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Smithfield

MuffinTops wrote: »

That sounds like a good idea on the mental break and using your Mum's car for practice.

I'm sorry to hear things are rubbish in other areas too. Hopefully the mental break will help you in those areas too.

I do believe you will definitely create an easier life for yourself with all the hard work investment you're currently putting in. You definitely deserve that too!

Basically my father had a cancer scare and operation and I almost broke up with girlfriend of 6 years. He got the all clear after op and tissue sample and me and GF are 90% there again. So has been some good news this month.

MuffinTops

Oh that's good to hear that things have picked up now. I'm so happy to hear your Dad has been given the all clear. What a relief.

Sorry to hear about your relationship. But again, great to hear that you're 90% there again. Not far to go with that either.

Phew!

Smithfield

Right, So spoke to place that offered me placement/job.

They have said, for me to contact them may/june for a chat and that its not been left on bad terms and they dont want to add to pressure of test.

So will drive about in mums yaris over christmas and then sit test late dec/early jan.

I'll get test passed and see If theres maybe something else I can do in the meantime before may, few ideas.

beanielou

I think thats a good plan TBH.
Good news on your dad & your GF.

snailmail

Just want to come out of lurkdom to tell you that i understand what you're going through re: driving. I am 31 and had a horrible experience at 17, gave up learning because I went to uni and couldn't afford it, took lessons in my 20s from a shark, gave up for years before finally finding an instructor that i trusted and worked for me.

It still took me 2 more failed tests (5 in total i think!), and my theory expiring and having to retake it...and then me dallying for a few years taking lessons on and off before realising my theory was about to expire again, quickly booked a test and FINALLY passed 3 days before my theory expired!

It's the most scary, nerve wracking thing i have done in my life. I even stalled (twice!) while reversing round a corner!

have you tried using the rescue remedy spray? i used that on my test, and a few lessons before hand to make sure it didn't make me feel sick. do you use the same driving instructor when you take your lessons? would you feel more confident if s/he sat in on your test with you? My instructor was more than happy to sit in with me knowing how nervous they make me, but I felt like having him there would be even more pressure!

Anyway, i'll stop rambling on, I think it's good you've given yourself a bit of time to breathe and regroup, you can go back to it after xmas a little more refreshed! good luck with job hunting, and keep on chipping away at your debts, you'll get there!

Smithfield

Thanks for taking the time to write your experiences. I think maybe for me it's just a bit more experience and a bit less pressure and hopefully that'll do it!

Today, im gonna do some tidying and some dishes and hopefully list 3 things on ebay, I could hit sainsburys but sat can be a bit mad!

Smithfield

sunday,

I have some leftover red in a btl i didnt finish, so thinking coq au vin for tea.

big thing of chicken legs, streaky bacon, onions, mushrooms and carrots still keeps this cheap if I get 2 dinners out of it

just doing next weeks meal plan. Gonna be tight.

Smithfield

Oh just checked junk email and found tesco refunded me £4.16 after my complaint about order!

Yowsah!

elly68

hey smithfield
test 1-failed
test 2-failed
test 3-failed
test 4-failed
test 5-failed
test6-failed
test7- i finally passed hubby said i lacked tenacity i kept giving up ,keep going one day an examiner will make u smile x
ps never failed anything before think i took a while to accept it .

Smithfield

If I knew it would just be another 3 tests and 375 quid in a mad way I'd be happy. My instructor says the worst he ever had was 5, which I'll be equalling!

Its funny most things you can work harder at and you end up doing better at it, I'm finding driving to be basically the opposite lol

I think I just need a lot more driving about, less pressure and relax.

I can actually do everything they ask of me, just keep making silly mistakes.