Convince me not to quit!

Brallaqueen

I hate my job. It reduces me to tears and frustration on a regular basis and sucks all my energy. I feel undervalued, overworked and have been passed over for promotion.

The problem is, I have no energy left at the end of the day to job search. The few times i have managed to, I have not had any response. The rejection depressed me so much I contacted Samaritans, and I don't think I can go through that again.

I'm worried that I really am crap and that this is the only place that would touch me with a barge pole. It's common knowledge that once you are in, no matter how useless you are, no one can remove you (public sector). It might me the only thing between me and pepertual unemployment. I am single and have a mortgage and a cat. I can't afford to walk out but it is so tempting right now - we have had a clandestine appointment (not advertised, for a position I would ahve liked) and we do not get on - she rages if things go wrong and I can't stand it right now.

I'm in bits.

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UPDATE: Well, I handed in my notice today. Being screamed at for 'not taking responsibility for my own paperwork' was the last straw. The tension in the office is abysmal and my other colleague is off sick with stress leaving me to face the new 'all angry all the time' line manager on my own.

I feel much better, and I have some savings to keep me afloat for a short while. Don't get me wrong, I have made a silly move and I know it but for the first time in a long while I'm not sitting here fretting about what I'm going to face tomorrow, wondering what I will be pulled up on next, or crying myself to sleep.

Here's hoping I can make it into the next year...

Hmm71

Brallaqueen, you have my utmost sympathy, you sound exactly like me in my last job (civil service). I was so close to just quitting last year and sodding the consequences but fortunately I was rescued this year by voluntary redundancy. I too still worry that I'm crap at working now and I think I will never be able to get a "proper" job again.
I know how hard it is once you get into that state of mind, to get out of it again but you have to keep on telling yourself you are NOT crap, you are worth more than being passed over all the time and being shouted at for everything.
Being single does make it so much harder to walk out, try to stick it out for now but keep on looking for other jobs. Don't take rejection to heart, easier said than done I know but getting a new job is so difficult and competitive now, it doesn't mean you are useless ok?
Is there another job in your department you could move to?
Don't give up, your cat needs you
I know it's hard but keep on believing in yourself, you have more in you than you know. Think of all the things you do in your job and make a list of your skills and your knowledge and think about how you can transfer those to a new role.

paddyrg

Sounds like you're in the wrong job - you may be right, maybe you *are* not great at what you're doing, but people tend to be bad at things their hearts are not in. Nobody is crap at everything, nobody is great at everything, you just need to find where you fir in. It may be a different company, it may be a different crowd, it may be a different office, it may be a different industry. I know people who are happy working as runner drivers 9 months of the year then spending winter in Goa, and others who work all year in 9-5. There are a massive range of jobs out there!

sammyjammy

As another Civil Servant I feel for you, I have been there. One of the best things about the Civil Service (and the worst!) is that you can move between jobs relatively easy, you can move into a completely different area of work. If you feel as bad as you type then why not consider applying for a level transfer throguh your HR department. I am rubbish at applications and interviews and so applied for one of these to get a job in Finance 12 years ago. I'm still in Finance now and although my current job is pants I really found my spiritual home (well you know what I mean).

I actually have an interview this afternoon which I am really excited about, its at the same grade but will be a real challenge and involve studying for external exams if I get it.

Best of luck.

Brallaqueen

Thank you everyone. I wrote the email in a rush and in a state, I'm a bit calmer now. TYOur thoughts and commetns have been really appreciated.

MissSarah1972

Think - walk out and how easy do you think it will be to get another job?

Look for another job now then leave.

DCFC79

I also understand what your going through OP, my previous job was completely new to me and unbeknown to me I was expected to be as good as more experienced people with 4 months. I felt like quitting, couldn't see a way out (had applied for jobs but got nowhere). Despite not liking how the place was run and the job I was doing I just perervered with it.

Forgot to say Id wanted to not turn up every morning but still went to work as the thought of being out work for an unknown amount of time was a concern. Seems your situation is worse than mine so i hope you get through it 1 way or another.

Your the only 1 who knows how bad it really is and whether its worth you quitting. Have you had a look what jobs are available and applied for any ?

antw23uk

I think you should consider seeing your doctor to maybe prescribe you some anti depressants. Bless you I think its just getting too much for you and there is nothing wrong with that, it happens to all of us at some time or another and sometimes we just need some extra help.

Good luck and don't leave until you have another job.

lincroft1710

Brallaqueen wrote: »

It's common knowledge that once you are in, no matter how useless you are, no one can remove you (public sector).

It may be "common knowledge" but it is totally incorrect. I worked in the Civil Service for many years and at least 6 people come quickly to mind who were dismissed on inefficiency/poor attendance grounds.

lincroft1710

Although I've been out of the CS for several years, it was always the case that many were passed over for promotion and if your face didn't fit....... Many of my former colleagues were literally square pegs in round holes, the CS was definitely not the right career for them and there was a fairly high turnover of staff.

teabelly

If you worry that you're crap you probably aren't. Genuinely crap people are completely unaware of their weaknesses!