Want to move in with partner but scared I'll lose housing benefit

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merlin68 wrote: »

Nobody gets a council flat unless they are literally homeless and i doubt the council would rehouse a single man earning 20k. Just because his on the list doesn't mean anything. If you want a house then you have to not leave your house at the end of the tenancy and wait for the baliffs to tip you out otherwise you will have made your self homeless and they won't rehouse you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hfYJsQAhl0

heartbreak_star

Meagre earnings of £20k? MEAGRE?? I'd LOVE to be earning that!!

HBS x

MiddyMum

What is with all the rudeness, why cant people answer the questons and leave it at that. If you have nothing nice to say, leave the OP alone.

glasgowdan

Middymum can't you see why people are so irked? Someone who can't take responsibility for their own life and want to sponge off the rest of us as long as they can?

chris1973

On a common sense level, my advice to anybody (in any financial situation) would be to make sure that both parties are ready to move to a more serious level of personal commitment within the relationship before moving in together.

The very fact that you seem to be putting Housing Benefit before a (hopefully) lifelong commitment and your future long term happiness together, would perhaps suggest that the relationship currently isn't all that strong, because those destined to have their futures intertwined would do it and make it work regardless of financial hardships and wouldn't need to ask this question.

Non of this is being 'nasty', as the whole HB vs Relationship is the crux of the OP's question. I'm just daring to suggest that perhaps priorities outside of the group hugging of the forum should accurately reflect the harshness frequently encountered out there in real life!.

No if's, buts or group hugs required.

Not rudeness but stark common sense, if you can't handle that, then go test your browsers 'back' button!.

So my advice - Nah, seriously, give it a few more years and carry on as you are, and when HB isn't a factor in and no longer overrides the strength and depth of the relationship then reconsider.

I can't believe that society has reached a stage where the decision around moving on in a relationship frequently hinges entirely on what they can or can't claim. Perhaps in future, cupid should be replaced by a bank manager and valentines cards should contain £ signs instead of lovehearts??.

Pollycat

MiddyMum wrote: »

What is with all the rudeness, why cant people answer the questons and leave it at that. If you have nothing nice to say, leave the OP alone.

On this board it's not so much about being nice, it's about giving advice on benefits.

The OP is asking for advice on how she can retain her housing benefit whilst still being able to live with the man she loves (but maybe not as much as she loves her housing benefit).

I'm usually the first one to ask people not to be so nasty and judgemental of posters but in this case, I tend to agree with most of the sentiments, even though I wouldn't have posted them myself.

MiddyMum

Oh it looks like I have been " told " over the internet. Ill go crawl back from wherever I have come from.

princessdon

It's not just that they were in parts asking about fraud. How to be married and get benefits etc despute being a couple. It really wasn't on!

Pollycat

MiddyMum wrote: »

Oh it looks like I have been " told " over the internet. Ill go crawl back from wherever I have come from.

That's not necessary at all.

I could see where you were coming from about being nice, but as I said in my earlier post, when someone is trying to 'work the system' to keep benefits to the extent of getting married but living separately, that is not what this board is intended for.

PippaGirl_2

I have to agree with much of Chris's post. My take on the question is that this relationship is not really serious. If he was serious about this relationship he would want to accept full responsibility for supporting the OP and her child, and if the HB is more important that the relationship then the relationship is way down the line in importance for the OP too.