Missing those on tour

kowloonboy

Keep yourself busy, my wife was abroad for 1 year. I know it is hard. But it is worth the wait if you love him.

saz_d

welshgirl_michelle wrote: »

Thank you for your reply. It's the first time I'm having to go through this and it's slightly harder than i thought it would be!

Whilst he was in Camp B he was able to keep in touch near enough everyday via the internet. He's now moved location so i'm keeping him going by sending an Ebluey every other day! It's been 5 days now since i've heard from him. Yeah i know i'm able to top up his calling card, i need to get the number off him next time i speak to him so i can top it up for him

Might sound like a silly question but what is the BFBS? And how would i request shout outs on their website?

Great with what your doing, with the challenge your fianc! has set you, all the best with completing it

Hi, my boyfriend has been away for 7 months now and I have been left for the first time, he is currently in Cyprus now on his way home.

I found the hardest, bit at the half way point, think he still had half a tour to do, and having been away serving myself I have found him being away harder (strange to hear I know) as I was busy working and had no worries when I was away. Being left at home you have yourself and your partner to worry about and lots of free time to think.

Having his r n r postponed is not a bad thing. My bf had his near the beginning so the second half was longer than the first which I hated.

I found packing boxes took up some time, sent one a week. i avoided sweets as he had lots of these sent, if you want me to PM you a list i would be happy to (quite a long list!)

I tried my best to keep busy with friends, weekends away visiting nights out etc. try not to let yourself get in a rut of waiting by the computer for a Facebook message (may this mistake for a while too, I had a good friend snap me out of it!)

I hope this advice helps. Feel free to PM me :-)

Jenny.W

I've been with my husband for 16 years now (he's RN) and it does get easier to cope with. At the moment he's been away since August and was due home this weekend but there were problems with the boat so he now won't be home for Xmas. It's very sad but life really does have to go on. I have a strong family so I'm lucky and I'm very independent.

I think during 2012, the total amount of days home collectively have been around two weeks. It's life as we know it....

CrazyAngel_3

Focus on the good things about him being away. My husband is in the Navy - We have been together for three years and for the whole time he has been back 6 months, away 6 months..... constantly! You do get used to it. In my opinion the good things are

1. Sleep like a starfish if you want
2. A peaceful nights sleep - no getting woken up by snoring
3. Eat what you want, when you want - if you want a glass of wine and a packet of crisps for dinner then you can!
4. No one to answer to - go out when you want, come home when you want, eat, sleep, do whatever you want all the time!
5. YOU are in control of the TV remote :-)

And im sure there are a million other positives you can think of.

Also, and this is the best one - when he gets back it will like you are falling in love all over again. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder and it is true! Each time my husband gets back from 6 months away we are like love struck teenagers again, and you can catch up on all the things you havent been able to do together. It is so much fun, and will totally be worth it!

Good luck and stay strong!

dw85

Welshgirl - well here we are 4 months later. My h2b is less than two weeks from coming home from his deployment, so you do get there. Your RnR is coming up so something to look forward to and prepare for. Just remember when he comes back that you will most likely be sharing him with everyone ( as much as I know you'll want him to yourself) and then once he goes back, it's a very short hop to the end of tour!
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oscardog

Am back on R&R from Afghan now for a couple of weeks.

Start dreaming about what you are going to do when it comes around............................