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FloFlo

tricia89 wrote: »

is kinda a hard one.
When dad died i was convinced i would not bother looking for a boyfriend and i would live with mum forever so she was never alone etc, now i got my own family/flat and my mum is happy again with her second chance at love.
maybe the timing is a bit off but the longer you leave it after a death maybe the harder it gets as the person becomes more reliant on you. He shouldn't feel torn though his loyalties lie with his actual mother not just some woman he's friends with. Maybe he'll think about it for a few days and have a chat with her. Hope your MIL is okay how sad for her.

It's his life and I understand his reasoning behind buying his own home and moving out. He has been a rock for his mum and dad for many years so deserves to spread his wings. It was just so sad to see my MIL feeling so out of it when we went to see his house. This woman was there putting things out and her husband was putting together coffee tables etc. I know that she would have loved to have been the one organising his stuff and helping him. IMO he could have asked them to give him sometime that day so that his mum could have had some time there with him and just family for a bit.

altojack

tricia89 wrote: »

wouldnt let me see

thanks anyway alto x

try you tube maybe have it on there, hope so 'cos it was awesome :eek:

Jerryjerryjerry

HopePray wrote: »

Can anyone help please, I have been looking for the e mail for Sadas big boss?
Cheers ma dears, off back for a wee catch up.

Yes.. I need too... I'm a bit short this week.

fyfi

mutley_muppet wrote: »

I bet he isn't single. And if he is, I bet he has the ladies queuing up! Man in uniform and all that lol!




I don't think he's mad at all! :A

Wow wish he was single.......I wouldn't say no!

TrulyMadly

mutley_muppet wrote: »

Was that in Vegas? I just googled it and looks like that's 829ft?

I did my jumps from a plane, as a beginner you jump approx 3,000 feet but your chute is automatically opened a few seconds after you jump (static line).

Or you can do a tandem free fall jump from 10,000 ft attached to an instructor.

I found it both terrifying & amazing! :j I was only saying to my OH the other day, if you could get up early every day and do a parachute jump before work, then nothing could get you down. Such a great feeling! :j

If you have ever had the urge to do a parachute jump then I would say go for it!
I did my first one as a charity jump so I couldn't back out lol!

I'm whispering so Nikkilala doesnt hear.....


During DS's first year at uni he took up skydiving:eek::eek::eek:

Dizzy_Ditzy

rose28454 wrote: »

Was having a lovely day of gardening and tidying up until one of my brothers rang. He wanted to come and go through all my Mum's finances. I am carer and sign on her accounts and manage her money. Thanks to my other bro and sister not being very good executors of Dad's will Mum has not received Dad's Italian pension ( he has been dead for a year) and consequently she has had to spend an ISA he left. Now my sister is demanding to know where the money has gone ( I told her spent on bills). So my younger brother thinks a spreadsheet should be done of all her finances. Mum is not keen as she said it is her business and is away for a few days with oldest sister( executor). So I rang Mum to tell her he was asking and she said she would think about it when she gets back. Sister came on phone demanding that it be done now as they need to know where money has gone.
My brother spent nearly all of their savings and left them at 80 with a 35 year interest only mortgage of £60,000. and now he and my sister want to dictate how she spends the little that is left.
I feel that they think it is ok for me to put my life on hold to care for her but I am not trusted to look after her finances. I feel like running away.

what a horrible situation

As her carer, do you have power of attorney?

I would quite frankly tell both of them to jeff off. I'm sorry but it sounds like all they are bothered about is their inheritance.

Please don't feel like you are only trusted to be your mums carer. Look at it from a different angle. They can't be trusted to care for your mum

Hope you feel better about things soon x

FloFlo

rose28454 wrote: »

Was having a lovely day of gardening and tidying up until one of my brothers rang. He wanted to come and go through all my Mum's finances. I am carer and sign on her accounts and manage her money. Thanks to my other bro and sister not being very good executors of Dad's will Mum has not received Dad's Italian pension ( he has been dead for a year) and consequently she has had to spend an ISA he left. Now my sister is demanding to know where the money has gone ( I told her spent on bills). So my younger brother thinks a spreadsheet should be done of all her finances. Mum is not keen as she said it is her business and is away for a few days with oldest sister( executor). So I rang Mum to tell her he was asking and she said she would think about it when she gets back. Sister came on phone demanding that it be done now as they need to know where money has gone.
My brother spent nearly all of their savings and left them at 80 with a 35 year interest only mortgage of £60,000. and now he and my sister want to dictate how she spends the little that is left.
I feel that they think it is ok for me to put my life on hold to care for her but I am not trusted to look after her finances. I feel like running away.

