How long before your wedding have you request RVSPs?

ShelleyTinker

I am just creating my wedding invitations for my May 2013 wedding but I am not sure how long before the wedding to request RSVPs? I will be sending the invitations out around late February / early March. How long before the wedding has everyone put as the return date?

cats2012

I'm sending mine out this week for our wedding in March (so approx 4 months notice) and I'm asking for RSVPS by the end of Jan, so about 2 months.

daisiegg

I am going to be asking for them 3 months before, because I am not sending out evening invites until I have all the RSVPs from the day people to allow me to 'bump up' evening people if there is space!

74jax

Our wedding is in June. We aren't really having invites, just inviting people, we'd like to know if they are definately coming about 3 weeks before the wedding.

lisajane8482

Our wedding is in July next year, we're sending ours out march/April and asking for replies in May.

cats2012

Linked to daisyegg's post above it can depend a bit what you're doing about the day/evening people. I'm sending all ours at once as I didn't want evening people to feel they were less important or anything, but I did consider sending them later and because of the lack of menu choice requirement they could be left til alot nearer the time

Roz_V

We got married on 15th September and asked for RSVPs by 1st August - I eventually got answers from everybody by 15th August after chasing

Invitations were sent around the beginning of June.

katie1812

Our wedding was in September.. We sent the invites out in March and asked for RSVP by the end of May, so 3 months before the wedding. Be prepared for people to tell you after the RSVP date though, some people just ignore it lol!

Torry_Quine

Just to say that for people who work shifts they may not be able to tell you that far in advance. Everyone is expecting answers well in advance.

74jax

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Just to say that for people who work shifts they may not be able to tell you that far in advance. Everyone is expecting answers well in advance.

Mine was only 3 weeks, I didn't think that was too early, but yeah I hadn't thought of shift workers, but trying to think of anyone on shifts... Good point though thanks.

74jax

katie1812 wrote: »

Our wedding was in September.. We sent the invites out in March and asked for RSVP by the end of May, so 3 months before the wedding. Be prepared for people to tell you after the RSVP date though, some people just ignore it lol!

If someone doesn't reply, I'd take it as a no. I wouldn't chase, so if they then got in touch and said yes I'd have given their place to someone else......