Getting time off work for my wedding

fawny

Really hope you get it sorted out katie.

Idiophreak

If I had any advice, it would be to think a bit about how you're selling this. Sorry to say it, but based on your posts here, it sounds very much like both days off are "nice to haves" and, mainly, just so you can make your wedding into a nice long weekend affair. Which is fine, and understandable, but if you're going to speak to the head, I'd try and come up with something that you *need* to do on these days.

I'd see it as possible that "we've a lot of prep to do for the wedding" might wash for the Friday, but asking for a whole day off on the Monday to go lay some flowers seems like a bit of a stretch to me...

Silaqui

You get married on the Saturday. You will have just had six weeks off. I fully agree with your headteacher - I'm sorry but that's just the way things are in education - you get LOADS of holidays - you just can't pick and choose when you take them. I've been a teacher for 7 years now and it's just the way it is.

Why not lay the flowers on the Sunday? You will have spent 6 weeks with your fiance just before the wedding, and 6 weeks after the wedding you'll get another week off.

To be honest I think you are on a hiding to nothing putting something like this on here when lots of people have to scrimp for enough holiday to have their wedding and honeymoon. You didn't even bother to get it in writing at the earliest possible opportunity? Surely that's just courtesy to ensure that your employer knows where they stand?

I think if your head is good enough to give you these days off (and yes, it will be an inconvenience for her, and the teacher you work with, and the students you should be with) the you will probably have to expect them unpaid - and I would seriously think about how it will come across to your new colleagues.

Sorry to be a downer and if this is not what you wanted to hear but it's quite a common view. Best of luck with the wedding prep and in your new job x

Idiophreak

Silaqui wrote: »

You will have spent 6 weeks with your fiance just before the wedding, and 6 weeks after the wedding you'll get another week off.

To be honest I think you are on a hiding to nothing putting something like this on here when lots of people have to scrimp for enough holiday to have their wedding and honeymoon.

To be fair, just because OP's had six weeks off, that doesn't mean her OH has...and it may well be easier for him to get the couple of odd days off...

And I can certainly understand wanting to spread the thing out, take some time over it and make it into more of an event...But then, I paid through the nose to have my wedding in the summer holidays so the wife (teacher) and I could spend more time together...

katie1812

Well thanks to you all for giving your opinions.. Some written far more rudely than others if I'm honest... I get this is a place for opinions, so I will be having mine too!

But I have been given the Monday off and the Friday but I have offered to go in the Friday morning. Every school is different and I am lucky to have an understanding head teacher.

For whoever said about working in a school. At the time of booking the wedding I was still at uni, I didn't have a job lined up and didn't really know where I was going to work, it's quite difficult to look into the future 18 months in advance... And it's very easy to say "you should have got it in writing" yes I probably should have but it was said in a general conversation, and like they say, hindsight is a wonderful thing.

I realise I have the rest of my life to spend with my husband, but as the head has said, it's my wedding, you get married once, and I would hate to look back on it and wish it had been different. Some people go on a week, two weeks, or more, honeymoon, if I'd have booked that before I'd have been taking the pi55 at work wouldn't I, but we have decided not to go on honeymoon cos as far as I'm concerned it's taking the mick big time. My fianc! does not have six weeks off before the wedding, he doesn't work in a school and with his holiday allowance he has a week in the summer at the most, two days for the wedding and two days in the October half term. No offence but that is six weeks after the wedding...

My colleagues are all very excited about my wedding, and to be honest if some people don't like it and then have something against me, I really couldn't give two hoots. It's my wedding, it's been given the okay by the head and I won't be there for the rest of my life and they will forget about it after a couple of weeks!

As for the children settling in, they already know each other. All that's changing is the teacher. There are people to cover me, and if I was ill that day they would have to cover me. Like I said every school is different.

For those that were supportive, thank you and I wish you a nice weekend

Turtle

:TGlad you got it sorted Katie! Have a fab time

katie1812

Thank you x

Tiara_2

So pleased your leave has been approved

daisiegg

Glad you've got it sorted, there are some nice heads out there obviously You will have a lovely weekend!

katie1812

Thank you x x