Assaulted by Neighbour & Victimised by Housing Association

securityman

How about
"commercial vehicle parking in residential areas"
are your H/A ok with this?

Why not rent the parking space out to someone who works near or a local that needs more space. Win win!

motherofstudents

I honestly think in your situation, you will get nowhere because you don't have a car. Are there 3 houses and 3 parking spaces plus 2 for visitors ? Where one of my sons lives, they are thinking of bringing in residents permits but I don't see how that will help when there are twenty houses and only 11 parking spaces !

Would you be happy to move to somewhere else if the parking situation was better ? It sounds like the person who parks there thinks it's ok as you don't have a car. Did he ever ask if it was ok at the start ? If he had come round and said would you mind if I use your space as you don't have a car, would you have been ok with that or is it that he is being inconsiderate and disrespectful to you ?

punkpixie_2

In reply to one person yes we have documents backing up that the space is ours along with the plot number that is attached to the space being our plot number too.

To the people who say we need to go out for a walk, we do, a LOT to get away from the ridiculous neighbours and to benefit our health, we live in a rural area and so we like to go for walks with our little boy.

MY mental health isn't a problem to where I can't work out a situation, please don't patronise me, I suffer from depression and anxiety.

Our visitors HAVE turned away, this has been going on a while, it was there over Christmas last year and obviously people get more visitors over that time of year, it IS causing problems and they know it because they have lied about parking it there, why would they if they didn't think it was a problem.

And to the person who said think about getting a job you have no idea of our situation really do you? do you not think he has tried to get a job? moved from another location and its not easy getting a job in the middle of nowhere when you don't own a car. Think about what could be before you go saying things like that please.

It's not worth the stress, we didn't want this, we just don't want the car park blocked, we want to be able to use our space and also see the lovely view over the fields. He's damaged the car park with that van trying to get it on in the first place because it is too big, housing have agreed it is, they have done all along, and that is why they told me the only thing I could do is keep reporting it and "hope they get bored" Their words, they have since denied saying that to me.

It's all a mess, but we aren't here asking you to comment on our lifestyle, we are asking for advice on this situation, as unusual as it may be, you don't have to be nasty do you?

cmerrick82

theartfullodger wrote: »

A bit of a radical thought but, have you ever thought of getting a job?

Like I've spent all this time not looking! only available work anywhere near where I live just shop work, and unfortunately I don't cope well with customer service, having worked as a motor cycle mechanic and steel fabricator, since the age of 12 up until before moving here to the country where I have to rely on crap public transport that turns up as and when it pleases! WAS supposed to be in college by now but because of the assault and the treats made to my partner the one time she went out alone, didn't feel safe leaving her alone and now cant start my Electricians course, too become and upstanding, law abiding, tax paying citizen of the UK. Now please don't patronise me and label me as someone who is happy with the situation the DWP put me in. Could give you all the facts but think I've said enough!

punkpixie_2

motherofstudents wrote: »

I honestly think in your situation, you will get nowhere because you don't have a car. Are there 3 houses and 3 parking spaces plus 2 for visitors ? Where one of my sons lives, they are thinking of bringing in residents permits but I don't see how that will help when there are twenty houses and only 11 parking spaces !

Would you be happy to move to somewhere else if the parking situation was better ? It sounds like the person who parks there thinks it's ok as you don't have a car. Did he ever ask if it was ok at the start ? If he had come round and said would you mind if I use your space as you don't have a car, would you have been ok with that or is it that he is being inconsiderate and disrespectful to you ?

Don't want to move, we had to work so hard to get this house but no, the one who parks the van never asked us if it was ok and the person who HAS to use our space because of the van doesn't see it as a problem because it isn't affecting them. They are completely inconsiderate and disrespectful and I always consider other people around me, part of my mental illness is worrying too much about what people think of me so I don't go out of my way to upset people.
I thought when I politely asked her to move it because it was in the way when I was expecting my baby and might meed urgent medical help that she might have got the hint it was in the way.
Since my baby was born we had to have an ambulance out and the driver of said ambulance said it was a stupid place to park such a big vehicle and they couldn't get onto the car park!!

Fire_Fox

I was one of the people who mentioned your mental health and I stand by it. I have mental health diagnoses myself and have worked with many more in the same boat so I know EXACTLY how depression and anxiety twists your thinking. Please don't make assumptions we are being patronising or ignorant, I work and am qualified in lifestyle healthcare so suggesting you get exercise is based on solid scientific research. If you are already getting your 10,000 steps every day consider adding in some interval training and an anti stress diet. Well done if you are walking a toddler three miles, that's a trek.

Life is not fair, people are not reasonable, they don't stick to the rules and they even break the law. It's part of growing up to realise and accept that. You can make yourself even more unwell than you are already are by keeping up with this - your partner is living proof of that. I really don't see how damaging the car park is anything to do with you, do you have to pay for repairs? If there is a car park just down the roads why are your visitors turning away rather than stopping there? I can see why you wanted the van moved whilst you were pregnant, but take a break from it now.

Can you really not see how this thread reads - your neighbours are so ridiculous you need to get away from them, someone attacks you after 'no provokation' (bombarded with complaints) AND the HA is victimising you? Your perspective seems completely skewed and the whole thing blown out of all proportion: it's insulting to people who really are being victimised to apply that word here.

PasturesNew

ILW wrote: »

So what is the problem with the parking?
You have no use for the space so why worry about someone else putting it to good use?
On the face of it your attitude comes aver as rather unreasonable.

If you've an actual space, that's yours, and you don't have a car, you don't know when you'll need to use it for visitors, deliveries or anything .... if it's yours it's yours. End of.