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  • Oh Robin, I cannot express how sad I am for you, yet comforted by the thought of the two dogs been young and pain free with their Master once more. No thought is fanciful if it relieves at least a small part of your sorrow.

    I'm glad your DS2 could help with the digging. I truly hope you can get some rest now knowing they are at peace, and more so that Death will leave you and your loved ones well alone for a long time now. It has been far too unkind to you of late.

    Big virtual hugs to you and the dogs Xx
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  • NewLeaf_2
    NewLeaf_2 Posts: 2,116 Forumite
    oh god Robin I am soe sad and sorry. I don't even know what to say. Just know that I am thinking about you, really thinking about you and wishing you some peace. xx
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  • Oh dear God, Robin - I am at work and can not write just now, but I will be back later. I knew this was going to be emotional, and it has, must mop up my tears quickly before anyone notices.

    xx
  • LAM2011
    LAM2011 Posts: 1,432 Forumite
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    So sad - So sorry Robin - sending you love and hugs xx
  • grannyx2
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    Dear dear Robin, I too hope that the lesson has been well and truly delivered and that you now get the peace that you so obviously deserve.

    I don't think the 2 with PC, 2 with me is fanciful at all, I think it shows your obvious love for PC and would help me to feel better about the whole situation too.

    I hope CD and FD are looking after you in your time of sadness.

    Love and hugs Granny x
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  • The_Dragon
    The_Dragon Posts: 9,749 Forumite
    Just hugs *Robin*
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  • Mara_uk7
    Mara_uk7 Posts: 1,219 Forumite
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    So So Sorry for your losses Robin, Youve had a hard uphill path this last while, Hopefully now things will take a turn for the better. Spring is just around the corner ( If you stand on your tippytoes and look over that big snow-drift ) and Im sure we all feel a bit more positive when the temperature rises above freezing !
    Take care of you :)
    Its just a bad day, Not a bad life .. :cool:
  • *Robin*
    *Robin* Posts: 3,364 Forumite
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    edited 13 February 2013 at 3:58PM
    Hello again dear MSE Friends and Diary,

    It feels like Monday today. Am describing small triangles; bed, kettle, desk, bed. Tottering as if I were ninety. Oh dear; time to administer a swift talking-to, remember to take m'supplements and plan an un-taxing afternoon (plant seeds perhaps?).

    Thank you so much to Lucky, Dot, NewLeaf, Mara, LAM, Igamogam, Granny, HAW, Satchmo and Dragon for all your kind comments - it really does make me feel better knowing that I'm not quite as alone as I sometimes feel. :)

    Clever Dog and Fat Dog are being very loving and attentive, though were clearly not impressed when served with the last of BD's paella for their lunch. CD is now watching the fridge door intently, hoping it will magically disgorge some chicken to make up for the disappointing rice. :rotfl:
    (She'll have to wait until tomorrow as all her chicken is in the freezer ;)).

    Because it feels like Monday I've done last week's figures; turns out to have been my spendiest* seven days since paying the bill for PC's funeral. Four digits on the bottom line [just], oops. Includes the work done here, insurance x2 and a bathroom upgrade for Tenant One. Oh, and the vet's call out fee of course. :(
    * Ok it's not a proper word, but suits my MSEness. ;)

    Dot a while back you mentioned making savings work for you; stocks 'n shares etc. Am really not the person to ask, I'm afraid, as also need to look at this subject seriously now.
    PC used to enjoy 'playing the market' with his surplus funds and did pretty well at it. Luckily for us, he saw the recession coming and sold all his shares a couple of months before the slide began. Since then he focussed on property which is certainly giving a far better return than money in a bank, at the moment..
    :think:

    It is so quiet here now, there is just too much carpet on show - very odd not to be stepping over four dogs on my way round the house. :o Am missing BD coming up and nudging me in the hope of getting his ears cuddled.. He loved having his ears rubbed, it would send him into a happy trance. :) Oh I have plenty of good memories of him and PCD; they were part of our family life for so long..
  • dorothy52
    dorothy52 Posts: 457 Forumite
    edited 13 February 2013 at 6:50PM
    Oh Robin, you lost them both. My heart aches for you, it really does. Like you, I find the idea that you have two and PC has two has a poignant and beautiful symmetry; and I too believe that they are young and strong once more as they trip along the rainbow bridge in search of him (hanky out - wipe - blow - that's better.)

    The thought of your midnight vigils with them both on the cold terrace takes my breath away, yet the fact that all three of them died where they most wanted to be, and in the arms of the one they loved the most is so comforting. If there is such a thing as a good death, then surely this must be it.

    I am also comforted in knowing that your DS came to your aid today and did what needed to be done. It has been a strange day for me, today, and after reading your post this morning I really didn't know what to do with myself, so by lunchtime I did the only thing I could do - I walked through the snow, sat in my car and rang my DS. I didn't expect him to answer, he seldom does during the day as he is usually driving, yet today, when I needed him the most he did. We just chatted about my darling grandchildren and it cheered me up no end. To know that the indolent teenager who spent so long in the shower and even longer doing very little has grown into a fine young man with a partner and beautiful children reminds me that the circle of life keeps turning, and they are the reason that we don't mind growing old.

    I really don't know what else to say, Robin, without sounding trite, so I will sign off now and get Mr Dot's tea ready. Sleep soundly tonight, my friend, and I too hope that this, finally, is the full extent of your loss for many years to come.

    Much love as always, Dotxx
  • bast
    bast Posts: 448 Forumite
    Please excuse me if I have not got something but am in tears over bd`s death... Life is always a constant battle the day we wish to not do that battle anymore marks a transition in our life.. My brother died at 24 the battle was lost.. the battle to survive is far harder and more wonderful..
    I will lurk and post at time because i love reading about you... PC is my son wonderfully lovely but so autistic...
    Good Luck to you and special wishes x
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