Spent parents Attendace Allowance

Dunroamin

sjw11 wrote: »

I have never heard of an 'official appointee'
Dont know what one is, but I assume he isnt
He does not have POA He sees that as creating a link that he is responsible for their affairs.
I know this all sounds like 'head in the sand' but I know his position and was just wanting to see if anyone had suggestions for avoiding payback

Why would anybody want him to avoid payback?

sjw11

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Why? Why do you think it should not be paid back?

No I agree this it is inevitable that some or all will have to be paid back, and so will he when he takes his head out of the sand.
Indeed several years ago I had to pay back AA when my mother was shipped from home to hospital to care home. That is how I knew it was going to come and bite him. But he didnt know how it all works (and I am sure he isnt the only one)

rogerblack wrote:

However, there are good arguments why recovery should not be done, if there is an overpayment - you need to have had the ability and capacity to report the change to the DWP.

That is indeed the situation, they are now not capable to report it, and he didnt know what was going into their accounts
He does now, and acknowledges that some will have to be paid back

LunaLady wrote:

Your 'friend' is a thief.

I still think that is hard......... His parents were aware and I assume happy that he used some of their income himself, and supported his business.... Ok he isnt a teenager being supported by his parents, but it isnt Theft because you areover 50

Teahfc

LunaLady wrote: »

Your 'friend' is a thief.

His 'friend' I am going to take as wild guess and say is a lot closer to home than we think

zoominatorone

sjw11 wrote: »

No I agree this it is inevitable that some or all will have to be paid back, and so will he when he takes his head out of the sand.
Indeed several years ago I had to pay back AA when my mother was shipped from home to hospital to care home. That is how I knew it was going to come and bite him. But he didnt know how it all works (and I am sure he isnt the only one)

That is indeed the situation, they are now not capable to report it, and he didnt know what was going into their accounts
He does now, and acknowledges that some will have to be paid back

I still think that is hard......... His parents were aware and I assume happy that he used some of their income himself, and supported his business.... Ok he isnt a teenager being supported by his parents, but it isnt Theft because you areover 50

Can you clarify what you mean by it isn't theft because you are over 50?

LunaLady

You can say what you want, your friend is stealing from his parents and the state.

LunaLady

Teahfc wrote: »

His 'friend' I am going to take as wild guess and say is a lot closer to home than we think

I would say the same .

sjw11

LunaLady wrote: »

I would say the same .

You can think what you like, but it isnt me.
This situation is really getting him very depressed. He has a business to try and run, a home to try to keep, a car about to go to the scrap yard, and parents who are not how he remembers them, and obviously very close to that final door.
I do feel sorry for him, that is why I am trying to help him.
I understand that some of you may feel it wrong for him to dip into their income (aside from the AA issue) but they clearly loved their son and wanted his business to keep him afloat, and allowed him access, so how can it be ' theft' ?

SpottySocks

As a long time lurker it still amazes me that some think MSE is the forum to go to for help on how NOT to pay what is owed! Martin is all about saving people pennies as they go about their lives, informing people on their rights in regards to money matters, it's not a site full of posters helping those who knew better on how to avoid facing up to their wrong doings!

DCFC79

OP if the business is unprofitable how long will he keep it going and get a job just any job to help with the upkeep of the home.

princessdon

Another way to look at this if you have children is the following; I give my eldest money when she asks/needs it - say for a school trip or visit to the cinema, and do so willingly.

If she went into my purse and took it without my knowledge and permission she would be stealing.

I have access to an elderly relatives money and would never dare take a penny even though they'd not mind.

How much has been taken by him? Bearing in mind he hasn't taken it all, and that the first 28 days are ok then surely most is still there?

Just to say the comment that incensed me was the "if they die" - not very pleasant.

I hope he doesn't claim carers allowance too