make do and mend for tougher times

mardatha

Nuttyp, lol tell me about it re small villages and noseyness ! LOL I lived in a village before this one and it was awful. I used to say going to the shop was like being grilled by the Gestapo. In the end I was reduced to drama queening like hell and going very OTT. If they asked for the 5000th time if I missed the partying and shops of Edinburgh I would clap my hand to my forehead and scream "WHAT? NO PARTIES HERE?? OH NOOOO" ! Then they decided I was mad and left me in peace

danetastic

Hahahaha I moved away from Edinburgh a few years ago and don't regret doing so . Love where I am now - nice and quiet and I was never a one for clubbing anyway . Need to remember your response next time I'm asked

kidcat

Fuddle - stop take a breath and focus hun, you have a lovely family and thats the most important thing , you know that you told us If considering moving in with your mother you need to have very clear guidelines and rules, the most important of which is that you will not interfere or comment on each others lives, yes your mother drinks and its too much - but commenting on it will cause war. By same token you live your way and she may well not like it - tough she cant comment either.
If you can manage to get clear rules in and stick to them then it really is easy saving.
Saying that when we were being evicted from house before last we were close to being homeless and my mum offered to take us in (small 3 bed house - no space even for spare bed) I refused with no thought of accepting - I know we would kill each other in the first day, and if I didnt kill her OH would!!

Have been really naughty, popped into Mr T to have my glasses repaired and they have a beauty salon, lady handed me a leaflet as I walked past, they were empty, put glasses in and had to wait so popped back to salon and had a manicure:o:o £10 and they actually look half decent. But then did something much worse - :eek:bought new lipstick in matching shade - :o:o:o I mean what am I thinking I have definitely gone doolally. I have never paid to have my nails done and certainly never matched my lipstick - to be honest I hardly wear the stuff, I just have time for all the nice girly stuff.

Please dont throw me out for non OS ways

Possession

LOL Kidcat you will look lovely tonight!
Fuddle I guess you just have to weigh up if the sacrifice is worth it. Imagine the very worst, and weigh it up against the money you could save.
If nothing else, it's positive that your mum is willing to do that for you. : )

savingqueen

[QUOTE=maryb;56450383]I really should refresh before I post!!

With the bits of hair, some talcum powder will make it easy to just brush them away (and he'll smell as sweet as a baby:D)[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Chipps;56450725]I used to do our boys' hair too. I never bought a cape - used to have a special dress code for them at hairdressing time.... underpants!
Then sent them straight off upstairs for a shower afterwards[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=ginnyknit;56451383]SQ have you got a nylon shopping bag? cut the handles off cut up the sides and make into a kind of poncho with head hole. Hairdressers capes are nylon so it should work. [/QUOTE]

Thanks for all the haircutting help. I will check out pound shops (forgot who suggested but thanks) and if not will fashion one out of an old bag or similar. Also use some talc too.

The underpants idea is a good one but DS1 doesn't want me seeing him in his undies now he is 8 (though ok to see him naked in the bath... kids eh?!) Also our shower packed up ages and not been able to replace yet so can't do that either. They always have a bath after a haircut though.

Byatt - sorry to hear about re-homing your fish but sounds like you have good reasons for doing so and fish will be happy enough in a new home.

Lovely bright and sunny day with gentle breeze so am taking advantage with washing out. I am so grateful for days like this when I can get the laundry at least half dry outdoors.

Feeling quite low today and on verge of tears at times but know its mainly down to couple of nights of poor sleep and the dreaded PMT. Things that I feel sad or anxious are magnified at the moment but I'm fighting against it - giving myself little pep talks, thinking of everything good in my life (there's a big list ) and planning little treats for us as a family and for myself - trying to plan things to do rather than buy. School hols/Halloween/Bonfire night coming up so planning how to have some thrifty fun amongst other things. I think of how some of you or maybe everyone here and people elsewhere are struggling with all sorts of things and I feel like I have nothing to feel down about and I know I am very lucky in lots of ways.

I saw a couple with a little tot in a pushchair in a SM today. Tot had been walking and then did something very minor to annoy the dad. He just grabbed her by the arm and swung her by the arm into the pushchair. It obviously hurt her and she was sobbing poor mite. How I stopped myself saying something or clouting that man today I really don't know.

DH has been at college after work last 2 nights so hardly seen him and forgot it was Friday today (not a college night) and thought how I would have loved to spent the evening on the sofa with him and just realised that I can! :j

off to have some soup and then cleaning/tidying before school run- DS1 has a friend over who hasn't been to ours before and his mum (who is fab) is their class TA. I know I shouldn't mind but I want the place looking semi-decent.

sq:)

savingqueen

kidcat - GOOD FOR YOU! :T There is no point being OS 100% of time and never reaping any rewards is there now? We have to look after ourselves and a beauty treat can be a big boost to self-confidence and self-esteem. Well done glamour puss

sq:)

Byatt

Well, took fishies to Pets@Home, who were absolutely lovely. My phone call from yesterday had been passed onto the staff, and they all gathered around the bucket with the fish in and oohhhd and aaahhd. My 8 year old gold fish is quite large, so they were very impressed. They put her in a tank of her own ready for adoption and were so kind and I was so impressed. They also asked for her name.

I hope she has a long and happy life with her new owner.

fuddle

lol my mam doesn't even know :rotfl: It's an idea in my head. To be honest, the worst is DH and I split up under the pressure of living with her, and it would be pressure. I can't stand her here over night let alone months in her space.

It's one of those things that when you're in the 'I have to make sacrifices for my families future' mode that you feel you should try every avenue. Even if mam agreed I think it would a step too far for my sanity let alone my marriage or family harmony. It would also mean moving the girls' schooling.

I've spoken to DH on the way home from work and we've decided to go OS more than ever before. It's the only way we can save. :cool: He's even said 'teach him' :rotfl: I said, don't worry hin, I know it all for both of us :rotfl: That's where you all come in.

I'm a patient person, I can and will work for the better things in life, or at least the security and feeling of control... I am just struggling with the here and now. DH is seriously considering paying someone to fix the toilet... It just galls me to have to do it.

mardatha

Fuddle - don't move in with your mum. Just don't. It won't work!

VJsmum

fuddle wrote: »

lol my mam doesn't even know :rotfl: It's an idea in my head. To be honest, the worst is DH and I split up under the pressure of living with her, and it would be pressure. I can't stand her here over night let alone months in her space.

It's one of those things that when you're in the 'I have to make sacrifices for my families future' mode that you feel you should try every avenue. Even if mam agreed I think it would a step too far for my sanity let alone my marriage or family harmony. It would also mean moving the girls' schooling.

I've spoken to DH on the way home from work and we've decided to go OS more than ever before. It's the only way we can save. :cool: He's even said 'teach him' :rotfl: I said, don't worry hin, I know it all for both of us :rotfl: That's where you all come in.

I'm a patient person, I can and will work for the better things in life, or at least the security and feeling of control... I am just struggling with the here and now. DH is seriously considering paying someone to fix the toilet... It just galls me to have to do it.

Fuddle - it might just need a new ballcock. They cost less than a fiver from a diy shop and aren't hard to swop - I've done two. There will be something on youtube to show you. it is worth a try before paying for a plumber.