.

Bennifred

Oh yes! Pet teens can be very tricky creatures:mad:

harvey1964

Ellie2758 wrote: »

Oh dear. I am in the same situation of having to read the texts to find out what is going on. The earlier posters are talking a lot of sense. Teenagers ARE complicated. Little things get blown up out of all proportion. You could only see part of the story from the texts - I have jumped to conclusions before now.
All I can say is, wait till he gets a dodgy girlfriend and stops doing any schoolwork in his GCSE year. This is where I am now. Seriously, it is horrible when they fall out with their mates.

Poor you.....I'll have have prob have that problem too next year.
They don't realize that they need their gcse's now.I thinks boys in general ( in my experience) seem to be a bit more laid back than girls
good luck anyway in getting him through the exams.....

daphne_descends

It's good that your son admitted all after you told him If it were me I think it would be tantrum time! I'm pregnant with my first so I suppose I have all this to look forward to...

Good to hear you're talking it over though

harvey1964

fac73 wrote: »

It's good that your son admitted all after you told him If it were me I think it would be tantrum time! I'm pregnant with my first so I suppose I have all this to look forward to...

Good to hear you're talking it over though

awh...how lovely. good luck
In saying that my son drives me crazy but i adore my kids, and find being a mother the most rewarding job ever. ( that sound bit wierd when i read it back)anyway

Vashti

Funny I should read this post tonight.

My son has just started a part time job at Asda, and I did the usual lecture...don't be tempted to steal anything, don't stand around doing nothing...blah blah blah.

Last night when I picked him up from his shift, he was carrying his uniform fleece like it had a turkey underneath it. I said, what have you got under there? He said 'nuffin, it's just rolled up' so I said, well be careful how you come across, its looks suspicious and if someone saw you they would think you were nicking something. Carry it over your shoulder, or wear it or something. Anyway, today he came home from school and went straight on the PS2 which is not like him...he is PC daft...UNLESS he has a new game. So...my mind went into overtime, I had him thieving everything in sight, little sod, how could he has had everything he ever wanted in life, only been in the job six weeks ...etc. So I storms into his room, and demanded to know what game he was playing. He told me, and I said when did you get it, I don't recognise it. 'Today' he said. Ah-HA! Gotcha. Where's the receipt? So he handed it over, he had bought it at lunchtime with his first wage.

I felt terrible. How could I ever have thought he would do that? I had him down as the next Great Train Robber.

I'm not saying they don't all nick something from the local shop...I did! Sweets or something, usually a dare, or a right of passage or something.

Anyway, like you I love my son to the moon and back...so I hope you sort this out. Whatever it is, try to listen to him. If he has done something silly or dishonest, it was for a reason...and he needs you to understand first...and go ape sh*it second.