Trying for a Baby Part 8

MiffyMoo_2

I think we all have that worry Katy. You just don't know how long or how quickly it will take to fall pregnant. Good luck on you ttc journey - i hope its nice and short for you.

Birdie - that sounds positive. It's good to have a sympathetic GP and pleased that he's got the ball rolling for you.

Tea Lover - 3 hours commute?! That's crazy. Fingers crossed this is the last day you'll be in the office. And you'll get to enjoy all the festivities in the lead up to Xmas

thriftylass - aw, a Xmas Eve BFP would be great. I'm sure you wouldn't forget to test with al the goings on. But Xmas is a nice distraction

Mrs TM - Hugs. Hope you are ok. Unfortunately the 2ww draaaaaaaaaags so bad I'm halfway through already and wishing the week away

Afm, not much. Just ploughing through with some work. I have an hour's peace this morning whilst OH takes DD out with the dog for a walk. She didn't have a very good night last night, lots of crying and upset. I blame teeth. But once I went to bed at midnight she didn't wake up til 7.30am so at least I got a decent stretch of sleep. OH is leaving for work at lunchtime today so I forsee an afternoon of toy playing (and maybe a little CBeebies)

Mrs_T_M

Thriftylass - I'll be testing on that day too, perhaps we can remind one another, so long as the nasty AF doesn't rear her ugly head before then?

MiffyMoo - Thank you for the words of encouragement. I tend to over think everything, and although I went through yesterday and apologised to some of my older "friends" from another forum, I cannot help but think there won't be a way to mend the bonds. I don't fit in with anyone in real life, but I feel more free online. I have time to think up a decent response and add to the conversation, instead of trying to politely wait for a lull in the conversation to have my say and always getting passed over because I'm too shy. At least the husband felt better this morning (not enough for a bd though).

My tummy is still queasy, leading me to think I am trying to fight off some sort of bug, although I was queasy a day before visiting the gp, so it must have been something I picked up while I was out last week doing grocery shopping. I'm attempting to eat my first actual "meal" of this week, since I've not felt like eating more than a bite or two at a time since Friday. We will see how it goes. The good thing about being queasy - makes it much easier to lose weight! Unfortunately, my blog revolves around food and recipes, and I've really neglected it of late.

I love making new friends and acquaintances, but I always feel like I'll be too open with my life, have too many tmi moments, or will be too overbearing on them, all of which are far too easy to do on-line.

amus

katy29 wrote: »

Thanks all for the welcome. As its the first time ever I am trying to become pregnant, any hints/tips you can give me would be great. Curious about the fertility testing. For a bit of background to me, I'm 29, work full time in a desk job for a very large company and I have 2 sweet little cats. I had my implant removed 18 months ago as we planned to start trying when my time was up on my second one but we put it on hold to buy a house. I can't wait to be a mum but very anxious that I won't fall pregnant. My health has not been the best with me suffering from high blood pressure and acid reflux. All comments will be gratefully received

If you're only just starting to TTC I would just say make sure you BD every other day and see what happens!! I wouldnt worry about charting your cycles and using ovulation kits unless you've been trying for a few months (unless its something you want to do).

thriftylass

MiffyMoo wrote: »

thriftylass - aw, a Xmas Eve BFP would be great. I'm sure you wouldn't forget to test with al the goings on. But Xmas is a nice distraction

Mrs_T_M wrote: »

Thriftylass - I'll be testing on that day too, perhaps we can remind one another, so long as the nasty AF doesn't rear her ugly head before then?

Thanks, I feel rather strangely optimistic this month but not sure if I dare to test or just wait to see if AF comes (at least this time I'm wiser and bought a big box of cheap tests rather than wasting god knows how much on ClearBlue etc . Been through all this with DS after a MC and 18 months of trying. Never know though . Good luck for yours Mrs_T_M

Mrs_T_M

Thanks Thriftylass! I'm still learning, as unfortunately nothing comes naturally to me. I have no clue what my body is doing, but I do know when it throws a temper tantrum I hate it! I'm optimistic as well. I really hope I get a positive soon, honestly more for the husbands sake than mine. He is so excited that we are trying, even though he has never been around a baby before! We really need to fix that, and soon. I've thankfully been around little ones my whole life, from younger cousins to children 3-adult that I've taught and tutored.

My husband is the complete opposite of my ex, who said that I'd never be a good mother (although now he's paying child support for a child he will never see due to him cheating on me, but I digress). Having someone you care about say that to you really stings, and that was one of the things I was dealing with, finalising, and cutting out of my life yesterday.

I still haven't dealt with losing my dad over two years ago. He would have loved my husband and would have loved having grandchildren. That's my next gigantic hurdle to overcome in this examining my past thing I've been trying to do lately.

thriftylass

Mrs_T_M wrote: »

I still haven't dealt with losing my dad over two years ago. He would have loved my husband and would have loved having grandchildren. That's my next gigantic hurdle to overcome in this examining my past thing I've been trying to do lately.

Hugs and sorry to hear that. I can partially relate to this. My BF lost his mother when I was pregnant the first time just before the MC so she never got to see DS who came along later. It still hurts as this would have been her first grandchild. I'm an atheist but still kinda think she knows. Sounds silly I know, but otherwise I'll dwell on it too much.

thriftylass

Mrs_T_M wrote: »

It kinda figures that the husband would be sick tonight of all of them. I ovulated either last night or today, have a little bit of spotting now as well. Do you think that the bd we had yesterday morning will be enough? The husband will probably be out of commission for a few days now while he recovers.

Sperm can live for up to 4 days in fertile mucus so as long as it's within four days of OV (but only max a day after I think, as the egg then dies off) your chances are good. I think......as far as I know anyway

Mrs_T_M

I haven't even visited my dad's grave yet, and now that I'm in the UK I probably won't get the chance. My parents were "older" when they had me, mom was 34 almost 35 and dad was 37. I wasn't exactly a surprise, but I wasn't exactly planned either. They had been trying for 10 years. Due to that I was and am an only child. I just hope that my husband and I have an easier time of it than my parents did. My husbands parents on the other hand had him when they were young, and we haven't told them that we are even trying yet. His mom would probably drain a whole bottle of wine if we did! She doesn't want to be a grandmother until she's older, but quite frankly, it's our decision. Don't get me wrong, I love his parents completely and they have both been wonderful since I moved countries.

On a completely different note, what are the chances of passing on food and medicine allergies to a little one? I'm allergic to all sorts of antibiotics, as well as barley, almonds, walnuts, and macadamea nuts. The nuts don't cause anaphalactic shock (thank goodness) but do cause a few days of a very uncomfortable mouth.

Mrs_T_M

thriftylass wrote: »

Sperm can live for up to 4 days in fertile mucus so as long as it's within four days of OV (but only max a day after I think, as the egg then dies off) your chances are good. I think......as far as I know anyway

That sounds good then. I'm going to do my best to jump him when he gets home tonight if I can. :rotfl:

Might as well have some fun while we are waiting!

victoria270385

Hi amy, sorry i have only just seen your note to me on this message. I think im gonna give this month a miss and start a fresh from my next period as my previous one was messed up a bit and i have had negative ovulations tests all week so i will keep up to date when i come on in a few weeks.

Thanks very much xxx