Anyone convert an OH who is/was non OS ?

Hardup_Hester

Hi
I don't have many problems with hubby, I earn the money & hold the purse strings very tightly, lol.
I't my lodger I'd like to convert, she gets up in the morning at 5:30 & turns on all the taps in the bathroom & they are still all running when I leave for work at 7:15, she uses 3!!! scoops of powder everytime she uses the washing machine & uses it at the hottest temperature, I've noticed that she's boiled all her white nylon underware to a murky shade of grey, and if she gets home first in the evening she puts every light on in the house upstairs & down & has all 3 TV's on. She then tells me she's always broke, well I'm not surprised if she carries on like this at home.
Hester

badgermonkey

I have persuaded (brainwashed?) H into agreeing that HM is better by saying "Mmm, this is much nicer than that muck that comes out of jars, isn't it?" all the way through my homemade curry/stew/soup etc. It helps that he likes old-fashioned food so I started on stews, pies etc and now we hardly eat any processed stuff. He'll even take leftovers to work and proudly says "My wife made this from scratch!" and reports back scornfully about the people who say "pah, you have to make a chicken last three meals? I haven't done that for 20 years!". I got him watching River Cottage so he qould really see what I was getting at, and when we went to his parents and MIL cooked a meal (curry/lasagna) that was all out of jars, we both really didn't like it and he said when we got back how much nicer mine was. He likes to cook as well and is better at pastry and Yorkshires than I am by miles!

He's not into OS hobbies, though - he'd rather play Xbox Live. It's not too bad on the MSE front though once you get past the initial expense - the games are £40 each and the online thing is £40 a year but with that you get extra levels etc for your games and you can play against other people so it's never 'finished'. In fact I think the amount of hours he can get out of one game is pretty good value for money when you compare it to other hobbies!

magni

My OH is the same. He doesn't like much of the "proper" food I cook and usually puts most of it in the bin and then eats cereal and toast:mad: I think he thinks I'm trying to poison him:rolleyes: He uses kitchen roll, tinfoil etc like it grows on trees, wouldn't eat value brand before but now he has no choice as that is all there is of certain things:p He always opens new jars/bottles/tubes/packets etc before the old one is finished. He uses everything in excess, especially washing powder and fab con.

I could go on all day but I think I'll stop to draw breath:rotfl:

jo_b_2

JillD wrote: »

I just had a post about some stale crumpets that OH defosted and never used.

Honestly I despair at how non-OS/MSE he is. The number of value foods he refuses to eat, he won't cook anything himself that isn't in a packet, he uses tin foil and clingfilm and tissues and kitchen roll like crazy, he hates that I flatten the toilet rolls, he opens new jars before old ones are finished. It drives me mad. We aren't like really broke but we aren't flush and trying to save money for maternity leave later this year so I am budgeting and counting pennies like crazy.

He was in charge of shopping for Feb as I wasn't well enough and instead of our budget of £250 he managed to spend £525 :eek: :eek: :eek:

I used to stick our meal plan up on the fridge but he constantly complained "I don't fancy chilli tonight" etc as he would get in from work and see it written in black and white for him. If it isn't written down and he says "whats for tea2 and I say "chilli" then its fine :rolleyes: so I have to keep the meal plan secret and he doesn't realise I do it any more. Hopeless, just hopeless.

Has anyone else managed to "convert" a lost cause of an OH ?

I think my husband has been sneaking round to yours some days - He's got to be a bigamist!!

I'll make something really appetising and he'll say 'That looks nice' and then say...'I don't fancy that for tea. I'll do myself a pasta'n'sauce!!!' :mad: :rolleyes:

Yes - he really does actually like packets of pasta n sauce. Lost cause!

