benefits advice please!

JANETRICK

Hi all I need help!
I'm just separating from my husband. We have a mortgaged property and i need to leave for lots of reasons . I'm a full time carer for our disabled son, earning the £58 per week carers allowance and my son recieves the highest rate DLA for both care and mobility. I've checked what benefits i may be entltled to, and i will try to get maintenance but not sure what my first move should be. My son attends special school out of borough, so I think it would be prudent ot move to that borough if I can so that all services are 'under the same roof'. What do i do first? Look for a house and then apply for any benefits or the other way around? Any advice gratefully recieved!

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look for a house first,and as your only income is CA then apply for income support

skintandscared_2

If you have a disabled son to care for and find suitable accommodation for, why can't your OH move out instead, let you stay in the house and at least give your child some stability while his parents split up?

sharjay99

Also do through checks into your sons school, I dont know where abouts you live but my sister had real trouble with her sons school. Its based almost on the boundary of Bournemouth/Poole where we live but more on her (poole side) yet Bournemouth will fund it and Poole wont so she had to go through lots of appeals etc.

I agree with the above poster, cant you stay in the house atleast for now, for stability?

northerntwo1

As far as I know (and it isn't much that I do know), you being a homeowner will affect your benefits.

Please ensure you have looked at this part of your claim fully and are aware of the rules. I'd hate for you to base your choice on XX and up with YY due to being a homeowner.

Irn-Bru-Kid

I agree with the skintandscared. Why can't you kick him out? It will be much easier for him to find a one bedroom place than it will for you to find a place to accommodate both you and your son.

Lots of landlords won't accept HB, so there is your first hurdle in trying to find a place. Have you got a deposit etc?

Of course we don't know the reasons why you need to move and not your husband, but him leaving would be easier for everyone involved.

kingfisherblue

I stayed in the family home with my kids when my ex left. I'm also a carer for my disabled son and the house is mortgaged. I get some help with the mortgage, as well as benefits including carer's allowance and income support.

My best advice is to see a solicitor who specialises in family law. My case took a long time to sort out, but the result is that my son has a home for life. That gives him the stability he needs, and that's all I wanted.

chris1973

I agree with the skintandscared. Why can't you kick him out?

Perhaps because we only have one side of the story and it takes two people to have a relationship.

The OP states that she wants to leave 'For lots of reasons' how exactly do you know some of them aren't her own?, are Argos running a special offer on Crystal balls again??

rxbren

what if its his house that he paid for before metting her and with no money from the op contributing to it or bills etc
its always unfair that the man has to just hand everything over and start again

thorsoak

rxbren wrote: »

what if its his house that he paid for before metting her and with no money from the op contributing to it or bills etc
its always unfair that the man has to just hand everything over and start again

If the OP's partner is the father of her disabled child, then he has a moral responsibility to support the child - and this could mean that he is the one to move out of the house.

mumx3

rxbren wrote: »

what if its his house that he paid for before metting her and with no money from the op contributing to it or bills etc
its always unfair that the man has to just hand everything over and start again

Yes it's very very unfair, but all the time kids are involcved the man unfortunatly comes off worse, even if he has paid for everything, including the home.