Tell them to kiss it! When my mum passed I was the only one named in her will, I still split the little she left 3 ways between me and my 2 brothers (1 brother had done loads for her for years before she passed but she never bothered to change will it was an unwritten agreement that I would share with him). I also split it with my other brother who she did not want me to. He showed his true colours straight away and I wished I had stayed strong and excluded him.

Don't let them push you around. It is your mums money, she does with it is as she wishes, tell them to take a hike.

HopePray

rose28454 wrote: »

Was having a lovely day of gardening and tidying up until one of my brothers rang. He wanted to come and go through all my Mum's finances. I am carer and sign on her accounts and manage her money. Thanks to my other bro and sister not being very good executors of Dad's will Mum has not received Dad's Italian pension ( he has been dead for a year) and consequently she has had to spend an ISA he left. Now my sister is demanding to know where the money has gone ( I told her spent on bills). So my younger brother thinks a spreadsheet should be done of all her finances. Mum is not keen as she said it is her business and is away for a few days with oldest sister( executor). So I rang Mum to tell her he was asking and she said she would think about it when she gets back. Sister came on phone demanding that it be done now as they need to know where money has gone.
My brother spent nearly all of their savings and left them at 80 with a 35 year interest only mortgage of £60,000. and now he and my sister want to dictate how she spends the little that is left.
I feel that they think it is ok for me to put my life on hold to care for her but I am not trusted to look after her finances. I feel like running away.

Thats so unfair.
I see to my Mums finances and every 6-12 months I e mail my sibs just to let them know where we are financially (we all pay into an account for Mum).
They have never once in 12 years asked me about the money.
I think your family need to be told, is your Mum strong enough to do it? Or an uncle perhaps.
It really is none of their business.

Hugs to you, you dont deserve that.

Enterprise_1701C

rose28454 wrote: »

Was having a lovely day of gardening and tidying up until one of my brothers rang. He wanted to come and go through all my Mum's finances. I am carer and sign on her accounts and manage her money. Thanks to my other bro and sister not being very good executors of Dad's will Mum has not received Dad's Italian pension ( he has been dead for a year) and consequently she has had to spend an ISA he left. Now my sister is demanding to know where the money has gone ( I told her spent on bills). So my younger brother thinks a spreadsheet should be done of all her finances. Mum is not keen as she said it is her business and is away for a few days with oldest sister( executor). So I rang Mum to tell her he was asking and she said she would think about it when she gets back. Sister came on phone demanding that it be done now as they need to know where money has gone.
My brother spent nearly all of their savings and left them at 80 with a 35 year interest only mortgage of £60,000. and now he and my sister want to dictate how she spends the little that is left.
I feel that they think it is ok for me to put my life on hold to care for her but I am not trusted to look after her finances. I feel like running away.

Sorry for posting on this thread but need to let it out.

That sounds awful, it is always difficult to cope with family when all the trust is gone

Feel free to rant when you need to - there is a big collective hug here waiting for you

Iamsohappy

rose28454 wrote: »

Was having a lovely day of gardening and tidying up until one of my brothers rang. He wanted to come and go through all my Mum's finances. I am carer and sign on her accounts and manage her money. Thanks to my other bro and sister not being very good executors of Dad's will Mum has not received Dad's Italian pension ( he has been dead for a year) and consequently she has had to spend an ISA he left. Now my sister is demanding to know where the money has gone ( I told her spent on bills). So my younger brother thinks a spreadsheet should be done of all her finances. Mum is not keen as she said it is her business and is away for a few days with oldest sister( executor). So I rang Mum to tell her he was asking and she said she would think about it when she gets back. Sister came on phone demanding that it be done now as they need to know where money has gone.
My brother spent nearly all of their savings and left them at 80 with a 35 year interest only mortgage of £60,000. and now he and my sister want to dictate how she spends the little that is left.
I feel that they think it is ok for me to put my life on hold to care for her but I am not trusted to look after her finances. I feel like running away.

ROSE 28454
Family issues can be so difficult to deal with.:sad:
From my experience try to rise above it and look after yourself and your mum as best you can.