How do I discipline my 2yr old son who thinks the naughty step is a game???

kr15snw

I think supernannys rules when they come off the step were:

First time: Tell him he has to stay on the step as he has been naughty but you will let him off in 2 minutes.

Second Time: Take him to the step and just say 'You must stay on the step for 2 minutes'

Third time and all times after that: Say nothing, just put him back. No eye contact or anything.

I seem to remember seeing one mum had to do this for 2 hours until her son would actually do it and stay there for the required time! But it worked, eventually.

I would say to keep trying It may be hard but I bet it will work in the end

comping_cat

I agree with the others, be consistant, give LOADS of praise for good behaviour and give as little attention to the bad behaviour as possible. It may be hard at first, but will pay off in the long run!!!

Penny-Pincher!!

Each child is different and has to be treated differently. DD used to sit on the bottom step or on a naughty seat in the lounge. This is going back 11 years so Supernanny wasnt around then, but seemed to work ok. When that didnt work we took away her favourite toy or didnt read her a bedtime story etc.

PP
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stressedoutmum

I still use this with my 7 year old and last week it was one and three quarter hours before he finally gave in. My 7 year old screams abuse at us and there is no way to calm him down until he wants to. WE ignore him when he screams and shouts and I mean SHOUTS and what he has started doing now is kicking the step to the point where he's damaged it. I cant put him in the bedroom because kicks his walls, if I put him in the kitchen he kicks the cupboards because he knows he gets attention from us if he 'kicks' because we have neighbours to think of - so he ends up out in the back garden still screaming and shouting but it can still take ages. Every 5 minutes I go into the garden and ask him if he is ready to apologise but I just get a deathly stare so I close the door again and keep doing that until he apologises. When he calms down he usually starts sobbing and apologises nicely. We give him a cuddle and talk about the fact that after all the noise, screaming and shouting he still hasn't got what he wanted and he must understand that he won't with that attitude. Perseverance is the absolute key but I have had days when the telly or radio are up full volume to drown him out. I'm told its just a phase ........

janeawej

have you tried taking his shoes off to try stopping him from kicking things? it does work honestly!

JillD_2

we have the same problem. Older one (almost 4) stayed put on the step, it was easy and worked, with my daughter, almost 2 1/2 its a different story, she messes around, giggles, its all a game, like you say.

Now what we do is, if she has to go on the step she is warned that if she gets up we will put her in her cot. She always gets up. So we always put her in her cot (and take all her toys out first.

I find that re-putting her on the step a dozen times made me more and more and more angry and stressed, whereas putting her in her cot upstairs for a couple of mnutes means I don't get so stressed and upsate plusI can get on with things or play with my son instead of running back and forth to the step for 20 minutes.

If she was in a bed then I'd put up the travel cot somewhere and use that instead, as long as she's contained and bored.


Crikey that all makes me sound very in control and calm. I am neither of those things.
HTH
Jill

*zippy*

Going back quite a few years before the wonderful supernanny I tried everything with my eldest one during the terrible twos and nothing worked until one day, I said right i'm going to count to three and if you your not going to be a good girl there's going to be trouble and it worked!!! I couldn't believe after pulling my hair out for months it was as simple as that, we never looked back as it worked every time, bless her she never asked what the "trouble" was going to be, which was a good job as I had no idea.

She is 15 now and if only it was still that easy

Mics_chick

I can't put him in his cot coz it's a cot bed and we've just taken the bars off after he climbed out of it one day instead of having his nap :rolleyes: but I suppose I could put him in his room - Arrgh!! wasn't thinking he'd just end up playing with his toys

I can't count to 3 either because he just joins in with me when I try to use it on my daughter - something else he thinks is a game

I'll have to try the favourite toy thing I think and see if that works...

jopsey

I totally sympathise I am going through something simular with my nearly 2 year old,hope you don't mind me adding my dilema

He is a very quite, sensitive little boy if we are at play groups and the other children are getting a bit rough he run's the other way ,if mums shout at there children his bottom lip quivers I only have to raise my voice and he is in floods of tears ... That was until this weekend after being poorly with croup and he had to have steriods,he has now turned into a terror throwing hissy fits ,trying to beat daddy up,throwing toys and generally being naughty

I put him on the naughty chair he laughed at me and tried to kick me then pulled an angry face.

I'm not sure if its the terrible two's overnight or if the drugs have had some effect?

We are going on our first plane journey in 2 weeks .....think I will need vallium

helen81_2

My DS didn't get the idea of the naughty step at first either,he thought it was hilarious and would always get down. I just kept putting him back there again and said NO,you stay therte for 2 minutes. It did work eventually,now when he's had his warning he automatically says 'ok I'm going' It's like one of us saying the expression 'I'll get me coat' LOL.

Helen x