'supporting each other through really tough times'

fuddle

No phone call. I guess I didn't get the job. I'm in bits but not going to go on about it.

You know, your stories of hardship are so harder than what we experience right now. I still cover the cost of living, still able to buy food that full my cupboards, still can hear the house, clothe the kids, feed my dog. Really, quite frankly, I have nowt to be winging about. I'm just scared though. Really scared.

DH said that to get a job within a few weeks of trying is unheard of in these times. Although I understand that I am struggling with rejection. My mental processes are shot, emotions running from adrenaline of interviews and positive feedback gets my hopes up and then I feel crushed. Then I'm cross at the amount of petrol wasted and a garage bill for hitting a pothole in doing all this. I feel like the past 3-4 years all I've had is a good kicking!

Hey, ignore me. There are many, many positives in my life and I'm very very lucky. Even the strong get down days huh?

My name is on the childminding course list in May and has been since January. We're also going to re-visit the fostering and emergency carers idea this evening.

I've so much to give and feel like no gets that.

Well, typing that helped clear my head anyway. I shall look at my signature, go walk my pup and then have left over risotto for my lunch.

BitterAndTwisted

Peanut: try a local jeweller first before sending it off to one of those melting-down places. I suspect you're more likely to get a better price than just from the weight of it.

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It isn't the end of the day yet FUDDLE, there is still the afternoon to go and she did say they have more interviews didn't she?
I wouldn't give up hope quite yet pet, wait and see. In the meantime I'm there in spirit giving you a hug and pulling silly faces to make you smile, Cheers Lyn xxx.

suburbanwifey

Peanut2013 wrote: »

SDG: Is that a soft kitty, warm kitty t shirt?

Feeling ok here, the beginning of the week normally quite good for us

Off to see mum in a moment for my weekly visit to see my favourite auntie. Have bought a new bouncer for LO today off ebay (£11) as I'm fed up of carting ours to mums 3 or 4 times a week. Now she can have one to keep there

Looking out the window with fear. Did 3 loads of washing last night and awoke to blue skies so all went out on the line. It's now grey and VERY dark! DAMNIT! Lol

Had an enjoyable evening last night. Thank you to the poster who suggested (ages ago!) about having friends over for cheap food. Friend suggested meeting last night so I just chucked an extra cup of pasta in the pot as we were having cheesy pasta and invited him over. He turned up with a chocolate fudge cake he bought on the way home as (in his words) 'feel guilty for always eating your food'.

Slightly concerned for tomorrow, it's shopping day and I always get a bit concerned about how much we're spending. We've decided we're desperate to save as much money as possibly and I think we need an ebay session. We were going to pass all of LO's old clothes onto my brother (first LO due in July) but am now contemplating selling some of the nicer stuff. He has a gorgeous snowsuit that we bought from mothercare for £25 and he wore it once before growing out of it!

Has anyone had any luck selling old jewellery? I have 2 rings that I am never going to wear again and am contemplating trying to sell them. Both are platinum and weren't exactly 'cheap'... But I wouldn't know where to start!

I can help you there, I recently sold quite a few items of jewellery, including a platinum ring that an ex bought me as a gift and hubby has never let me wear it so I thought, may as well sell it. Gold and Platinum are at all time high values at the moment and best prices can be gotten from where I am gonna recommend you. If you doubt, take them into any jewelers in town and get a quote for scrap gold, it will be half. I sold several pieces to this company and got my money in bank next day, they tell you what they will pay before you agree and send off, I highly recommend them. Just weight your rings on scales and get gram weights, you will also need to know the carat etc. I treated myself to 2 brand new Barbours with the money I made for jewellery I no longer wanted.

LINKY

I am not affiliated for nor work for the co. I have suggested to sell your platinum to, I have just sold several items to them and had a fab experience, so recommending to offer help.

suburbanwifey

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Peanut: try a local jeweller first before sending it off to one of those melting-down places. I suspect you're more likely to get a better price than just from the weight of it.

I thought the same and took my pieces to 4 different jewellers, the prices they offered me for 9ct white gold and platinum were an insult. Around half of what the place I recommended in my earlier post paid me. High Street jewellers think that people going in to sell are destitute I think and so take the pish when making offers, Get quotes from many places before you sell!

Peanut2013

I will check out the links I have emailed the jeweller who made both pieces to see if he'd be interested they are in such good condition it would be a shame to see them mounted down. It's also a shame as I love them both and the diamond ring is very gorgeous. But I imagine its a faux par to wear your old engagement and wedding ring, lol. Plus the memories that come with them...

Fuddle, keep positive. You never know what is around the corner

suburbanwifey

I know what you mean, though I wear on my other hand the wedding and engagement ring of my ex's ex LOL - he gave them to me! My hubby doesn't seem to mind though as he knows I have a passion for diamonds hehe. So, I guess I'm quite rare in wearing two sets of wedding rings (plus an eternity ring on my left finger) and one of those sets (right finger) belonged to someone else and they were given to me. It sounds quite wrong when I write it down lol

suburbanwifey

This thread has got me thinking back to the last time we suffered hard times and boy were they hard. We spent a Christmas Day with porridge for our dinner. I think that was the lowest point. Memories of counting copper to buy a pack of tabs (I smoked back then and needed them to get by in life!) and literally the cupboard being so bare there was nothing in it. Reminds me back to one of the last times I spoke to my mother (a rich !!!!! who lives in a big house and used to buy 6 of the same posh bag in different colours) who refused to help us or give us any food. Her narcissism eventually had me disown her, miserable witch that she was. Money didn't buy her happiness which was the only consolation in it all. I weighed 6 1/2 stone back then and told everyone who commented how thin I was that it was a fashion choice *ah hem* we got our car repossessed, we lost our army home and we ended up penniless when we left the forces and no one, no where gave us any help. It was a very miserable time. I still hoard food today as that period of life scared me so bad and we both became workaholics and high achievers due to that experience. We will never be in that position again now but if ever we were, I know I would cope as I did then. The thing I don't miss was Happy Shopper Bubble Bath, it gave me rashes that made me scratch myself silly.

fuddle

I am determined never to be in that position again either but as time goes on and each thing I try and get rejected over I feel like I'm slipping further and further back there. I have no control over any of this and know too that it can be the slightest thing that knocks you below the breadline. I seem to be spending a lot of time hovering over uncertainty one way or another and it's starting to take its toll. I think drained is the word.

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Courage little one, you are a good kid all round, yes you have a wobble every so often, but we all do that and you are only human too. You are a tryer and each time you wobble, you DO pick yourself up, dust yourself down and keep going, you always do, because you are made of stronger stuff than you realise. You are a thoroughly sound little person, one I am proud to know and you'll get there - all thats wrong is the times we live in NOT YOU!!!!! It's a really tough time to be trying for jobs, or you'd have been snapped up by someone sensible long ago. Don't despair pet, you'll get there one day, Love Lyn xxx.