Help with ideas for 'memories box' - terminally ill friend

Queenie

HariboJunkie wrote: »

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Memories are so special and I love to make the most of them. ...

:T Agreed

crutches

my husband has a birthday card his mother prepared 6 mths before she died.
its very,very precious to him to know that she thought of his future as she lost hers.

patchwork_cat

A letter for them. Maybe cards for them for birthdays,christmas, weddings. A dvd/ video.

It is hard because I wish my mum had written cards and even a letter - and I often wish that she had, but would it make me cry every birthday and miss her? Possibly, but it would make me feel she was still with me and loved me.

I would say a video definately even if they aren't strong enough now in the future they will forget what she sounds like and mannerisms and a video would keep them alive.

I also second the perfume. A special last gift . Her favourite music and yes also something to help her children remember the happy times like the mouse a previous poster mentioned.

Queenie

patchwork_cat wrote: »

It is hard because I wish my mum had written cards and even a letter - and I often wish that she had, but would it make me cry every birthday and miss her?.

My mum left no cards, letters - and I still get teary eyed on poignant dates/times ... never ever stopped missing her.

When my brother died (very suddenly) all his things were shared out with our siblings ... except for me (couldnt' get there in time for the vulture party) and a few weeks went by before I was asked if there was anything I'd like "to remember him by" ... but, he'd already given me a priceless, lasting gift which no one could take away or quibble over; heartfelt memories to cherish.

jess1974

I lost both my parents when i was 26, I think these are all fantastic ideas, i know
i treasure the cards and letters that i received before they died.

belfastgirl23

Just a word of caution to say tread carefully when you're suggesting doing this. I know when my stepmother was dying (she was young too and her kids were still at school) she categorically did not want to do anything like this. She did do some practical things but somehow this felt totally wrong to her to be somehow coming back from beyond the grave. And I think she felt that her kids were old enough to know and remember her and to work out what they would like themselves from her things. Maybe you've already broached the subject and she thinks it's a great idea but just in case. Anyway just a thought, if it is something she wants to do it is a lovely gesture to help her to think about the issues...

Good luck with it....