teens pocket money

lika_86

Georgiaizzy wrote: »

Kids get murdered within their own home! As a 41 yr old, I had freedom as a child but my mother knew where I was at all times and at 13 home by 7pm. England is not a safe place and as parents we have a responsibility to our children's safety.

I think you're murder obsessed. First children shouldn't be allowed out on their own in case they get murdered by strangers, then they're getting murdered in their own homes!

What do we do with the children to stop them all getting murdered?!

Won't someone think of the children?!

georgiaizzy

lika_86 wrote: »

I think you're murder obsessed. First children shouldn't be allowed out on their own in case they get murdered by strangers, then they're getting murdered in their own homes!

What do we do with the children to stop them all getting murdered?!

Won't someone think of the children?!

What a silly thing to say. I did not say child shouldn't be out on there own, I said what is a child doing out for 8 hrs on their own?

May you all continue this conversation without me, I am not judging anyone, I am however amazed that children are given such large amounts off money per week, to spend as they wish on junk food and what ever else, with parents not knowing where they are. Shoot me down, however I am comfortable in what I say. Good night.

geoffky

The problem with over protection is that they do not get into situations that need thinking through and are not as well rounded as people who have that sort of freedom...My wife was far too over protective of my eldest daughter and it really did hold her back and i stopped her from doing it with my youngest and the difference in their confidence and outlook at the same age is worlds apart...My oldest is to this day not as confident or outward as my soon to be 14 year old..

jellyhead

miss_hh wrote: »

My goodness, can I come live with you lot?

My 16 and 14 year olds get £5 a week and and on one week they must use their £5 towards a top up by which I will also pay an extra £5.

I want to go and live with OP too

My husband who is the main breadwinner doesn't get £120 a month pocket money, let alone my 16 year old.

How much pocket money to give really varies by child. We live a mile away from town, so he doesn't need bus fares. I pay for his phone and his guitar lessons and a basic wardrobe, which he tops up with 'wants' but they are not 'needs'. I buy him shoes and a coat, because if I left it to him he'd wear shoes that had fallen apart, and his allowance isn't enough to buy a coat - he chooses his own though.

He gets £30 a month, but I give him £5 for lunch money one day a week when he's at the college, and packed lunches on the other days when he's in school.

He saves birthday and christmas money for things like gig tickets, train fares, guitars, amps etc. and the chores he does are expected of him, he doesn't get paid for them.

Poppy9

jellyhead wrote: »

and the chores he does are expected of him, he doesn't get paid for them.

glad I'm not the only parent who thinks this. My mother wouldn't have dreamed of paying me to run the hoover around and I'm the same with DD.

I also don't believe in paying for exam results. No way would I commit to X amount per grade at GCSE or at AS level.

At GCSE she had outstanding results which reflected her hardwork so we gave her a largish cash lump sum plus some special cupcakes which I had preordered. If she hadn't put in the hardwork before she wouldn't have got as much.

AS she had just a few small gifts i.e. a bar of her fav. chocolate and some Nails inc nail polish.

jellyhead

I bought mine a jacket he'd been eyeing up, it cost £50. It wasn't contingent on him getting certain grades though, because I already knew beforehand that he'd put a lot of effort into year 11. I knew his results wouldn't be anything to shout about, but they were better than they'd have been if he hadn't pulled his finger out. I gave him the jacket on results day

balletshoes

I agree with that approach - reward the effort, not the results.

Poppy9

So many friends of mine had committed to £50 and A* , £30 an A etc. whereas providing they worked to achieve their potential then the grade is irrelevant as you can't make a C grade student and A* pupil by offering more money.

barbarawright

Georgiaizzy wrote: »

Kids get murdered within their own home! As a 41 yr old, I had freedom as a child but my mother knew where I was at all times and at 13 home by 7pm. England is not a safe place and as parents we have a responsibility to our children's safety.

Surely England is actually a very safe place. In what way are a bunch of kids hanging around in a cafe or one of their houses in any danger? How are they in any more danger than when you and I were children?

animalhouse

This thread is very apt for us.

Over summer we told DS that he could have £15 per week pocket money, but that would have to cover going to the cinema, going swimming, any drinks (soft ones obviously!), magazines, etc. In other words all his usual summer holiday treats. The idea was that he would learn to budget.

'Let's go to the cinema, says I. No, no, I'm going down the skate park, says he, filling up a bottle of squash (instead of buying a can of fizz, like he always stung me for!).

He saved it all. Bought a Barcelona away kit and a new pair of football boots.

Then I found that Granny approved of him saving up and was subbing him!

We're back to him having £5.00 a week and me buying all the rest....