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What to pack in Labour Bag?

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  • Bargain_Rzl
    Bargain_Rzl Posts: 6,254 Forumite
    jellyhead wrote:
    i also remembered that i already have a cousin called leo :o he's around 18 months old, he's in care and his parents (heroin addicts) are unlikely to ever get him back, there's also a ban on anyone from the family adopting him. although i'm not in touch with that side of the family i think naming my baby leo will upset my nan because she already has a grandson named leo that she'll never see so a great grandson named leo will be a constant reminder. :o

    Awww, bless... it breaks my heart that some kids have such an unsettled start in life :( and you wouldn't want to upset your nan. Also, duplicate names anywhere within a family can be very confusing. I have an uncle (mum's brother-in-law) with the same name as my dad, and an aunt (mum's sister-in-law) with the same name as my sister.
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  • jellyhead
    jellyhead Posts: 21,555 Forumite
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    it is sad but there's nothing anyone can do about it, the parents have had other children removed, they've have had years and lots of help and withdrawal programmes etc. - nothing will get them off heroin.

    that side of the family is keen on having the same names actually, i don't know if it's anything to do with being scottish but the children are all named after their father, uncles etc. with surnames included as middle names, etc. it's a family tradition, he was the first leo although he probably has a string of family names as middle names. i didn't know how to spell doughie (duffy - one of my dad's middle names) when i got married, i had to go out and ask him :o using the name leo would upset nan though because she has no access to the other leo.

    ho hum ... afterpains, they sound fun lol! ah well, it's only a few days. i'm just hoping little roo hangs on until the kids break up for the summer holiday, he's due 17th. the 22nd would be a good day for him to arrive - things will be a lot easier if i don't have to get my other son to school etc. in the first few days after the birth and hubby only has about a week left of annual leave and can't afford paternity leave. i've got co-codamol, the doc's given it to me for use during pregnancy (?!!) instead of my usual migraine tablets. it sends me to sleep so that's an easy way to cope with pain i suppose :rotfl:
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  • gravitytolls
    gravitytolls Posts: 13,558 Forumite
    :pale: Afterpains get stronger after each baby.

    By the time you get to number 7 they are a sbad as labour itself.:wall:

    No really, I'm not jesting, however, they don't last long, and the worst of it's over within the first few days.:j

    Seem to coincide with feeding though, I don't know which worse, afterpains or nipple pain - ouch!
    :mad:
    Every time you get one, breathe heavily, and imagine your tummy returning slowly back to normal, cos that's what's happening - mind you, you wouldn't think it to look at my tum.:rolleyes:

    And why hasn't anyone found a cure for stretch marks??????:think:
    I ave a dodgy H, so sometimes I will sound dead common, on occasion dead stupid and rarely, pig ignorant. Sometimes I may be these things, but I will always blame it on my dodgy H.

    Sorry, I'm a bit of a grumble weed today, no offence intended ... well it might be, but I'll be sorry.
  • Bargain_Rzl
    Bargain_Rzl Posts: 6,254 Forumite
    jellyhead wrote:
    i'm just hoping little roo hangs on until the kids break up for the summer holiday, he's due 17th. the 22nd would be a good day for him to arrive - things will be a lot easier if i don't have to get my other son to school etc. in the first few days after the birth and hubby only has about a week left of annual leave and can't afford paternity leave.

    Don't you have a friend or neighbour with kids at the same school who could do the school run for a few days if necessary? You should probably have a plan in place anyway - what happens if you go into labour at 1pm and son needs collecting at 3?

    It is better to plan this in advance and to make sure your son is familiar with the plan. I remember being 7, and one of my mum's friends came to pick me up from school because Mum thought she was in labour (turned out to be a false alarm), but it was a spur-of-the-moment contingency plan and I had no idea that I should expect to be collected by this person. I was very clued-up about not going off with people and I remember being seriously wary of going with my mum's friend.
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  • jellyhead
    jellyhead Posts: 21,555 Forumite
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    hi, we've discussed it, spud will probably be 9 by then but is still too young to be walking to or from school on his own i think. between my mum and sister he can be taken to school 3 days and picked up on 4 days, the rest of the time hubby will do it. spud's sensitive, he wouldn't want to go with anyone other than my sis, mum or hubby. mum's booked a week off work so will be available for the whole of that week and spud can sleep at her house if he wants to but babies aren't always on time are they lol! it's not the getting him to and from school that i'm thinking of, it's the having to be getting ready at a certain time of day - if the baby arrives early and i'm out of hospital it means sleepless nights combined with having to get ready for school, i think we'll take a while to find a routine, we're very disorganised people! the extension probably won't be built on time so spud won't have his granny flat (not as bad as it sounds, it's only a bedroom downstairs, he's not being cut off from the rest of us and it was his idea - we were going to have a downstairs bathroom instead and convert the upstairs bathroom into a bedroom for baby but spud says he'd prefer to live downstairs!!), he'll hear the baby crying at night and will be tired etc. - it would just be more convenient all round if baby waits and arrives a few days late :D
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  • Lillibet_2
    Lillibet_2 Posts: 3,364 Forumite
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    Erm.............afterpains?????????? And you waited until NOW to mention these? There was me thinking 24 hours of labour & it'll all be over :eek: (apart from the 20 years fo sleepless nights etc etc:rolleyes: )
    Post Natal Depression is the worst part of giving birth:p

    In England we have Mothering Sunday & Father Christmas, Mothers day & Santa Clause are American merchandising tricks:mad: Demonstrate pride in your heirtage by getting it right please people!
  • Bargain_Rzl
    Bargain_Rzl Posts: 6,254 Forumite
    Lillibet wrote:
    Erm.............afterpains?????????? And you waited until NOW to mention these? There was me thinking 24 hours of labour & it'll all be over :eek: (apart from the 20 years fo sleepless nights etc etc:rolleyes: )

    When would you have preferred them to bring up the subject, Lillibet - about 6 1/2 months ago? :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

    Not laughing really, honest - one day I may have kids of my own and then I'll be the one with all the :eek: smilies!!!!
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  • jellyhead
    jellyhead Posts: 21,555 Forumite
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    giggle! i know it's all at once, but i still think i'd rather go through labour than have 9 periods :D
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  • Jay-Jay_4
    Jay-Jay_4 Posts: 7,351 Forumite
    Lillibet wrote:
    Erm.............afterpains?????????? And you waited until NOW to mention these? There was me thinking 24 hours of labour & it'll all be over :eek: (apart from the 20 years fo sleepless nights etc etc:rolleyes: )


    Don't worry Lillibet, I didn't notice them after my first, just a kind of period pain every so often and especially when feeding. You won't care anyway, you'll have your lovely baby to take your mind off it.

    It's subsequent babies that cause all the trouble but the pay off here is that you have shorter labour with second third fourth babies :D
    Just run, run and keep on running!

  • Savvy_Sue
    Savvy_Sue Posts: 47,310 Forumite
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    Jay-Jay wrote:
    It's subsequent babies that cause all the trouble but the pay off here is that you have shorter labour with second third fourth babies :D
    Oh really? No-one told my baby he was supposed to come quicker third time around ...
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