friend put me in an awkward position

nickj_2

is she really a friend ?

nappentass

I have been in a similar situation except it was with a very very close friend who I love dearly - we had a major row about what she was doing (using me as an excuse) and I simply told her that i could not lie for anyone and that included her, and I also basically told her not to tell me what she was doing because if I was asked I wouldn't to lie about that either.
Anyways to cut a long story short, I was never asked but am aware that her husband blamed me for a lot of things. That was many years ago but she's still a close friend to this day and has resolved her 'issues'

Bottom line - you own personal integrity is way more important than anything because if you go against yourself you'll just end up feeling bad/ being ill or have other consequences that will be bad for you.

Tell her not to use you as an excuse because you will not lie for her and leave her to the consequences of her choices.
Give your friendship to someone who's more deserving.

HTH

Jill

Dan_Thunder

Just tell her that it's not your place to cover for her. If she is a friend then just say that you won't grass her up deliberately but if her boyfriend/mother asks then you're not going to lie for her.

If she has a problem with that then she's obviously not a friend worth having.

knithappens

as a military wife ( my hubby is a Marine) this sickens me, he boyfriend and father of her baby is away doing a job to provide for them and this is how she repays him. My hubby is away for 6 months at a time and i would not dream of doing what she does. Have a talk to her, she is probably lonely and looking outside her marriage because of it when she should be turning to her husband. Also if i was you i would tell her that i don't want any part in her lies.

Now telling the b/f, thats tricky. One of my husbands friends (also a Marine), his wife slept around on him, and my husband found out, i advised him to tell him because they were best friends, and i would want my best friend to tell me. But you dont know her b/f that well. but even so, this guy does not deserve this treatment, maybe tell your friend she has to tell her b/f before someone else does and it gets nasty.