Alone For Christmas

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I know it sounds bad initially - but you aren't actually alone. You'll be with people for much of the day. And you can have family things on other days.

I'm not dismissing your feelings about it, you're perfectly entitled to be sad, but there are people who are genuinely, totally, alone for the period. Some of whom might come to your work for an illusion of company. Most will be home on their own with nobody to speak to on the phone.


It's not as bad as it appears, as you'll be getting ready for work, working, then coming back at the end of the day, talking to family (SKYPE? Phone?), having a long hot bath, perhaps, eating some food you wouldn't normally, maybe a couple of drinks and then bed.


Unless you're religious, it is just another day. It's only significant if we choose to make it so. So you can choose to make a different day special instead.

SailorSam

Barneysmom wrote: »

Have you got a car, come up to us, we'll be having turkey and beef.

I'll come.
I'm only little; I want take up much room.
And i'm very quiet: i want make a lot of noise.

Barneysmom

SailorSam wrote: »

I'll come.
I'm only little; I want take up much room.
And i'm very quiet: i want make a lot of noise.

Ok, extra portions for you and a big Christmas cracker with hopefully a really naff joke in :cool:
Try not to snore when you fall asleep after dinner on the settee :rotfl:

bess1234_2

When we can't have Xmas day on Xmas day , we have it Boxing Day. Swap all the traditions around and it works a treat. Lovely walks and nice meal on Xmas day, full on Xmas day once relaxed and rested and had an extra day for last minute stuff. Actually prefer it to be honest !

krlyr

dogstarheaven wrote: »

that sounds good about fostering a dog/or dog walking. unfortunately, any rescue places are out in the sticks, so i can't really get to them over the xmas period when the buses aren't running. maybe, i shall put a few adverts up and see what i can muster locally.

Get in touch now, get homechecked and chatting with the rescue, and they may well be able to arrange someone to transport the dog to/from you

I_wanna_live_for_free

bess1234 wrote: »

When we can't have Xmas day on Xmas day , we have it Boxing Day. Swap all the traditions around and it works a treat. Lovely walks and nice meal on Xmas day, full on Xmas day once relaxed and rested and had an extra day for last minute stuff. Actually prefer it to be honest !

We do this when my daughter spends Xmas day at her dad's. To me, I can perfectly happily defer the day, OH doesn't really enjoy Xmas (Ebeneezer )anyway but he'll join in with my daughter to make it special for us whatever day we celebrate it.

KiKi

I spend Christmas alone. I usually:

a) Have a long, luxurious bath in the morning with a Molton Brown product that I've bought specially as a treat!
2) Have a special breakfast of fruit and croissants or whatever I fancy
3) Open pressies and call family to thank them
4) Watch something on TV that I've recorded, or a new DVD box set that I've bought to watch over the holidays
5) Cook a lunch of foods that I like (not Xmas dinner, but something I enjoy)
6) Go online and buy stuff in the sales for the following year's Xmas and birthdays whilst listening to Christmas radio
7) Watch whatever the BBC is offering for the afternoon / evening
8) Eat terrible party food like crisps and small cheese sandwiches and chocolates and biscuits and Phish Food ice cream
9) Watch more bad TV and fall asleep on the sofa

I don't feel lonely, per se. But I do sometimes find it a bit hard that my friends don't remember that I live alone whilst they have dinner with their family, or two families I know really well get together. I think if you don't have a partner that it's easy to be forgotten. My friends (almost all of whom are married) seem to get together with other married friends. I don't know why, but single people don't tend to get included with that!!

But, OP, you are working, so you'll have lots of contact during the day. Go out of your way to make it a special day for YOU. Don't mope around, it won't help your mood!

lazywife

It sounds to me like you're working on Christmas day, not completely alone.
M&S, Tesco will also have a small ready to roast turkey that will only take approx 90 mins to cook. If you wanted a roast, you could start that when you get in.
3 years ago family visited for Christmas, (my sis, brother in law, Mum & Dad) 1st time for us, we bought a fresh turkey and kept with all the tradiitions, had chinese on Christmas eve, went to midnight mass, and then as of 8am Christmas day, Mum and Dad got the neuroviris, had sickness and diarrhoea and couldn't come. We had a Boxing Day tea food for Christmas dinner, and then on Boxing day evening (when they were well enough to be in the presence of others!) we did the full Christmas meal. It wasn't our usual tradition, but has actually set a standard, we often do the full meal on Boxing Day now, so we have time to prep and cook it without diving in to open presents and rushing things.
I would like to think by the time you've had a day at work (which there will some colleagues to share the Christmas day spirit with) you can get home, have a treat for dinner (something special just for you) chat to your OH and then wind down for the evening of some good telly, or a nice relaxing pamper in the bath.
Ok it's not the Christmas you were expecting, but it doesn't sound like such a bad time to me?
x

Welshwoofs

I've had a few Christmases on my own and really enjoyed them. To me, the secret is to totally pamper yourself. I had a bottle of champagne, bought myself food in advance from http://www.formanandfield.com/ (and it was to die for) and spent the day slobbing around in yoga pants watching movies.

BTW if you want a bird I'd avoid some nasty little 'roast for one' turkey and go for something small and with flavour; like a Partridge.

eamon

Last christmas my friend took great pleasure in turning down dinner with his daughters family. All because he wanted egg & chips for his dinner and couldn't be bothered getting dressed. He took great delight in posting a picture on FB of himself wearing his string vest & pj bottoms standing over the chip pan. The man has no class!