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Butti's Journey: A matter of loaf and death

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  • Butti
    Butti Posts: 5,014 Forumite
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    edited 22 November 2017 at 12:40AM
    Don't know.
    I seem to have reached that moment when alcohol consumption becomes an existential crisis

    My brother has messaged with some health concerns about my dad.
    The problem is my brother doesn't know that my dad has an issue with women. My brother is currently expressing concern over my dad's condition in hospital. I am struggling with this. Primarily the reason I am struggling with this is because aged 7 he trapped me in the bathroom with him, forced me to get undressed infront of him and made me sit in a freezing cold bath. I really struggle to feel sympathy with my dad.
    Seriously, who does this to their daughter?
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  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Butti wrote: »
    Don't know.
    I seem to have reached that moment when alcohol consumption becomes an existential crisis

    Whoa there! Whose existence? :(
    Butti wrote: »
    My brother has messaged with some health concerns about my dad.
    The problem is my brother doesn't know that my dad has an issue with women. My brother is currently expressing concern over my dad's condition in hospital. I am struggling with this. Primarily the reason I am struggling with this is because aged 7 he trapped me in the bathroom with him, forced me to get undressed infront of him and made me sit in a freezing cold bath. I really struggle to feel sympathy with my dad.

    Your brother is expressing concern. Presumably because he's concerned. You don't have to be sympathetic. Nor concerned. Are you feeling guilt because you're not sympathetic?

    Stop that. :naughty:
    Butti wrote: »
    Seriously, who does this to their daughter?

    Ethical pygmies. Those who are such small people (as in opposite to greatness) that they must feel the rush of power over someone, even if that someone is helpless and 7.

    :grouphug:

    But it's not just that. It's that he has not made any attempt since then to atone.

    You're only related to him. That's not a choice you made.
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  • beanielou
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    Have to agree with Z on all fronts.
    Does your bhow it has rother have a clue what happened when you were 7 & how it has affected you?
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  • Butti
    Butti Posts: 5,014 Forumite
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    Mortgage has made it under £70k. :j:j:j:j:j
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  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Butti wrote: »
    Mortgage has made it under £70k. :j:j:j:j:j

    So you've managed to persuade your mortgage to start sixty-nine'ing?

    :T:T
    Go Butti!!!

    :T:T


    :rotfl:
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • Butti
    Butti Posts: 5,014 Forumite
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    Good isn't it!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. DEBT FREE APRIL 2021.
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'         48% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Butti wrote: »
    Good isn't it!

    What's the target for next year?
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
  • Butti
    Butti Posts: 5,014 Forumite
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    Overpay by £1k lump and continue with £750 a month which is an overpayment of £260 a month. Interest is now about £210 a month.

    Have to get Cuba out of the way and then focus.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. DEBT FREE APRIL 2021.
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'         48% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • Butti
    Butti Posts: 5,014 Forumite
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    Overpay by £1k lump and continue with £750 a month which is an overpayment of £260 a month. Interest is now about £210 a month.

    Have to get Cuba out of the way and then focus.

    In other news I have told both brothers. Both believed me ( which was very important) and both are sympathetic.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. DEBT FREE APRIL 2021.
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'         48% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Butti wrote: »
    Overpay by £1k lump and continue with £750 a month which is an overpayment of £260 a month.

    Well, that's significantly better than what I'm doing right now. :o
    Butti wrote: »
    Interest is now about £210 a month.

    Have to get Cuba out of the way and then focus.

    Make sure you enjoy Cuba - or there will be trouble... :p
    Butti wrote: »
    In other news I have told both brothers. Both believed me ( which was very important) and both are sympathetic.

    :T:T

    Although it shouldn't be, I bet that's a relief for you.
    "Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
    "We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
    "Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky."     OMD 'Julia's Song'
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