Am I being impatient?

Newhomesoon?

Hi this is my first post. Please excuse my poor forum etiquette by just jumping in but being honest I have two rug rats on my heel/knees/thighs/arms/neck 24/7 so etiquette doesn't always happen with me ;-)

My husband and I disagree massively over this but to be quite honest it's driving me nuts and I like some others views.

We put our house on Market in September and before it was even advertised the agent said they had a buyer interested and a viewing was arranged. He made a ridiculously low offer the same day which we rejected as a) we couldn't afford to take such a love offer b) the house is worth more and c) the house hadnt even been advertised at that point.

He came back several times over the next week offering 1k more at a time. He reached the point where he said no more, we tried to entice another £500-£1 to leave all appliances etc but he was having not of it. We decided to accept his last offer as a) we'd seen a house we like that was chain free (relationship break down) and b) he wasnt in a chain.

This was 4 1/2 weeks ago and he still hasnt appointed a solicitor! The agents are chasing him but he claims he doesn't speak english (he spOke enough English when he dropped by unannounced to check something after we'd accepted his offer and asked if we would leave the appliances for free(??!!??)).

He has had a valuation carried out and the agent claims a mortgage offer has been issued but he still hasn't appointed a solicitor.

My gut feeling is hes had long enough and I want to make it re-available for viewings. I'm not saying we are withdrawing our acceptance of his offer just make it available for others to view and if we get another offer we can either accept this or tell him he has x number of days to exchange or we will pull out. Hubby think I'm being impatient and we shouldn't rock the boat but the way I see it is a buyer who's doing nowt is as much use as no buyer at all.

I'm ridiculously organised with things like this and the day we had our offer accepted I'd submitted the mortgage application and appointed a solicitor within hours (let's face it why wouldn't you???)

What would you do with a buyer who needs a rocket up his backside? Let him be for a bit or give him an ultimatum.

What's getting me is when he dropped round for his unannounced visit he said he'd do it in the next week - three weeks later and hes now saying two weeks in his broken English.

In theory given the chain is him (FTB) - us - our vendor (end of chain and property vacant) we should have Been able to complete in 8wks max. We are now 4 1/2wks in and he hasn't even appointed a a solicitor!

Jellybean_Jo

I don't think you're being impatient at all! That's ridiculous, there's absolutely no reason from what you've said why he hasn't even appointed a solicitor at this point!

If I were you I'd give him an ultimatum. Make sure you're reasonable with it, and don't make threats you're not prepared to stick to, but definitely an ultimatum I reckon.

Can't believe he turned up at your home unannounced either...how rude!

warehouse

Get the house back on the market today. Dump the timewaster.

Newhomesoon?

Thanks for the replies. In someways I was hoping someone was going to say "yeah, your hubby's right, you are being impatient". Let's face it if we put ours back on the Market, the house we are buying is going back on the market and that's a grand wasted on valuation, search fees etc.

We desperately need to move - two children in a two bed. We've just discovered our youngest who we thought wasn't sleeping because she was hungry all the time actually sleeps brilliantly.... On her own in our room!!!! She still has one night feed so we can't put her in with her big sister as I dont want the eldest being woken in the night. We've been camped out on the sofa for two nights! What are we gonna do????? F*ck!

Jellybean_Jo

Newhomesoon? wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. In someways I was hoping someone was going to say "yeah, your hubby's right, you are being impatient". Let's face it if we put ours back on the Market, the house we are buying is going back on the market and that's a grand wasted on valuation, search fees etc.

We desperately need to move - two children in a two bed. We've just discovered our youngest who we thought wasn't sleeping because she was hungry all the time actually sleeps brilliantly.... On her own in our room!!!! She still has one night feed so we can't put her in with her big sister as I dont want the eldest being woken in the night. We've been camped out on the sofa for two nights! What are we gonna do????? F*ck!

That sounds awful, I do feel for you!

He does sound like a time waster, but as you said you've got your vendor to think about. Try giving him a deadline (doesn't have to be ages away) and see if that is enough to get him moving. He might genuinely have no idea what he's doing and it'll make him realise what he's doing...you never know.

Good luck

Flugelhorn

All kids are different I know but I found that DS slept through any volume that his incredibly noisy baby sister could produce at night ... are you sure big Sis will wake??

re the house - no you are not impatient- I had someone delaying on a sale and not employing solicitor ... really annoyed me and they then backed out ...

julieb1987

I agree with others, given an ultimatum. Just say that you want something sorted by a certain date or you'll pull out. Your EAs will soon light a fire up his bottom. We appointed our solicitor the day we applied for the mortgage! I don't understand why he's leaving it so long, unless he cannot afford it or is just trying to stall. I hate it when people play the "language" card, when he blatantly speaks good English!

kingstreet

I suspect you will be allowed to get nice and committed to purchasing your new property then the offer for yours will suddenly drop by £5k.

DRP

julieb1987 wrote: »

I agree with others, given an ultimatum. Just say that you want something sorted by a certain date or you'll pull out. Your EAs will soon light a fire up his bottom. We appointed our solicitor the day we applied for the mortgage! I don't understand why he's leaving it so long, unless he cannot afford it or is just trying to stall. I hate it when people play the "language" card, when he blatantly speaks good English!

I would set a very near date (ie. a week or less), it isn't exactly time-consuming to sort out a solicitor and a survey. It takes about 2 hours to do the research and ring around.

You really don't sound like you want this to drag for another month - especially at this time of year.

On the other hand, perhaps if the fella is foreigh he doesn't quite know how things work here - either way your EA getting on to him and explaining exactly how and when things need doing will help your buyer a great deal.

Newhomesoon?

No chance of eldest sleeping through youngest waking. She stirs when we walk up the stairs to go to bed. Our plan was always we'd keep youngest in with us until she slept through but apparently she won't sleep through with others in the room!

I've just emailed hubby telling him I think We should get the agents to write to him ASAP saying that if he doesn't instruct searches and solicitors by friday 26th the house will be made re-available for viewings and if we receive any other offers he will either have to exchange within a set time or we will accept the other offer.

If he's serious he will (hopefully) be scared into getting a shift on or risk loosing the house. This way we are being MORE than reasonable allowing him Another 9 working days from today to appoint them.

Whilst it'd be annoying if he took three months or more on a sale that should be dead quick id accept it it's just the fact it's held up because he's done nothing.

SecondTimeBuyer

My girlfriend and I are in the process of buying and we did not appoint a solicitor until our mortgage offer had come through (5 weeks). However the day it came through we appointed our solicitor.