make do and mend for tougher times

meme30

Possession wrote: »

Happy (possible) birthday Spiky!
Having internet and download nightmares here and going into brain melt. But DH has a 2nd interview which is a good thing, right?!

Oh! will keep fingers crossed for him!

Stiltwalker and Byatt I see what you are saying so, not so much of an option then.:(

PipsMum:- My DD had twins at 35 weeks, one was 6lb 4oz and the other was 4lb 14oz. Both fine, DD had been given a steroid injection to strengthen their lungs. Neither needed oxygen, special care or anything. DGS's head was smaller than a tennis ball but he is a tough little nut. He always felt the cold a bit more than his sister, bless him he used to cry when we pushed the trolley down the chiller aisle in A*da!:)

Popperwell

I do appreciate that in other parts of the country the rents, CT and other costs are greater so this will seem quite reasonable...

Wish I had the answer to the problem, I don't think our leaders have...then again politicians don't have to worry about what the majority of the public have to.

They might've before they became politicians but most forget once they are there. And some will never experience what "We" do and that is the majority of those who are in the Government at present.

Bit political that statement. But I really do try to look at things unbiasedly and even if I supported a certain party if I thought they'd got it wrong I would say so.

Shropshirelass

Hi Pops

Sorry you are feeling so down. My guess is we've all had similar feelings at one time or another. You wont always feel like this, you will be able to look back one day and think 'Thank goodness that time is over now'.

A very clever man once told me that the way to get on with your life (in my case after a sad divorce that involved loss of a whole way of life and in-laws I loved dearly) is to list the things you want, even if ever so simple, put them in order of importance, and then start looking.

In my case, it was things like having some green country available to walk in, being near public transport and a library, having a bit of garden to potter in, but my priorities would have changed now, and probably wouldnt be the same as anyone else.

Politicians are not going to help any of us. We all need to stay cool and use all our brains - and I think that has always been true.

I think its a bit soon after your loss to start acting, perhaps a decision to make would be when you are going to start, e.g. in January. In the mean time make sure you eat properly with all the vitamins you need, go out in the fresh air every day even in the rain, and look up at the sky, and do things you have always enjoyed. Good luck, we're wishing good things for you.

fuddle

D&#8517 wrote: »

WHOOP WHOOP citylink just came and the book is FABULOUS!!!!
It must have been created 'specially for us OldStylers its so spot on..:T:T:T
Everything from ploughing up the land at the start of the war through to make do and mend,foraging oh my god I'm going to have to read it all tonight I think

Bother the library, I think this is a one I wanna buy

pah when the council have you 'go live' with your info, would you share it with us?

Popperwell

Shropshirelass wrote: »

Hi Pops

Sorry you are feeling so down. My guess is we've all had similar feelings at one time or another. You wont always feel like this, you will be able to look back one day and think 'Thank goodness that time is over now'.

A very clever man once told me that the way to get on with your life (in my case after a sad divorce that involved loss of a whole way of life and in-laws I loved dearly) is to list the things you want, even if ever so simple, put them in order of importance, and then start looking.

In my case, it was things like having some green country available to walk in, being near public transport and a library, having a bit of garden to potter in, but my priorities would have changed now, and probably wouldnt be the same as anyone else.

Politicians are not going to help any of us. We all need to stay cool and use all our brains - and I think that has always been true.

I think its a bit soon after your loss to start acting, perhaps a decision to make would be when you are going to start, e.g. in January. In the mean time make sure you eat properly with all the vitamins you need, go out in the fresh air every day even in the rain, and look up at the sky, and do things you have always enjoyed. Good luck, we're wishing good things for you.

Shropshirelass,
Thank you, if I could give you a hug, I would(if you wouldn't mind)Have a virtual one

I feel I'm letting myself down and all of you. So many have problems of their own. Mine seem so little in comparison...

