Parents Evening and My Ex!!!!!!!!

taggiesgirl

Hiya,
Just need to know if anyone else feels the same?????

Went to parents evening last night with my ex (my sons dad).
Well my son is doing excellent hes meeting all targets in spelling/reading etc..
He is well above average in his maths and is the top in his class (hes 7).
I was soooo proud of him!.:T

The problem is his dad, as soon as we sat down the teacher said 'you have an amazing son,hes poliet,kind all the teachers love him you should be very proud'. (i was nearly in tears what a nice thing to say).:T :T

His dad just sat there reeping in the praise and making out that our son is doing well because of him and is such a lovely boy because of him! :mad:

Yet the truth is he walked out when my son was 1!!! and then only got interested in him because i meet someone else and he didnt like the fact that my new partner was playing dad to his son (his words not mine)

Im the one who does his homework with him!! im the one thats taught him right from wrong etc...... (his dad wont allow him to bring homework round cause it messes up THEIR time together).

I am soo angry and think that if he was any knid of a man hed have told that teacher its all thanks to his mum!!

Life has not been and is not easy for my son or myself ( i have 2 other kids not by him).

When he saw his son he said 'oh youve done good' part of me feels hed have liked it better if hed have got a really bad report then he can continue his argument that apparently im a bad mother:rolleyes:

Sorry for rant just need to tell someone!!!:rotfl:

Karrie

My ex and I recently attended parents evening and my sons report was fantastic. I almost cried. The teacher said "you should be very proud of your son." At the end of the day I know who's done the homework with him, I know he is a great child. YOU know you have done all you can for your son so it really doesn't matter what the school or anyone else thinks. You're a great mum and that's all that counts. :beer:

janb5

Hi Taggiesgirl- I do understand how you are feeling ! i reckon the teachers know what the true situation is but they have to see both of you and not be judgemental. You and your son know the truth so well done to you and dont let him wind you up. Inwardly he knows that he hasnt contributed as much as he should have done!

snails's_pace

sit back and be very very very proud of yourself for raising such a bright young boy my dear!!
only 2 people need know what matters..your one of them and so is your son, he may not show it yet..but later in life he will remember who was the active parent :grouphug:

Broken_hearted

You should be happy he's making the effort to attend and praise his son afterwards. You should be proud of yourself for raising your son so well, take a deep breath step back and smile it's not worth the stress.

Angel777

Hi, well done! you should be really really proud of YOURSELF considering you have 2 other kiddies aswell

you know in your heart that it is down to you. Forget about what his dad has said.

you deserve all the credit!

comping_cat

Well done to you and your son - like the others have said, you know who put in the hard work, and so does your son, and i would expect, the teacher does too but if not, dont worry, its your son who is the important one, and you have every right to feel proud of him!!!

Prudent

I suspect the teacher knows who has put in the hard work. Children chatter away and when you have had a class for a while you tend to know a fair bit about the children's home life.

newMS

never crossed my mind to even suggest my ex comes to parents evenings with me, why would i ?, i'm the one who has to answer their questions about how heavy the moon weighs (??) or has to help with ideas for a teen tv mag cover so why should he even get a smidgen of praise for the hard work i have done in raising my boys ?

loftus

newMS wrote: »

never crossed my mind to even suggest my ex comes to parents evenings with me, why would i ?, i'm the one who has to answer their questions about how heavy the moon weighs (??) or has to help with ideas for a teen tv mag cover so why should he even get a smidgen of praise for the hard work i have done in raising my boys ?

I guess it would depend on how involved he is with the children and how interested he is in their education.

newMS

he sees them once a week on a sunday, suppose if he were that interested he'd ask me, maybe he asks the kids, still wouldn't invite him to come to parents eve though