Community care Grants

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yet another thread that goes off at a tangent and isnt about giving alot of advice but alot of judgement
i really despair about this forum,i cant begin to imagine how many people are being put off asking for advice atm
its about time some people re-read the rules !

Dunroamin

broughton_man wrote: »

A partner having money for there stay not my stay, as a british person i am entitled to benefits in my own rights, i am looking for a microwave because i cannot grip and hols hot items from the oven and yes my partner helps out, but they carnt be here 24/7 to cook and take care of me!! also i only have the use of my left side after i had a stroke a few years ago hence asking for a microwave, and it was just that asking!!! i have not applied it amazes me how people judge if you have a partner they can do it all for you.

Seeing that your new partner supposedly has no income and will be living off the money you receive in benefits, it doesn't seem unrealistic that she should prepare meals for you as you're so disabled.

( I do pretty well everything for my disabled husband so I feel that I'm in a position to judge what's normal.)

gemma1979

Face1992 wrote: »

the op said:
I was talking about PRACTICAL help, not just monetary help.

I do realise that for some it's a very odd concept that couples help each other out, but surely if the OP's new arrival has got no money, they aren't going to be out gallavanting all of the time and will have plenty of time to help the OP out with cooking stuff surely?

Yes it is a fair point that if physically/mentally able the partner should be contributing in a practical sense.

Face1992

woodbine wrote: »

yet another thread that goes off at a tangent and isnt about giving alot of advice but alot of judgement
i really despair about this forum,i cant begin to imagine how many people are being put off asking for advice atm
its about time some people re-read the rules !

As in life, one person's advice is another's waste of a sentence. I've seen numerous forums where there are 20 different answers to one question. So which answer is the right one?

princessdon

It's not about judgement.

Unless you can answer how someone who had to have XX savings and means now needs money (which I can't but said they need to find out).

do you know the answer?

I helped OP with the "can I claim" in previous threads. I have utmost sympathy

I personally do not know if immigration (not DWP) would wonder where all their savings and income went, but before I asked for the price of a microwave (bearning in mind this is their future and love of their life) I'd sure want to find out!

gemma1979

Dunroamin wrote: »

Seeing that your new partner supposedly has no income and will be living off the money you receive in benefits, it doesn't seem unrealistic that she should prepare meals for you as you're so disabled.

( I do pretty well everything for my disabled husband so I feel that I'm in a position to judge what's normal.)

Yes she should contribute to the household in a practical sense (assuming she is not also physically/mentally disabled herself in any way) but she should not be expected to be a full time carer. Some people are not 'cut out' to be carers and if this was the case he would be better looked after by someone who was and was professionally trained. I care for my disabled son and it is hard work I do it because I love him but it is no easy feat. Saying this she can be expected to do the usual partnerly things if she is able like cooking meal etc.

gemma1979

princessdon wrote: »

It's not about judgement.

Unless you can answer how someone who had to have XX savings and means now needs money (which I can't but said they need to find out).

do you know the answer?

I helped OP with the "can I claim" in previous threads. I have utmost sympathy

I personally do not know if immigration (not DWP) would wonder where all their savings and income went, but before I asked for the price of a microwave (bearning in mind this is their future and love of their life) I'd sure want to find out!

Yes they may be better getting some professional advice regarding these matters from CAB or such like

princessdon

gemma1979 wrote: »

Yes they may be better getting some professional advice regarding these matters from CAB or such like

I just know from their threads 6 weeks ago they needed to prove income and means for support.

Asking for a loan (for a cheap item) in such a short space of time *may* be looked at. It may not of course - I have no idea.

But I'd hate for the OP to throw away what they called the love of their life, their soul mate, for the sake of a small loan

So yes - Advice should be sought - if it's OK then all good, but the risk of immigration looking that this as they don't have means to support is something I'd think hard about before applying, just my personal judgement.

gemma1979

princessdon wrote: »

I just know from their threads 6 weeks ago they needed to prove income and means for support.

Asking for a loan (for a cheap item) in such a short space of time *may* be looked at. It may not of course - I have no idea.

But I'd hate for the OP to throw away what they called the love of their life, their soul mate, for the sake of a small loan

So yes - Advice should be sought - if it's OK then all good, but the risk of immigration looking that this as they don't have means to support is something I'd think hard about before applying, just my personal judgement.

Yes it would be a good idea wouldn't it lol