Wedding problems - advice needed!

Dan_Thunder

In that case why not speak to your future mother-in-law? Tell her you're not comfortable with the idea of her daughter bringing friends over to your wedding. She'll certainly appreciate you speaking to her about this and perhaps she'll speak to her daughter on your behalf.

saxy1

Dan - My H2B spoke to his mum about it last night, so may be she will talk to her. Spoke to my OH earlier and told him how miserable its making me (could just sit and cry, to be honest!) think he is going to speak to his sister later.
Obviously I dont want a family fall-out, but it is 'our day' she has had hers, and I was so careful not to even mention our wedding on her big day!

scooper

yes i agree with everyone.
its your day,you have paid up and arranged everything how you wanted it,just as she did with hers,it isnt just a holiday its your wedding day,then your honeymoon i guess,she should really understand that.
why dont you say come over for the second week or a few days after the wedding day so then when you have had your time,you might be in the mood for more people?

hope it all works out for you,remember though not to compremise on your big day you will hopefully only do it once and you should be able to look back on it with happy memories

pinkshoes

I think your future SIL is being very selfish inviting friends to your wedding!! It's your day, and if you're having a small private wedding, you hardly want friends of your FSIL there!!!

They weren't planning on staying with you too were they?!? If she's just got married herself, then surely she should understand what it's like to want privacy as newlyweds?

Broken_hearted

Tell her no way my sister brought a friend of hers on my hen night and she ruined it.

chergar

I would tell fsil that because your own family can't make the actual wedding then you would prefer it to be h2b immediate family only and if she still wants holiday with friends then go to a resort nearby and only her + family come along for the ceremony.

Good luck for your future wedding & wish you both a long and happy life together.

aukinfo

Put your foot down, you are allowed to on your wedding day.

We went to South Africa to get married and had to go through a similar situation. I think people dont really understand how important it is until they get married themselves.

You only get one shot, make it special and do what you want - the others will get over it.

Richard

r.mac_2

really have to agree with what everyone else has said. Tell her its not what you want, that they are still invited to the wedding, but her friends are not.

Quite frankly i would feel like i was intruding if i went to a wedding where i didn't know the bride and groom and it was such an intimate affair.

Oh, and make sure you have a wonderful day

saxy1

Thanks guys for all your helpful responses so far, H2B is going to see his sis on his next day off to have a face2face chat and put her straight.