'supporting each other through really tough times'

kidcat

katie - it may well be that as a sinking ship you are both better off out of it, and this may all turn out to be a blessing.

All the school runs are done and DS14 has been safely delivered into his school to sit his GCSE exam, felt awful taking him in there and leaving him with him and it does make me wonder how I will cope when he starts going back regularly, but we will see how today goes.

katieowl_2

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

KATIE - Don't make a decision in haste and anger, try if you can to let your feelings level off before doing anything terminal. Easy for me to say I know but, wait until you have at least talked to management before you walk away. It might not be how it appears on the surface. Good Luck!!!
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Don't worry..it won't be a haste thing, just a final straw. I can't work with the current manager. I've been trying for the past year, she can't and won't take any advice on board. If there's one thing I know it's how to not waste money on food, and she's been busting the budget there by doing really daft things.

Example. Of the four of us there who were there at the end of summer, she's the only one who can't cook. One of the staff is a woman who DD and I both love, she's slightly autistic and is on a special needs placement. I'll call her X! This 'manager' can't cope with her at all, and has engineered her out of the place I was in the store cupboard with this lovely lady one day, and found a stash of packet mixes for chilli con carne and shepherds pie, newly bought! "Oh for Gods Sake" I say, "who's bought these???" (Knowing full well....!) X grabs them out of my hand and says "What's that then" and reads the back. "What are they buying that for?" she says...."That's a bag of flour that is!"

But it goes on and on...from serving pink wafer biscuits to senior members of the council, and cheap and nasty sausage rolls in a buffet, not being able to buy the right ingredients when sent to the supermarket specifically for them...not being able to do a rota, shouting at the girls in a cafe full of people (she's not done that to me) and having no taste when it comes to buying stock (one of the reasons hardly anyone local did their xmas shopping there) I was avoiding being there more and more, as I got demotivated TBH.

Even yesterday there was another example of how carp she is in a kitchen, and really I can't stand any more. I chatted up someone at the christmas fair, and told him that the centre could host an event such as he wanted to run, and sent him to the upstairs boss. He made contact in the new year and a provisional booking was made. He's asked for a veggie stew, crusty bread and olives. The manager flicks through a book of recipes in front of DD. She says "Oh that looks nice....I could borrow a bread maker to make some crusty bread"....FOR THIRTY PEOPLE!!! We use really nice crusty baguettes in the cafe anyway, we buy it in frozen and bake it off in the oven...why would you even contemplate making bread???? When you can't cook....Why??? :mad: See. This is what is doing my head in! He also asked for individual tables with a cocktail bar vibe going on, and she's planning to line up plastic chairs!

Rant over - sorry!

Kate

Possession

Kate I hope you find out what's going on today.
Fuddle I hope the school run has been OK.

GQ I have bad news for you:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2259888/The-inch-killer-slugs-invading-Britain-Millions-set-attack-garden-plants-vegetables-arriving-Spain.html

katieowl_2

Ha!!! I've been called in for 2pm. The other girl we work with has called in sick (sick of the whole thing - I was on FB to her last night!) and the manager leaves at two because of her kids.
I asked if they could make sure I get paid what I'm owed... so fingers crossed I'll have more info later!

Kate

missmucksmum

Hi everyone hope you dont mind me posting, having a really tough time my husband of 10 months (together 7 yrs) left me a week ago he was an alcoholic his drinking got worse and worse we lost our business none of my side of the family speak to me because I chose to stick by him, he did a detox in september stopped drinking with my support and support from a social worker we planned for him to go into rehab for 18 weeks but when offered a place he refused it as he was doing so well on his own. Since november he has been distant and spending more and more time out of the house we have been arguing about it alot as didnt understand why. A week beore xmas I found out he had started drinking again, I had put all my faith in him and had finally trusted him 100%. I forgave him and treated it as a relapse, told him I could handle it and we could carry on as long as he stopped drinking again as he said he could take t or leave it. So new year new start he asked for money for beer I refused he didnt speak to me for 2 days then decided he would be better off on his own and left. I cant believe after everything we have been through he has done this im so hurt and upset, I miss him so much but cant have him back with the drinking we have 2 children that keep asking when dads coming home, he hasnt made the effort to come and see them, he hates me and ive done nothing wrong, Im trying to carry on but just going through the motions. I cant sleep at night, it was my 30th birthday on tuesday and all i wanted was him with me, he wont talk to me i know I shouldnt call him but I cant help it x

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HUGS Katie, lots and lots of HUGS!!!!!!! You'll make the right decision I'm sure and feel better afterwards. I know you're a feet on the ground sensible girlie I just wanted to be sure you considered all the options available before walking away. Last straws included, Cheers Lyn xxx.

katieowl_2

Welcome missmucksmum, and (((((((big hugs)))))) sounds like you have a lot on your plate ATM

Kate

kidcat

((Hugs)) missmucksmum - alcoholics need a light bulb moment, before that no amount of support, bribery, blackmail, cajoling or begging will have any lasting effect. It may be that he hasnt hit his rock bottom yet, in which case it is far better for you and your children to not be there when he does.

Children can be really affected even when we dont realise it being around an alcoholic, I grew up living next door to one, our families were very close and I can honestly say I am scarred by it, I am lucky as I recognise it and am able to deal with it, but it has left marks definitely.

Is there any way you could try contacting your family again, surely if they know he has left you alone they will gather round and offer support? I do hope so for both you and the kids.

kidcat

Does anyone understand camera speak? I won a kindle fire which I have sold to a friend and I would like to use the money to buy a camera, but have no idea what I am doing, I found a deal for one yesterday but dont know enough to say if its a good camera or not.
I never spend this kind of money on me at all, and really dont want to waste it.

katieowl_2

kidcat wrote: »

Does anyone understand camera speak? I won a kindle fire which I have sold to a friend and I would like to use the money to buy a camera, but have no idea what I am doing, I found a deal for one yesterday but dont know enough to say if its a good camera or not.
I never spend this kind of money on me at all, and really dont want to waste it.

Depending on how technical it is, I'll have a go, I can compare it with mine, which I am really happy with!

Kate