Unless things change soon and without warning, I had started to think, as the CAB say I do not have to put in for Mum's money yet, January sounds good for trying to see if any more information is available in the media about what is happening, whether the public likes it or not.

Whether it causes unrest on the streets...whether what's planned could be defeated in Parliament or the coaltion collapses before then?

Be great if a new government repealed the bedroom tax but bad if people have moved before they did. Anyone think that they will? No me neither...

We all come through adversity...I came through the loss my father(28 years ago)unemployment, serious illness(and that is still there in the background)but I was remarkbly strong and accepting of the situation and even now like many I just get on with it.

Popperwell

And dare I say(I loved my Mum dearly)and will always miss her and would have her back immediately if I could, I have come to terms with the situation, just lose it a bit if I think I let her down by missing something that might've resulted in her still being here and I would be angry if I thought the medical profession and Nursing home had let us down. Not bothered. I will always be bitter towards to Social Worker and District Nurse. That's another story.

And I know others who have had to deal with "Authority" have had similar feelings(though I appreciate it's wrong to tar everyone with the same brush. I must not feel guilty or beat myself up as that will just spoil the rest of the time I have and eat away at me.

Back OT I can see that the CAB are right in that if I move to a smaller property and it was cheaper I would have more money and I could use Mum's money(They said send it quickly so it's not all lost to paying rent, CT and BT)and buy furniture and things needed for the new place.

Rather than perhaps spend it on this place and then if I could not afford to stay here, leave or sell what I have purchased and have wasted Mum's money. Then again If I could afford to stay here I would.

All I need really for this place is some new curtains, carpets, a sofa and some mattresses. Then again that means Mums money would get eaten up on rent/ct and bt.

Popperwell

If I went to a new place and perhaps what I have would not fit into it. If it would it would not matter where I spend the money.

Whatever happens they are going to get quite a bit of it:(:mad:though the CAB said I can have holidays and I could buy a mobility scooter etc...but just how much can you really spend?

Pity that I don't have family that could have had a share and been mentioned in the will...now actually wishing she'd left some of it to one of her brothers(my Uncles)so I was not coming into so much. Not that it is a lot in reality.

Dare I say I am sure they would have seen that I would be ok if I was struggling but because it was all left to me its actually caused problems...

I could have been left half and he could have had half. Then my situation would not have changed.

Pity we had not got more advice at the time the will was made...You know making a will and thinking about this it is actually very fitting to the OS board.

Sad but we probably could do with a thread about how to cope after something like a bereavement.

Popperwell

Thought I better split that post up a little(can quite understand if no one adds anything to it)Sorry about that...

I really should have somehing to eat you are right...I haven't had anything yet so I will try and do something about that...

I will try and get my appetite back and christen my new wok and have a stir fry, possibly some kind of dessert afterwards and a cup of coffee...

I meant to have it yesterday and just had a cheese and tomato sandwich just because it was simple and easy to do...

fuddle

Just letting your thoughts out pops. Hope you feel lighter for thinking all that through

I could do with your input if you will. I'm saving for a kelly kettle and then an outside stove. My reason is 1) free heating of water for my cups of tea and 2) if power goes off I can basic cook meals.

I was thinking If I just got http://wildstoves.co.uk/survival-stoves-gear/vargo-stainless-steel-hexagon-wood-stove/


as it's cheaper and would do both jobs. Would it still work with twigs/dried leaves etc like the kelly kettle? Also If I stood it on a paving slab would that be ok? I have a bog standard camping kettle, would that go on the top of the hexagon thing?

Any feedback would be lovely. I would like an ozpig if I'm truthful but that's a long way off.

7_week_wonder

Popperwell wrote: »

Sad but we probably could do with a thread about how to cope after something like a bereavement.

Hi Pops,
I don't post much, but I lurk - a lot! There is this thread for the practical /administration side of things:
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/344578
Although it says spouse/partner there is a lot of stuff about parents and I read it when I was dealing with my dad's death last year. HTH