Have u ever regretted telling sm1 bout MSE?

jet77

Hi,

I've told my Dad about how helpful these forums are and know that he does visit them sometimes. DFW has helped me through very hard patches in my life and I've found the support and advice I've been given invaluable, but now I'm really upset and feel like I can't post what I want to incase he reads it

smilealot

Sorry to hear you feel that way jet77. I know it won't be an ideal solution, as you have been on here for a long time as jet77, but perhaps you could consider changing your username? Don't post too many details in your signature.

If you are used to chatting to certain people on here and want them to know who you are, you could always PM them to let them know.

Your anonymity is very precious because sometimes it's good to escape and be able to talk to people who won't know who you are.

Give it some thought - whatever you do, don't disappear, you'd be missed!

smilealot :rolleyes2

mountainofdebt

and I do sometimes wonder if those that I've told come onto this forum and put two and two together about my posts.

The thing is you've told your dad you visit these forums and he may put two and two together but I wouldn't worry - he may not even see your posts!

GirlRacer_2

Well said smilealot, this site is brill because we can all talk about the good and bad times of becoming debt-free. I tell the people on here lots of things that I don't tell my friends and family. I'm a closet debtor and nobody knows about it (apart from the few hundred people on here).

If your unable to change your username maybe you could re-register under a different username and as smilealot suggested you could PM any people on here that your particularly friendly with.

Good luck whatever you decide

ooohdear

looking at your sig, id hope your dad would be proud that you're obviously commited to sorting out your finances...

but then my mum has no idea of the debt im in, and my ability to seem to motivate myself to clear it!!

jet77

Thank you soooo much for your replies. Smilealot has got me in tears. I've hardly been on here for the last month n I didn't realise how much I've missed u all. God I'm turning into a soppy old cow ha ha. I've got a very emotional day 2moro and I'm not sure how it will turn out but instead of sitting here worrying all night uv made me remember that I've got friends on here - which may seem strange as I've never met any of u but u know what I mean.....

I've only just changed my username because it contained the initial of my ex in it. It seems cheeky to ask again so soon - what do u think?

beanielou

Think you are doing so well.
Only £74 to go & you will be under £3000.
There is no harm in asking about changing your user name- the worst is they will say no!

finallydebtfree!!

hiya jet! wondered where you had been! nice to see you back you are doing so well!

I sometimes worry that my family will read what I have written as we share the computer and I am permanently signed in, although I shouldnt worry to much as they can only just turn the computer on by themselves

jet77

hi fdf hope all's well x

I'm under 3k!!!!!!!!!!! :j :j :j :j :j :j
I've just updated my sig and despite thinking I've been doing terribly because I haven't been on here and haven't been monitoring what I've been spending (and the retail therapy )

Maybe things aren't so bad after all

However theres still 2moro to go and my stomach's churning already...

jet77

I have also found out that I may now be entitled to some housing benefit because I'm renting but I do own a property that I had to move from which I'm renting out so I'm not 100% sure. But anyway, I have got the application form, filled it in and hv got together all the squillions of paperwork bits they ask for (apart from my feb pay slip which I can't find) so I will take it in on Monday.

finallydebtfree!!

well done you! :T you are so close to clearing that halifax credit card! that will be one more completely gone!

good luck with tomorrow and whatever happens you know we will all be here with support!