Emotional Blackmail

calleyw

Sooki wrote: »

Difficult one! It all depends on the facts and what has actually happened! Could still be considered harassment depending on what has actually gone on, this story is evolving and changing By the minute.

No the story is not evolving at all. I was wondering if no demands where made what the legal position was then.

Yours

Calley

Shovel_Lad

"The person who commits the offence of rape must be a man (as the penetration has to be with a penis)"

From:
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/Definitionofrape2.php

However, women have been convicted of rape so it would seem to be more complex than that.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1225124.stm

Sooki

Shovel_Lad wrote: »

"The person who commits the offence of rape must be a man (as the penetration has to be with a penis)"

From:
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/Definitionofrape2.php

However, women have been convicted of rape so it would seem to be more complex than that.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1225124.stm

I saw that but I'm not sure if the rape crisis statement is up to date, I'm pretty sure people have been convicted of rape using things other than man bits.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

A hypothetical answer is to tell the blackmailer to f*** off before the police are called. If the reply is 'well, I'll tell B then', the appropriate response is 'Do it, then. I'll still contact the police about you blackmailing me to sleep with you'.


A sneaky/desperate person would change their mobile number and secretly amend it on B's phone so if texts were waved around, they could be dismissed as fakes (assuming there is no police involvement).


That way, any claims are dismissed as 'A said they'd do this if I didn't sleep with them'.



I have a friend whose ex contacted her then BF and claimed something similar, only with the added bonus that the baby she was carrying was his :eek:.

Unfortunately for him, he had form of 'revealing' affairs and suchlike when he wanted to stick a wedge in between people. So once it happened, he was laughed at.


Which was just as well for the friend. As she had been seeing them both right up until a fortnight before conception.

Shovel_Lad

Sooki wrote: »

I saw that but I'm not sure if the rape crisis statement is up to date, I'm pretty sure people have been convicted of rape using things other than man bits.

It is up to date.

The previous statement ( "The person who commits the offence of rape must be a man (as the penetration has to be with a penis)") was taken from the Rape Crisis website where they are stating what the current law says. The Sexual Offences Act 2003 came into force on the 1 May 2004.

They also state:

"If the penetration is with something other than a penis then the offence is assault by penetration".

And this:

"The offence of Rape (Sec 1(1) SOA 2003) can only be committed by a man; however, a woman can be charged with, or convicted of rape as a secondary party. For example, a woman may be convicted of rape where she facilitated (helped) a man who has raped another person."

This is the actual legistlation:

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2003/42/notes/contents

poet123

It is blackmail/harassment obviously, but it would not be rape until you had agreed to, and engaged in, sex under duress.

I would call his bluff, tell him to do his worst, but pre empt the situation by telling B. If he persists, call the police.