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rose28454

Sitting here feeling really down. As you know I care for my Mum and she is quite difficult. Now she finally agreed a few weeks ago to have some care from an agency as she need help washing and dressing. I dont mind helping her dress but dont really want to wash her ( does that sound mean?). Anyway got the agency started and at the meeting a 10.00a.m. call time was suggested but Mum said 10.30 to 11.00 a.m. It worked ok for the first 2 weeks and they came and showered and dressed her. However if they offered to make a cup of t or brush her hair she just said no my daughter will do it when she comes later. But they were good and suggested she needed cream on her legs ( which we had in the cupboard anyway) and when I read the notes all seemed well.
But after Sunday last week she got herself up and dressed before they came ( and said she had washed - but I know she had not) so basically they care coming for nothing. Now a couple of times they have been late ( due to weather I presume) and she is now moaning and saying she wants to cancel it. When I said that maybe an earlier start was needed she just told me it was non of my business.
I am living on carer's allowance and a bit of money from her and am struggling and for what. Both my sisters and one brother are away either working or on holiday and the other one only bothers with her when he needs money.
I usually go 2 or 3 times a day, do housework, sort her meals, all her paperwork, all the washing, take her to appts etc.
When I told her I was off out shopping she just said " Of course you are!". She is not mobile and we have to use a wheelchair when she goes out and my shopping trips are my escape. Am I being selfish. Dont know what to do and I have no one to talk to. My DD and OH are kind of sick of the whole thing as it seems to be swallowing my life and after I just seemed to get some life of my own when OH left and sorted himself out it seems to be going pearshaped again.

celebrate

Please may i ask if any alessi regulars know how much it would cost for an alessi set with or without a £5 off conditional spend

rose28454

celebrate wrote: »

Please may i ask if any alessi regulars know how much it would cost for an alessi set with or without a £5 off conditional spend

if it is the place setting I thing it is £34.99 gross price and £4.99 net. So youjust need a lfew other things to get to £40.00 and then the cutlery is free. HTH

MKS

neosi wrote: »

Morning All

A few bits from some wombles, what can ya do with mangos at Chrimbo


A vs S
1 x Pepsi Max (8x330ml) £3.99 £2.50
1 x Innocent Orange Juice Smooth (900ml) £1.50 £1.09
1 x Innocent Apple & Raspberry Juice (900ml) £1.50 £1.09
2 x ASDA Chosen by You Chicken Breast Fillets (500g) £6.00 £5.00
1 x ASDA Smartprice Mango £2.50 £0.75
2 x Tracker Chocolate Chip Bars (8x26g) £3.50 £2.50

A vs T
1 x Mars Advent Calendar (111g) £2.00 £1.50

Eat them:rotfl::rotfl:

pattylabelle

FunkyFeet wrote: »

I thought that too about fairclaire, dunno why but I did. Just like pattylabelle too, she talked about kids and wombles and so I thought she's got to be early 30's then but no more than that - please forgive me if u are younger than this patty
whatever age u are ladies, doesnt make a difference, luvs u the same regardless.

Unfortunately Pattylabelle is in her late 40's - but I am 21 inside my head. Many a great tune was played on an old fiddle:D

bubbs

MKS wrote: »

Lazy moo :rotfl::rotfl:

Oh i know :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: just sat down with a cuppa, been outside its freezing still ,hubby now buliding a platform in shed incase we get flooded again, just going to start my baking

cheesyball

oooo anybody found the 2p eye shadow... I will be having a look later:D

rose28454

So FF and g&b not working then. Well I will go to T and do the finest thing and report back and then do my housework. Off to a large Asda tommorow anyway as it is MIL'S bday and OH and I are taking them to a lovely chip shop for t near that large store. So hopefully another chocolate glitch will happen before then. BTW all the time I was actually living with OH my MIL though I was nobody but since we have been apart she realises what a terrible time we had with the drinking and is really nice to me now. So must look in my pressie box and find something nice for her.

Iamsohappy

rose28454 wrote: »

Sitting here feeling really down. As you know I care for my Mum and she is quite difficult. Now she finally agreed a few weeks ago to have some care from an agency as she need help washing and dressing. I dont mind helping her dress but dont really want to wash her ( does that sound mean?). Anyway got the agency started and at the meeting a 10.00a.m. call time was suggested but Mum said 10.30 to 11.00 a.m. It worked ok for the first 2 weeks and they came and showered and dressed her. However if they offered to make a cup of t or brush her hair she just said no my daughter will do it when she comes later. But they were good and suggested she needed cream on her legs ( which we had in the cupboard anyway) and when I read the notes all seemed well.
But after Sunday last week she got herself up and dressed before they came ( and said she had washed - but I know she had not) so basically they care coming for nothing. Now a couple of times they have been late ( due to weather I presume) and she is now moaning and saying she wants to cancel it. When I said that maybe an earlier start was needed she just told me it was non of my business.
I am living on carer's allowance and a bit of money from her and am struggling and for what. Both my sisters and one brother are away either working or on holiday and the other one only bothers with her when he needs money.
I usually go 2 or 3 times a day, do housework, sort her meals, all her paperwork, all the washing, take her to appts etc.
When I told her I was off out shopping she just said " Of course you are!". She is not mobile and we have to use a wheelchair when she goes out and my shopping trips are my escape. Am I being selfish. Dont know what to do and I have no one to talk to. My DD and OH are kind of sick of the whole thing as it seems to be swallowing my life and after I just seemed to get some life of my own when OH left and sorted himself out it seems to be going pearshaped again.

rose
Can you maybe talk to social services to see if they can help . Maybe they could talk to your mum or the others in the family. Don't feel guilty about taing a little shopping time - you need time for yourself and you have a family to look after as well. Is there anyone, maybe a friend who knows the situation, who you can confide in.

my_chicken

Morning All

Rose, sorry not really got an advice other than you have to be strong and firm with your mum. You have to think of your own health and well being too. Make sure you do get some time on your own it is necessary, if nothing else for your sanity. Sending hugs xx

Hope everyone has a good day
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