pregnancy after sterilisation??

mrsrwallace

recently heard of a lady who used to work at my place of employment who had twins and an older son then got sterilised. it now transpires the twins are 13 and she is pregnant again. It put the wind up a few of my colleagues i can tell you and got us wondering how we'd deal with it if that happened to us! has it ever happened anyone here and how did you cope??

Jinx

Ooooh I'd be very very shocked!! But given I am happily married for the second time I would keep it - although I am now 38 so would be an 'old' mum I think. My daughter who is now 20 would die a death!!! LOL Hopeful that 8 years later means mine worked...

As an aside I do remember the Consultant who advised re my sterilisation shocking me - my GP had said to consider it permanent, non-reversable etc and the Consultant said 1 in 200 fail.....:eek:

meritaten

I think I would consider it either a Gift or Payback! in other words, it was meant to be. I have known a child arrive after a vasectomy and after the initial shock was welcomed and is viewed as a Miracle child.

System

I had to sign a form before i had my op saying although it was considered final, there was still a risk of an unwanted pregnancy and i had to sign to say i wouldnt sue the surgeon if i did get pregnant so i suggested he both tied and cauterised my fallopian tubes.:D

I'm too old to have kids now and i'm going through the menopause but if by any chance i did get pregnant and the baby was healthy I'd keep it providing the doctor said it was safe for me to do so.

newcook

I dont know any women who have been steralized but I've heard it depends on if the tubes are tied, clipped or quarterized.

my friends hubby had a vasectomy after they had thier 4th (planned) child but they had to use another form of protection for about a year as some of his 'boys' were still showing in the samples

FBaby

Maybe she had IVF. Many regret their decision to be sterilised. We don't know what goes on behind close doors.

pinkmami

I was sterilised a few yrs ago. Best thing I ever did. If it was to fail there would be no hesitation in my decision of not carrying on with the pregnancy. We decided enough was enough & I'm getting my career back on track & family life is great now.

I truly feel for those couples who face this dilema.

rachbc

I'm considering sterilization after a good friend got pregnant with a coil (my current contraception). Though it seems the risks are similar! If I got pregnant now due to contraceptive failure I would have no qualms about having a termination

mrsrwallace

thanks for the replies, it did make us wonder how we would react as the lady in question is early 40s and along with that comes the greater health implications for mum and baby and yes you are right that the other children would have strong opinions on it. we never really know how people feel about these situations and maybe she is devastated or she could be completely delighted. i don't know her full circumstances and wouldn't feel it my business to intrude but as i previously worked with her i will possibly bump into her somewhere and what do i say? congrats or what as it could be the worst news she ever got? if it was me i'd be torn with what to do for the best, i suppose you don't really have a clue til you find yourself in that situation and are forced to make a decision.

Nicki

I had my last child when I was 40 with an 8 year gap between him and my next child. The child was very much planned, the length of the gap not so. It was annoying when pregnant to be asked "is it congratulations?" or "was it planned". If you don't know her well enough to know whether this is welcome news, then I'd say nothing initially and take your cue from her when she speaks of the pregnancy. But if she has decided to continue with the pregnancy, I'd say even if it was a shock or surprise initially, it's unlikely she now thinks of it as the worst news she ever got. Some of us strange people actually like having families and young babies you know

NAR

Judi wrote: »

but if by any chance i did get pregnant and the baby was healthy I'd keep it providing the doctor said it was safe for me to do so.

And we would all live happily ever after. :smileyhea