How To Get Your Ex Back

janiels123

Have you found yourself in a screwed up love situation and/or you might have made matters worse with your ex after the split?

BitterAndTwisted

If it's over, it's over. There's no making things worse because it's already finished and done with.

determined_new_ms

one of my lovely friends has a saying, which I have found to be true. You can't eat cold soup warmed up. When its over, its over. Move on

POPPYOSCAR

Never go backwards in life, only move forward.

raven83

janiels123 wrote: »

Have you found yourself in a screwed up love situation and/or you might have made matters worse with your ex after the split?

Yes I have and no I wouldn't go back never, ever again! No going on holiday to the same place twice and all that.

Fire_Fox

Welcome! Don't even go there you split up for a reason, either you are not suited or one/ both of you have a lot of maturing/ soul searching/ personal development to do.

Saturnalia

As I found out today, they are an ex for a good reason! :rotfl:

No but seriously. I know a few couples that got together too young, split for silly reasons but with no real hard feelings between them, dated other people in the interim then met a few years later and decided to give it another go, and it worked.

But they'd done a bit of growing up in the middle and whatever issue had split them the first time round wasn't there anymore or better dealt with.

OTOH I know one woman who spent years with a man who never put her first, dumped him, didn't like the single life (she thinks she's it because she has a man, she's always telling single people that they don't love themselves enough to have a relationship, even though hers is pony!) and got back together with him, and is now trying to headbutt him into marriage mortgage n' motherhood. And he still never shows any signs of actually wanting to spend time with her. He'll probably go along with her plans, I mean it is cheaper to buy property on two decent salaries & he won't have to be a dad & husband if he's never home, will he?

(I mean I'm often told I have low self-esteem, but I can't imagine being low enough to want to live like her!)

What I'm trying to say in a long-winded way is there's no harm done in giving it ONE more go if you think it might work out this time, but don't stick around if nothing has changed to make it so. And definitely never get into the on-again-off-again cycle. When you've split twice, stay split.

MarilynMonroe_2

Definitly, am there now! but we have a child and still love each other at heart so in this case its worth trying.
Whats your story?

gettingbetter

can i just add my tuppence worth
i started seeing someone when i was 13/14
we were together 4 years
his so called friend told my some lies
we split up
he was my first love
27 years later we are back together

kas xx

System

Twice i split up with exes and got back together, it failed in both cases. I tend to find people leave your life for a reason.

vodkachick68

Just want to tell you my little story lol. I went out with a guy when i was 14 for 9 years (childhood sweetheart) i was head over heels in love with him, and him with me. In 1992 we split for good and he met and married someone else and so did i. I never forgot him and occasionally used to see him around,always still getting that butterfly feeling and spark that i never had with my ex-husband. I found out in Feb that he had split with his wife 2 years previously and remember thinking i would love to see him again.Bearing in mind i was in an unhappy marriage and had been for the last 5 years! Then on April 5th i was having a meal with some friends in the pub and he was in there with his mate,i had that butterfly feeling again and went over to speak to him. As soon as i started chatting to him i knew i still loved him! Anyway to cut a long story short we got back together and are blissfully in love again and sooo happy. Ok i have only been with him 5 months but i know it feels right and i still get that butterfly feeling before i see him and he does with me.

All i will say is that it can work second time round and if the spark and chemistry is there then there is no reason why it shouldn't:D