JillD_2

:rotfl: OMG stop it now I am going to wet myeslf laughing :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Everything everyone has said is sooooooo similar to us its so funny. Thanks god I'm not alone, I feel soooooo much better now, thanks everyone,

I am sat here on the sofa with the laptop, hubby sat next to me, of course I can't tell him what I wrote so I am having to do that thing where you try so hard not to laugh your body shales and hence so does the sofa, and I keep having to sort of cough :rotfl:

tom and barbara good - yes my OH hates piddling little savings. He is much more fond of the "look, I got this Playstation3 for £390 with a free game when its RRP is £425 " LOL

Mrs F - OH does a lot of "putting up " with home cooked meals' given the choice it would be wuorn burgers and chips or, even beter, takeaway pizza. Some weeks he begs for takeaway night after night .....

tine - I laughed my head off at the open sandwich story. And the processed cheese :rotfl: I asked hubs for a list of what he would eat in packed lunch sandwiches, as he was whingeing about cheese too often. The list was things kike - "roasted peppers and aubergine", "mozzarella, tomato, avocado and pesto", hummus and carrot", "brie and cranberry". All of a sudden he went all pncy and thought I wasa branch of M&S. If he makes his own sandiwches - its always cheese. Or nasty packet quorn ham.

JillD_2

reverie - you are so right. I've decided to just shop, not tell him about savings, put money away for holidays, set meals down in front of him, and buy some treaty things for him so he doesnt feel too deprived. Poor wee love.


LandyAndy -

Originally Posted by JillD
We are expecting baby number 3 in less than 4 years

Blimey I thought you got a maximum of nine months notice

LOL:rotfl: I had to read your comment about 4 times before I got it. Suffering from pregnant brain! Thank God its not 4 years :eek:

carbonel and Hester- lucky you having OS OH's!

badgermonkey - my OH is an gaer toom, though its PC games which he gets for xmas and then I think online polaying is free. Though it does make him swear very loudly as he shoots one of his own team by mistake - at midnight when I am in bed I will suddenytl hear "!!!!!!!!! SORRY! SORRY!" :rotfl:

magni and jo_b - maybe they are clones ? At least we are not alone

JillD_2

Anyway, at least tonigth he did help a lot with dinner. We had veg pies (out of the freezer, not very OS but very nice) , potatoes, and peas. All decided upon and started by me but then I said I was too tired and could he coordinate the finishing it and getting it on a plate. Which he did and it was all warm and ready together and yummy.

However then I had a huffy moment (blaming the hormones at the minute) because he had coked himself some frozen swetcorn as well.
Now I know ther is nothing wrong with having frozen sweetcorn, but he has it WITH DINNER EVERY NIGHT and tonight Ijust saw red. Its like he has a connection in his brain that can't bypass having sweetcorn every night.

Oh well. Maybe I will give in and we will have burgers and chips tomorrow night, With sweetcorn of course.

poppy_the_saving_cat

tom_and_barbara_good wrote: »

Just as an addition to my post, perhaps you need to put them in charge of one aspect of the household budget like the house insurance etc or the gas and electric so that they have a *project* to do (I've found over 25 years of marriage that men like having a project rather than a *chore* and if you play the 'oooo silly me, I don't know how to do this' act it might spur him on).

If they have spent an hour on the net looking for the good deals and have a resulting saving of x amount they might *get it* and see the satisfaction in not paying the amount that they would have done if they hadn't done the research, it might just seep into other aspect like the food budget

I will put my OH in charge of the kitchen roll budget then :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
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stefejb

I remember when me and exoh first got together and my food bill shot up. I took to giving him his own basket in the supermarket so that I didn't have to absorb his treats. Often his weekend snacky things would come to more than my weekly basics trolley He also cooked on saturdays and this would more often than not be a costly laborous extravaganza especially when he didn't read the method and got to the bit where it says ... "and now in your second oven" ... or ... "simply marinade for 72 hours". I can remember me and two little girls waiting up till 11pm to eat three different types of fish filleted, plaited and stuffed with prawns

JillD_2

one OS thing my OH loves is homemade pizzas. But he loves me to make them whenhe is perfectly capable himself.

On the weekend he said "can we make pizza dough" so I said "go for it" aqnd left him to it. It took him about 45 minutes before he got the breadmachine on, painful, just painful.

Of course then he doesnt wipe the flour off the surfaces, clean the bread pan, or the rolling pin, or pur the breadmachine back. He had begrudgingly made daouble and I wnated to freeze the spare bases to use from frozen, well what a struggle i had go get him to roll out the dough before frezing it.

And then, we ran out of time to eat the pizzas that night and had them 2 nights later by which time the dough wasn't as fresh. What a palaver, honestly.

But he does make a damn good pizza, I must say.