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Real-life MMD: Should I let flatmate subsidise me?

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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I let flatmate subsidise me?
My flatmate and I want to move, but he can afford £200pcm more than me. He’s offered to pay more for a decent location, but I’m worried that he’ll start expecting me to do more of the household chores as compensation. Should I have faith in his kind offer or risk going our separate ways?
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My flatmate and I want to move, but he can afford £200pcm more than me. He’s offered to pay more for a decent location, but I’m worried that he’ll start expecting me to do more of the household chores as compensation. Should I have faith in his kind offer or risk going our separate ways?
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As much as your flatmate is feeling generous now, the resentment will only grow over time.
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Talk it through. It may be that he simply thinks it is worth the extra to have a reliable friend in a house but, even if he gets the better room or does less washing up, it sounds like you too will be getting a reliable flatmate.
If you have seen some options then you will know if there is a difference in bedrooms, eg, an ensuite would expect to pay much more for, as long as you would be happy with the room you have.
Also look at it another way, again I only speak form London living, I live in a great location and do pay more than friends who live further out, but then you factor in travel costs saved we are on a par and I benefit from my travel time halved too.
Look at any savings you may make from moving in that sense to enable you to transfer it to rent. Also, what benefit will you gain from the location that is better, do you want to move to that location?
If the flat didn't get him a better room by paying £200 (ie bigger, ensuite etc) then I'd be ok with a few more agreed chores if the benefits of living there outweighed it, I mean unless you live in a house that Kim and Aggie would be horrified by then doing a bit more cleaning isn't really a bad thing.
It's his privilege to choose to pay more than you .
This does not mean you have to be his slave - keep chores evenly loaded .
He gets a flatmate he knows and obviously must like , you both get a better home - good all round !
I think that in order to avoid possible resentment in the future, it would be good for the two of you to agree the terms of this arrangement, to which you could refer in the future if needed.
I believe if one of you is paying more, he should have some advantage, that is agreed in advance. But that is me, your flat mate could have a different stance.
If your flat mate insists that he doesn't mind and is happy to pay more than you just because he can afford it - this is also a term, which needs to be worded clear, so there are no unspoken expectations from you.
You could agree to review it at some point.
But as, say, a monthly treat for the extra monies - maybe cooking a nice meal for you both (the extra ingredients shouldnt add up to much), as a sign of appreciation; that way it also gives you time to sit together & review the situation each month.
You never know - you may in the future get a pay rise, and be able to meet your flatmates extra monies - that way you could have a "treat/emergency fund" which you could share between you periodically if not needed.
I personally don't think I could let someone else subsidise me as I would always feel like they held something over me, and I always like to keep money out of friendships.
Alternatively, is there anything else you can contribute to the flat - eg. is all the furniture yours? That would help justify him paying the larger share.
Whatever you decide, I would definitely make sure it was clearly worded in an agreement, and he has first dibs on the bedrooms - but you have no obligation to start doing all the housework!