Prenup

Idiophreak

Dekazer wrote: »

A prenup doesn't make you more likely, or make it easier, to get divorced.

Are you sure?

I've not been able to find any stats on the subject, but I'd say the overwhelming opinion on the net (not that opinion means anything) is that couples with prenups are more likely to divorce than those without. On the face of it, it seems quite logical, as a spouse that's likely to lose half their assets through divorce probably works harder to save a marriage than one that doesn't....

Not having a go, anyway, but just wondered if you'd seen any stats on the subject...

Dekazer

Idiophreak wrote: »

Not having a go, anyway, but just wondered if you'd seen any stats on the subject...

No, never. I suspect that they'd be hard to find, given the wobbly legal ground prenups rest upon. Perhaps in the states?

I might add that your earlier post sounds to be suggesting a causal relationship. Of course signing a prenup doesn't make you more likely to get divorced. However, it's interesting to consider whether couples with prenups are more likely to get divorced later. I'm not sure I could guess it either way! Your uncertain couple who want a get out clause might be my sensible, cautious couple who only got married after serious consideration..

74jax

jtr2803 wrote: »

I won't be having one but I don't have any issue with those who want them.

I only really see the relevance for couples who have significant assets prior to marrying, especially if one has significant assets and the other party have neither. I don't believe anything that is gained during the marriage should be split any way other than equally but assets prior to the partnership should be considered separately.

I have an easy way round this, I just spend all of our joint disposable income on holidays and we rent our home - ta dahhhh! :rotfl:

Oh my word, you don't check the board for a few days and look what happens. I mentioned I'd posted it on the Families board and found out about financial agreements and so that's what we're looking at, I didn't realise it was still going strong over here :rotfl: I'll see about getting the two threads merged.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4280401 This is the other thread if anyone is interested in people's answers to the question (not just general opinions on pre-nups), I'd never heard of a Financial Agreement, so am very happy i posted. It might help someone else too.

I've quoted JTR as I found that quite interesting, I'm not sure we would be looking into it if we were in the same financial situation as each other..... hhmmmm one to ponder

katie1812

Before we got married, we talked about but only as one of his sisters asked him if we were having one. We haven't and I was quite upset when it was brought up to be honest. I think it just leads up to WHEN you break up, as opposed to IF. And to be honest if you're that cold-hearted to take off someone you loved and married until death us do part then you shouldn't have got married in the first place!

CompBunny

sheeppappar wrote: »

Am I right in thinking you want the prenup so that you don't get an unfair share of what he's achieved for himself? In my opinion someone only achieves what they can because of the support of their partner/family and so that potential success is as much yours as it is his too! I earn about double what my partner does and would not dream of having a prenup. We both came into the relationship roughly financially equal but I will contribute financially more for all of our lives... but in my opinion there's no way (and nor would I want to) try and balance pound notes against the wonderful contribution he makes to our family life and the love he gives me! You can't put a value on something like that xx

Hiya,

Quite the opposite I was just agreeing really with what others had said and saying that both my H2B and I would not want a prenup for that very reason Sorry, should probably be more careful as to how I type things

sheeppappar

woop sorry!! got a bit carried away providing my opinion rather than answering the original question xxx