Assaulted by Neighbour & Victimised by Housing Association

Notmyrealname

cmerrick82 wrote: »

no we have no car, however we were told numerous times by housing that it was not relevant as their rules were their rules, except for when their the ones not following them. Don't see how its relevant anyways, seeing as how the owner of the company that owns the van pays for the driver to have a permit allowing him to park it on the CCTV'd Pub car park 50m down the road, and she just parks in the closest space to the house even though its a visitors space, can't walk the extra what 5m to her door! they've been doing it knowing its been affecting mine and my partners mental health since they started ignoring what housing said was a problem then back tracked on.

Can I ask are you Autistic or have Aspergers or ASD if you don't mind? I only ask as my son is autistic and I recognise very similar traits in your post. For most people, the parking wouldn't be an issue if they didn't own a car especially as it is someone who lives there and not just a random person from somewhere else on the street. People with ASDs view rules and the following of them in a very black and white manner and cannot cope well when others don't follow them, taking what others would view as quite drastic actions or pursuing them far beyond the point where it is worth it.

cmerrick82

Thats just it, it wouldn't have ended up a mental health issue if I hadn't been assaulted because of it, thats what people are failing to realise, when my partner originally made the complaint, I told HA myself i couldn't care less about the van or parking because it doesn't affect me, but they made it a problem by leading my partner who has issues to believe she had somewhere to go with it, knowing the whole time there was nothing they were going to do. its the constant miss information and lack of action that led to the miss understanding and eventual assault. Police know it, doctor knows, CAB, CPS and witness protection all disgusted by the situation. Now could people stop telling me theres no problem with the parking, when the parking is the cause! Thank u!

punkpixie_2

Hi everyone, I want you all to take into account that although we do not have a car we do have visitors that use our space when they see us, we pay a service charge for this space and it is OURS, it comes with the house, because of this parking dispute our space is used by these people who don't even give us the time of day, and we are not happy with that.
Some of our visitors have turned away because of no space on our stupidly small car park anyway.
We were told by housing to keep reporting it, its all we could do and this lead to him being assaulted because of it, obviously can't go into full detail but hope this clears a bit up.

ILW

cmerrick82 wrote: »

Thats just it, it wouldn't have ended up a mental health issue if I hadn't been assaulted because of it, thats what people are failing to realise, when my partner originally made the complaint, I told HA myself i couldn't care less about the van or parking because it doesn't affect me, but they made it a problem by leading my partner who has issues to believe she had somewhere to go with it, knowing the whole time there was nothing they were going to do. its the constant miss information and lack of action that led to the miss understanding and eventual assault. Police know it, doctor knows, CAB, CPS and witness protection all disgusted by the situation. Now could people stop telling me theres no problem with the parking, when the parking is the cause! Thank u!

So what is the problem with the parking?
You have no use for the space so why worry about someone else putting it to good use?
On the face of it your attitude comes aver as rather unreasonable.

punkpixie_2

ILW wrote: »

So what is the problem with the parking?
You have no use for the space so why worry about someone else putting it to good use?
On the face of it your attitude comes aver as rather unreasonable.

Please see my post, we posted at the same time! oh and it isn't put to good use when they park over 2 spaces, lets say this is a size of vehicle issue and we've been told it's too big!

cmerrick82

unreasonably annoyed after being assaulted yes!!!

sunflower_2

i can "kind of" see how you would be annoyed with the parking situation.

as for the assault - did they just attack you or were you verbally abusive? not that there is any excuse whatsoever to use violence mind.

can you not get one of those metal bollards that stick up and fold down?
poor explanation - sorry

if I were you - i would purchase an old banger and park it in my lovely spot

Morgage_Confused

Just put a sign up £1 per hour for parking and a little collection box to take the money in.

Failing that, buy a car and use the space.

cmerrick82

sunflower wrote: »

i can "kind of" see how you would be annoyed with the parking situation.

as for the assault - did they just attack you or were you verbally abusive? not that there is any excuse whatsoever to use violence mind.

can you not get one of those metal bollards that stick up and fold down?
poor explanation - sorry

if I were you - i would purchase an old banger and park it in my lovely spot

Assault was completely unprovoked as have never had a problem with the bloke ever he was just drunk and ill informed. Could possibly get bollards but then why would we when HA have said they'll sort it, they've phoned, written and been round about van only to be lied too that their not even parking it there! Am currently trying to find a cheap motor but what with no savings and very little income just doesn't seem right to be out of pocket also! Really messed up situation and I just need HA to be held accountable for letting it get this far out of hand. My mental health was relatively fine before this assault and HA have not made me feel as though they are taking things seriously enough, I'm not happy at the end of the day i didn't ask for any of this!

ILW

cmerrick82 wrote: »

Assault was completely unprovoked as have never had a problem with the bloke ever he was just drunk and ill informed. Could possibly get bollards but then why would we when HA have said they'll sort it, they've phoned, written and been round about van only to be lied too that their not even parking it there! Am currently trying to find a cheap motor but what with no savings and very little income just doesn't seem right to be out of pocket also! Really messed up situation and I just need HA to be held accountable for letting it get this far out of hand. My mental health was relatively fine before this assault and HA have not made me feel as though they are taking things seriously enough, I'm not happy at the end of the day i didn't ask for any of this!

I would just relax and stop agonising over a parking space. It will only stress you out.