How do I ask for more maintenance?

Threebabes

You are going to have to go through CSA. They will access his income and work out a fair payment

Riversong

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Child Support Agency will assess his income. And don't text because he is not your teenage mate, you can be communicate in an adult manner about the relationship even if he is less so.

Agreed, letters could be useful especially if it goes to court and gets messy etc.

Also try not to sound begrudging or demanding in the communications. Be firm and clear of course. But with the new wife she will be trying to defend her children and their standard of living . Remaining neutral may help your case. I can't remember what your post said as Im on advanced reply, but is the wife more receptive? I'm sure you're aware but you can't touch her earnings. Maybe she can give him a kick up the butt? He does have responsibilities and should live up to them.

When we have had dealings with SS's mom, i felt more open to the situation when it was all about SS, his quality of life, his wants, needs and not all about how much money bio mom expected. (We of course contribute towards his upkeep when hes not with us and always have, hes our son.) But discussing reasonable maintenance using that approach might help? He may be less stand offish about it?

Good luck. X

barbarawright

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Removed screaming smilies so that I can read it properly.

I don't think there is anything you can do if his father does not want to support him. I take it you are not going through CSA currently?

Isn't this sort of situation exactly what the much-maligned CSA is for?