benefits advice please!

merlin68

Am i correct in thinking you can only claim housing benifit for six months if the house is up for sale? If not she won't be able to claim and also very few private landlords except HB. The child should be getting taxi transport to school so distance dosen't really matter.

skintandscared_2

chris1973 wrote: »

Perhaps because we only have one side of the story and it takes two people to have a relationship.

The OP states that she wants to leave 'For lots of reasons' how exactly do you know some of them aren't her own?, are Argos running a special offer on Crystal balls again??

With all due respect, people give advice based on the facts posted here. It's not up to us to second-guess what the other party's situation might be. I just focused on a disabled child who needs a stable home and based my advice on that. The parents are grown-ups - it's their responsibility to make sure their child is the one who is inconvenienced the least, no matter what the circumstances of the break-up. It's not the child's fault!

helpfulperson

As others have said, it is always best to stay put in the house if that is possible, but if it is not, and you have very good reasons for leaving the house, then the local council have a duty to help you, if that is what you want. Ask for the homelessness officer and tell them you want to make a homelessness application (not just be put on the housing register).

JANETRICK

skintandscared wrote: »

If you have a disabled son to care for and find suitable accommodation for, why can't your OH move out instead, let you stay in the house and at least give your child some stability while his parents split up?

I know that would be the obvious and 'sensible' option...BUT my son attends an out of borough school. The borough I live in is poor to say the least with regard to services for my son ( he attends the out of borough school because he was mistreated at a school in this borough) and I have spent the last 12 years battling with them to get things that he needs...wheelchairs, care packages, you name it. The school he's currently at is fantastic and activities and support offered in the area is far better. I feel that moving there and having everything under that borough would be better for my son (and me) long term. I do not want him in this borough as an adult.

JANETRICK

merlin68 wrote: »

Am i correct in thinking you can only claim housing benifit for six months if the house is up for sale? If not she won't be able to claim and also very few private landlords except HB. The child should be getting taxi transport to school so distance dosen't really matter.

Hi, The house won't be sold for a while, my OH will be taking the mortgage over ultimately and there's no equity either. My son doesn't get taxi transport, I currently drive him to an out of borough school. By moving to the borough where he attends school I was hoping to either get transport provided or be closer for a shorter drive. My son is challenging and driving him alone can be difficult. (see my other reply re the out of borough school)

Re HB...I have found a number of landlords that will take it given that i'm a full time carer, I'm just not sure about being named on my current mortgage for a while and claiming the benefits????

JANETRICK

rxbren wrote: »

what if its his house that he paid for before metting her and with no money from the op contributing to it or bills etc
its always unfair that the man has to just hand everything over and start again

It was my house before my OH moved in...I want him to stay here because he can keep it all going being the main income earner. Im a full time carer, no income and moving to another borough where my son already attends school would be the best thing for my son; his future as a disabled adult will be better provided for. My son will be coming back here to stay with his Dad regularly ( I hope!)

JANETRICK

mumx3 wrote: »

Yes it's very very unfair, but all the time kids are involcved the man unfortunatly comes off worse, even if he has paid for everything, including the home.

I don't want my OH to be worse off either...part of the reason why in weighing all this mess up I'd rather move my son as difficult as its going to be because the borough where he attends school is far far better. He'll also get to come back here (somewhere familiar) to be with his Dad.

Loanranger

Have you considered getting a job? Your son is at school so no need for you to be at home.

JANETRICK

sharjay99 wrote: »

Also do through checks into your sons school, I dont know where abouts you live but my sister had real trouble with her sons school. Its based almost on the boundary of Bournemouth/Poole where we live but more on her (poole side) yet Bournemouth will fund it and Poole wont so she had to go through lots of appeals etc.

I agree with the above poster, cant you stay in the house atleast for now, for stability?

My son already attends the out of borough school; he's been there a year now and it'll be permanent until he's 19 thankfully. I battled long and hard to get him in and won!

Loanranger

JANETRICK wrote: »

It was my house before my OH moved in...I want him to stay here because he can keep it all going being the main income earner. Im a full time carer, no income and moving to another borough where my son already attends school would be the best thing for my son; his future as a disabled adult will be better provided for. My son will be coming back here to stay with his Dad regularly ( I hope!)

Are you retaining the family home and trying to get another home as well? Sounds dodgy, I'm afraid.