Mixed sex children sharing rooms

Carmina_Piranha_3

we built an extension into the back garden. more to do with us thinking a 9 year old wouldn't want to share with a baby - nothing to do with their sex, they are both boys anyhow.

it annoyed the bunnies though, they have less garden space to play in, and i had to get a rotary dryer instead of having a washing line.

there's less than a year between my sister and I and we hated sharing a room. it depends how well they get on i suppose, i know some people would be happy to share right up to moving out. i am the eldest, and i remember when i was 12 wanting my own room desperately but perhaps if i'd got on better with my sister i wouldn't have minded sharing.

Carmina_Piranha_3

we got rehoused by the council once there were 4 of us in a bedroom, i was the eldest and was 10.5. a lot depends on if there are any houses for you to move into, we had to wait for somebody to die. i think the rules back then were that the eldest had to be 7, so we waited less than 4 years but i know other families waited longer.

i live on a council estate and a lot of families here are using dividers, but it means the adults moving into the smallest room because the second bedroom isn't large enough to divide.

Penny_Watcher

Carmina_Piranha wrote: »

i live on a council estate and a lot of families here are using dividers, but it means the adults moving into the smallest room because the second bedroom isn't large enough to divide.

That's the point I was going to make. Will your bed fit into the smaller bedroom? Is the larger room big enough to divide? Good Luck - your financial situation will probably change before you need to worry about being overcrowded

Spendless

squashy wrote: »

My DS (4) and DD (7) have their own rooms. However, given the choice they love to snuggle up in the same bed! The older one reads to the younger one for hours then they drift off, when we check on them after they have fallen asleep they are usually cuddled up together. It's so cute!

This is the same ages as my 2, just the other way round with my son the eldest and they do exactly the same! In fact I asked this morning why we had moved to a bigger house, when this is what they do!

If you've got the space for a conservatory, then could you build a 'granny flat'/extension in that space instead, to create another bedroom when they are older?

fairyprincess76

cant remember the ages that the council told my friend but she was in a 2 bed house and was told that her children cannot share past a certain age i think its 8/9 years and then she would have to seperate them.

she wasnt in a council has but was told that this is what they say. i dont know if there is some sort of law on this.

morlandbanks

My DS is 5 And DD is 3. We moved to a bigger house so that they would have seperate rooms 2 years ago. Thier beds were put into the same room on moving day for convenience...They're still there.
We've done the spare (larger) room out as a playroom with all the toys and in their bedroom we decorated it in a mutually agreeable theme and they love it. There are no toys in the bedroom to distract them at bedtime. They get a genuine punishment if sent to the bedroom, because there are only beds in there! Bedtime is great because we all sit on one bed for the story. Now and then I'll find DD in DS's bed because she's woken in the night and crawled in there for a cuddle. It just seems to work. I think it might even be partly why they DO get on so well.
I think it really works for us because they're so close in age, but neighbours of our have DD of 16 and DS of 9 and they wouldn't be in seperate rooms for the world. They've always shared.
Personally, if I'd had to stay sharing with my sister, I would've killed her in her sleep!! (I'm joking of course) We didn't get on at all!

inkie

If you have room for a conservatory, why not go for a traditional small extension on the ground floor instead and make this into a bedroom. We have just done this for our DD(10), who wnated her own space away from her younger sister, and so the extnesion that we had built about 5 yrs ago which was used as a study has just been redeployed as a bedroom - we have put a loft bed in there to make the best use of the space - the room is about 6 ft by 12', and so not huge, and is alos accessed from the kitchen - but its great like a little studio for her. What I am saying is try and think laterally with the space you have got and don't discount anything.

lil_me

I was told the law is over the age of 10 they shouldn't share a bedroom, but someone else told me no such law exists. I only was told the law as a friends Mam was told by social services to split her childrens bedroom in 2 as they were boy 13 and girl 11 sharing a room. They just used a partition which was basically mdf from what I remember.

cooperbob

My situation is my 16yo son 5yo son 8 yo daughter and ex wife all sleep in the same room.
I sleep in a double room on my todd and my 18 yo son sleeps on his own in another room .
does anyone feel like me its REALLY not a good thing?

Carmina_Piranha_3

if you have 3 rooms then some juggling could happen. the people having a room of their own should have the smallest rooms