Getting married in a youth hostel

browneyedbazzi

I think this sounds like a great idea. For my wedding I hired out a large country house and a lot of the people attending stayed there for the week with us so it was like a lovely holiday with a wedding in the middle (the house was licensed so the wedding actually took place there too). Although the house we had did have double beds and ensuite bathrooms for the most part, I don't think many of my guests would have minded staying in bunks for a couple of nights - most of them would have seen it as being a bit of fun and nostalgic of school trips etc.

There were a few people who didn't want to stay the whole time or weren't comfortable staying with people they didn't know so we just gave them details of nearby bed and breakfasts and told them the door to the house was open so they could come and go as they liked.

I hope it all goes well whatever you decide to do!

rachbc

my freind went to a weding in Yh recently and said it was fab - amazing old building in beautiful countryside - free bar as the B&G provided all the booze bought sale or retrun!! Whats not to love. Find one wtih B&B's nearby for those who don't want to share

cte1111

TBH it would be my idea of hell and I would be dreading it, if I were invited to a wedding like this.

Sorry I know it's not what you want to hear but as a light sleeper, with children who can find it hard to get to sleep at the best of times, I know that I would get hardly any sleep and then feel rotten the next day. But if it was a close friend or relative I would feel that I had no option but to go along with the plan so as not to be a spoil sport.

duchy

Yes but if you were offered the option of staying in a B&B locally instead with no pressure -you'd over-ride your MSE side and take that surely ?

I think it needs presenting carefully so anyone who doesn't want to stay on-site is clear there are other options if they choose. Frankly one or two nights of togetherness for me would be my limit anyway and I'd appreciate knowing I was welcome to choose another option if I wanted.

I think it's a FAB idea though

You could do all sorts of fun extra things too like the day before or after the wedding have extra activities -like seperate "Grooms Walk" and "Bride's ramble" or a scavenger hunt -awww I wanna come !!!! lol

mum2one

I think its am amazing idea,check the layout of the rooms and have a rough plan of who could stay where and what the bathroom situ would be like, but also include local b+bs.
its your wedding, and I think its really nice of you to think of others as well.
xxx

Bailey_Bear_2

cte1111 wrote: »

TBH it would be my idea of hell and I would be dreading it, if I were invited to a wedding like this.

Sorry I know it's not what you want to hear but as a light sleeper, with children who can find it hard to get to sleep at the best of times, I know that I would get hardly any sleep and then feel rotten the next day. But if it was a close friend or relative I would feel that I had no option but to go along with the plan so as not to be a spoil sport.

No, this is exactly what I DO want to hear. If you were invited, told you were welcome to stay, but offered information on local B&B's how would you feel then? Or would you feel excluded if you were told you could attend the ceremony and dinner, but leave early?

I'm so pleased that some of you think it's a fab idea! It's defiantly given me more confidence

nightsky224

We looked at a wedding at Hartington Hall (A youth Hostel) it’sa lovely place. We have decided its not for us as we wanted the whole place exclusivelyfor us and it worked out above our budget.



Any who at Hartington they also have family rooms and thenthere is also a separate bit with a kitchen/lounge and two twin rooms (this iswhere 2 sets of grandparents we going to sleep – could be ideal for yourparents in law)

Nan63

The youth hostel is not my cup of tea either but it is YOUR wedding and if that is what you want, then go for it. I am sure most of your family and friends know you well enough to know that you would come up with something different and original so you don't want to let them down do you? Advise your guests of alternatives ie B&B's, Premier Inns etc by all means but go with what YOU want.

I followed my own advice 14 years ago as my wedding was on 31st October, yes Halloween and yes, my wedding was themed accordingly including my black and red wedding dress! Many friends and family thought I had lost the plot but it turned out fantastic and I wouldn't change a thing if I did it all over again!

cte1111

Bailey_Bear wrote: »

No, this is exactly what I DO want to hear. If you were invited, told you were welcome to stay, but offered information on local B&B's how would you feel then? Or would you feel excluded if you were told you could attend the ceremony and dinner, but leave early?

I'm so pleased that some of you think it's a fab idea! It's defiantly given me more confidence

I'd go to the ceremony and dinner then go home I expect. As long as you do it in a way that people who aren't into the youth hostel idea aren't made to feel party poopers, then I think that's great.

NB don't think it's necessarily about age, some of my parents' friends stay in youth hostels regularly and they are approaching 70 so I think it just depends on whether you can cope with / enjoy communal living rather than age.

Hope it works out for you and your fiancee.

claire16c

I dont think its necessarily an age thing, just a personal thing. Im 28 and I couldnt think of anything worse, let alone for a wedding. I went backpacking for 8 months, and didnt even stay in dorm rooms then, me and my husband had private rooms all the time when we stayed in hostels- occasionally - as in less than the numbers of fingers on my hand, we stayed somewhere where we couldnt get a private with an en-suite, and had to share a bathroom, which we did either to save money or because there was literally no other rooms. And I did not like those nights! (Especially the one where I had an upset stomach and had to leg it across a field to the mixed sex loos in the middle of the night in the pitch black hoping to god I wouldnt crash into the washing line lol! Funny now but not at the time..)

For me sleeping in a dorm room = other people farting, burping, people seeing me without make up, in my nightwear, people getting up to go to the loo etc - and I wouldnt want to see a lot of people in my family like that thanks!

Id still come to the wedding though, Id just drive home or stay somewhere nearby.

The only problem though is what if a large percentage of your guests dont stay - then it would kinda make it pointless, so Id perhaps ask around first before you book it.