weird vibes at work

Riversong

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Gigglepig

I'd just ignore it and focus on being professional at work.

Riversong

Good advice, it does seem the more work focussed i am the worse she gets. Do you think maybe shes struggling and needs more help?

londonsurrey

Riversong wrote: »

B didnt even look at me and when i addressed her she mumbled that she already knew it all.

"Excellent. I'll pass all your feedback on to the manager". (subtext = including you saying you already knew it all)
And breeze off cheerily.

Tropez

I'd ignore her. If her dislike towards you causes issues within the team that you feel have a negative impact on the ability of you all to work effectively and to the standards required by your job then make a complaint to your HR rep or whoever is best suited to deal with such matters. Other than that, continue what you are doing and act professionally and courteously.

There could be a number of reasons she doesn't like you - perhaps she feels you're better than her at the job and it makes her insecure, perhaps she feels that you're more popular and she's jealous, perhaps it is some really petty thing like she thinks you are prettier, or you wear a more expensive perfume and perhaps she is just a drama queen/jerk who is only content in life when they have someone to scowl at.

Whatever the reason, if she has a problem with you it is her problem. If she wants help, she should be adult enough to ask for it. If she won't tell you what's wrong then, sorry to sound cold, sod her.

Riversong

I tend to agree at first it bothered me, but the more i think about it the less i actually care.

meer53

Does anyone else have an issue with her ?

Riversong

Someone else on the team has noticed her behavior and doesn't like her much for it.

ognum

I think you may find that she feels inferior to you, she is trying to rule by dividing.

It's a difficult position to come into a group that has already formed so she has selected one person to make a best friend, this is what many people do when entering an already formed group.

I suggest you take a deep breath and just treat her normally, make a point of including her and asking her opinion. It is hard when someone is persistently nice to be unpleasant.

Just observe what is going on.

Barneysmom

Ignore the behaviour, just be professional.

She needs to get over herself.

onlyroz

Maybe she is just bad with people? In my previous job I was certain, for the first six months, that my team-leader despised me. Then it clicked that he was just like that with everybody and after a while I started to get on much better with him. Some people just don't have many "people skills", largely because they lack in confidence - I'd say give it a few more months and do your best to be friendly, and see how it goes.

In addition to the above - you're at work and you're not there to make friends and socialise. If that happens then great - but the most important thing is to get the job done in a professional manner.