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Yesterday DH and I finally separated for good. We temporarily separated in July but I always hoped we would reconcile.

Its too involved to go into and I'm worn out with crying but I cant stop, memories are everywhere, I can't sleep, I'm totally devastated, I can't function.

The man i love and created our children with doesn't want me, doesn't love me enough and this hurt is unbearable.

I'm taking each minute at a time.

Kittikins

big hugs bailey, a minute at a time sounds about right x

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Thank you Kittikins, i didn't expect any replies at this hour.

Protogenia

Hi Bailey. Can you focus on all the bad things he has said and done...ever?

Try not to see him through rose coloured glasses and thinking about all the good times you had together...you will make yourself feel worse and it really isn't a truthful picture.
I am in the middle of a separation with my husband and it's hard...very hard. But I know it's the right thing to do...life is too short to be miserable.
Talk about it as much as you can...not with your ex though. I have found it really helps you get things out of your system. x x Chin up and march on hon...if you can't do it for yourself at the moment...do it for your lovely children. x x x

scooby088

Don't focus on the bad as it may well colour your future dealings with regards to the kids, like they say time is a healer

loveasale

So sorry to hear tour situation, it's not going te be easy, but like u say a second/ min / hour or day at a time,
You will find lots of support here, many going through separation (me) and others who are now at the light at the end of that blasted tunnel!
I write a diary on here, it helps me so very much, I'm sick of the sound of my own voice and tired of explaining the reasons of my separation , so writing it down helps me ' offload' and I get good advice and help along the way!
Keep posting and we will keep supporting
My heart goes out to you, keep strong for the kids ( hard I know)
But things will get better!

FBaby

What a horrible time to go through. The only thing that it's sure to help it's time so you are doing exactly the right thing by taking it one day at a time. Don't deny your pain, accept it with the confidence that it will start hurting a bit less each week. In the meantime try as much as you can to treat you with whatever you can and let other loved one help you. Good luck going through this tough time.

esmf73

Hugs Bailey xxx

VestanPance

My thoughts are with you and I hope have the support of friends and family to see you through these awful events.

I know first hand the pain of the divorce from someone you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with. It's a devastating feeling.

desert_rose

You look after yourself now. Make sure that you eat properly, get a bit of exercise and enough sleep to keep on top of the heartache you're going through.
I promise you, it does get easier - time really is the great healer and if you're anything like me, you'll look back in a year's time and quietly thank your lucky stars that it ended when it did.

You have two little ones to love and cherish and they will keep you strong.
Be kind to yourself and know that there are many of us out here in mse land who have been through what you're going through and come out the other side with a better life than the one we had before.

You can do this.

sassyblue

bailey (((HUGS))) xxxx