Advice of how to deal with very rude Head Teacher

Savvy_Sue

marisco wrote: »

Firstly I find it bizarre that a member of teaching staff has spoken with a parent about something confidential about another teacher. This is not how issues or worries regarding staff conduct or problems would normally be handled.

I agree! And when I had a teacher telling me things which she should not have done about the governors and other people's children, I told the Head!

But. The issue has been resolved. You can either assume that the head meant to be rude, or that she did not. I'd assume she did not, until proved wrong ...

andygb

cobbingstones wrote: »

"You where very brave to come and see me this morning"

"You must of felt very small when I walked away from you"

I find it very hard to believe that a head teacher would say this to a parent, to use a phrase which would seem to indicate a need to huniliate them. I would also be concerned that the head teacher said "You must of", instead of "You must have".

undaunted

cobbingstones wrote: »

Just to clarify I told the Gov the issue that I wanted to be resolved. I did not mention that she dismissed me so to speak in the playground.

If you're saying (and sure) the Head rang you before having been spoken to by the Governor (personally I'd have told her I'd done so in that circumsatnce) & the Governor has said they'll address it I can't see that you need do anything further until they respond to you.

I'm not sure whether you're right though as quite why a Head would just walk off & then ring you without prompting rather than decide you needed to move somewhere more discreet than the playground or say they would ring or make an appointment I don't know.

Sambucus_Nigra

cobbingstones wrote: »

Hello

During the last week of term I decided to speak to the Head concerning some information that I had been given concerning a member of her staff (by another member of her staff) that it was in her best interests to know asap. I approached her on the playground and asked to speak to her about a confidential issue. She told me to talk to her there and then as she was busy all morning. I explained briefly what the issue was and she just walked off! I then proceeded to talk to a school Gov who reassured me that she would take it further.

Later in the morning I received a call from her. Here are some of the phases she used;

"You where very brave to come and see me this morning"

"You must of felt very small when I walked away from you"

etc etc basically she spoke to me like I was a child. I'm still so upset over it. I do not have a lot of confidence but this really knocked what bit I have. She does not speak to other parents that this at all.

So I would like some advice on what to say to her on our return to school? I have to challenge this! (Although she is very scary)
Thank you in advance

Perhaps make an appt and tell her that what she said belittled you and you have been angry all summer and next time, if a parent says they need a word about a confidential issue then take heed and do something about it rather than walk away.

Why do you think dragging it up again will do anything for your confidence?

What would you need her to do for you to get your confidence back?

What if you just imagine she does whatever it is you need her to do - do you think this would get your confidence back for you?