Should I Stay?

ktb

NotSureWhatToDo wrote: »

.... we have only been together just over 6 months.

You have only been together 6 months and already feel that you dont love him anymore!?! If he was a serious contender you would still be very much in your honeymoon period surely? It would take the types of foundations created by lots of love, respect, trust & a solid partnership to get through what you are going through. It doesnt sound like you have those.

I went out with someone for 9 months who developed depression whilst we were together. I really couldn't cope and felt completey suffocated by it and I knew that I HAD to leave him for both our sakes. I just didnt have the types of feelings for him to deal with how much he changed. 10 year later he is happily married with a lovely little boy. I am 110% sure I did the right thing, even though I felt guilty at the time.

If I were you I would GET OUT sharpish before you are any more entagled in his emotional crises. In my opinion you really don't owe each other anything very much at this stage. If you did, you wouldnt be telling him you didn't love him and asking on here whether you should stay or go and he wouldn't be threatening suicide if you leave!

themull1

Ring his doctor and have a word with him.

FBaby

To be honest, it sounds from your latest post that you are more looking for reasons why he doesn't deserve support than accepting his feelings, even if you don't understand them, and that can be totally understandable if you don't love him any longer. If that is the case, staying with him won't help you or him.

I said to him does he really think it is such a good idea baring in mind the way he was last weekend with them and i got told 'yes it brightens my day'. Confused as to how they can brighten his day when he ignores them.

If he is severely depressed, he will find it hard to actually interact with them, but seeing them, hearing them talking, laughing, feeling their presence could very well make him feel a bit better.

Tried to talk to him about going back to the doctors and he is adamant that he has to wait the two weeks the doctor said :mad:.

Well if the doctor told him that it can take up to two weeks for the pills to work, he does have a point that it would be a waste of time to go back at this stage.

We had the plumber come out earlier and he stood chatting to himas if everything was back to normal, I asked him how he managed to do that but can't do it with everything else and just got told i dont know. This makes me feel that he has some control over it..

This comes across as if you are doubting his feelings. Even when depressed, you can have moments of normality, especially with perfect strangers.

I have spoke to both of those to quite an extent and sent them a link to this thread and they agree that there is something that isn't adding up

What is not adding up? His behaviour? Meaning what, that he is pretending to be depressed?

I'm really not sure i can cope with him being at home for the next 2 weeks. I was looking forward to him going back to work today so that I could have some 'me' time.

To be honest, it sounds like you don't even trust him that he is feeling as he says he does and doesn't make you very sympathetic towards him. The fact that you consider his being home as aggrevation for you rather than an opportunity for him to take a break from the stress at work shows that you are maybe beyond caring about him before yourself. If that is the case, you presence could actually do him more harm than good, even if he doesn't see it, and ultimatly, more harm to yourself.

~Chameleon~

If there's any indication that he is bipolar then anti-depressants should NOT be used as first line treatment and may well make his symptoms increasingly worse. The fact he is becoming more irritable and flying off the handle rings huge alarm bells of impending mania, which anti-depressants as a mono treatment can cause in someone with bipolar. Speak to his GP about getting him an urgent psychiatric referral.